What should future (step) grandson call us

[lizanne]

I know this shouldn't be a delimma, but it is.

My son is engaged to a girl who has a young son (1 1/2yrs old). He is a beautiful boy, very well behaved and my son loves him dearly.

My son has asked that we consider him a grandchild and I have no problem with that. My husband may, but that's not the problem. Also, His grandparents on the mothers side are very supportive. They feel a child can never have too many people love him.

The question is what should he call us. He has grandparents on both his mothers side and biological father's side. He also has great grand parents who are alive. Mom-Mom, Pop-Pop, Grandpop, Grandmom, and other standard names are taken. My son and his fiance have asked me what they should call us when talking to him about us (he's doesn't speak very many words yet) and I honestly don't know. We don't have any other grandchildren yet so this is all new to me.

Any suggestions???????

 

[Bluestars]

I don't have any suggestions. Maybe your son's future wife might have a suggestion. I am glad to hear you are able to consider him as your own grandchild. That is very kind of you and will mean more to the child than you will know.

 

[scottishduffy]

My mom goes by Gammy. With no 'R' in the name it makes it different. My father i believe is using Pappy.

If you have any sort of cultural heritage you could look on the g-ma and g-pa names in the other language and use that.

 

[Hootiss]

Nana and Papa

 

[Arielx2]

I would probably do something like Nana/Grandma 'first name' or grandma 'last name'. My kids call both sets of grandparents Grandma and Grandpa. When we are talking about them we say their first name too. Even their great-grandma is just grandma 'last name'.

 

[Kathi OD]

My parents have a "step-grandchild." She was 2 when my sister and her father's relationship became serious. My parents have never been anything other than grandmom & grandpop, as that's what their other grandchildren call them. I am Aunt Kathi. My kids are her "cousins." No distinction in any way. My parents have even provided for her in their will, as equally as their "real" grandchildren. She's now 21 and my sister and her father divorced about 5 years ago. Doesn't matter. She is still part of our family. She spends the summer with my parents and her "cousins." This little boy should call you whatever you would want your other grandchildren to call you.

 

[Tinijocaro]

How about Grandma Mary and Grandpa Joe?

 

[raysnkaysmom]

Grandma (your name)... or whatever the fiance' starts calling you to him

Congrats... Kids are kids....all fun to spoil and send home

 

[MushyMushy]

What name appeals to you? Nana, Mimi, Mammaw, Granny, Grammy, etc. Even if you do pick a name out, he might make one up for you!

My mother always wanted to be plain old Grandma, but my son (first grandchild) called her Mammaw and that's what stuck for all the grandkids. She went with it.

 

[wall*e2008]

How about Grandma Mary and Grandpa Joe?

That was going to be my suggestion. That is how we did it as kids. When it was just them we might shorten it to Grandma/pa, but when we were talking about them it was Grandma <name>. There was never any confusion.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

My step-son felt comfortable with Diane's Mom and Diane's Dad... Now I know that it is not formal and many may not feel comfortable with it, but my step-son already had a grandma/pa and a Nana/Papa in his life. Both DH and his ex re-married... My mom and dad never felt slighted by the name and treated him the same and he was comfortable with them...

Just remember whatever you end up being called, it's a name!!

 

[emer95]

I would have him call you whatever you'd want any grandchild to call you. Know what I mean? It shouldn't be different because he's "step." When your son and his wife have a child, that child will call you whatever this boy calls you.

My kids call their grandparents on both sides "Grandma and Grandpa ________ (last name)."

 

[kaytieeldr]

Nana and Papa

Yeah, that was my instant thought

 

[M5ward]

I would assume that at some point you may have other (biological) grandchildren. I would determine now what you want THOSE grandchildren to call you and have your step-grandson call you that. You don't want him to have a different name for you down the road than your future grandchildren...it would emphasize the difference.
My daughter-in-law has a son from her first marriage, and he calls us Gia and Poppy just like our other grandchildren.

 

[mjkacmom]

My step-son felt comfortable with Diane's Mom and Diane's Dad... Now I know that it is not formal and many may not feel comfortable with it, but my step-son already had a grandma/pa and a Nana/Papa in his life. Both DH and his ex re-married... My mom and dad never felt slighted by the name and treated him the same and he was comfortable with them...

Just remember whatever you end up being called, it's a name!!

But how is he going to feel if the couple has other children, and those children call them grandma and grandpa, while he doesn't. I could see if he was older, but I think it's a nice gesture to treat him like a grandchild, because now he is.

 

[Justanopinion]

I know this shouldn't be a delimma, but it is.

My son is engaged to a girl who has a young son (1 1/2yrs old). He is a beautiful boy, very well behaved and my son loves him dearly.

My son has asked that we consider him a grandchild and I have no problem with that. My husband may, but that's not the problem. Also, His grandparents on the mothers side are very supportive. They feel a child can never have too many people love him.

The question is what should he call us. He has grandparents on both his mothers side and biological father's side. He also has great grand parents who are alive. Mom-Mom, Pop-Pop, Grandpop, Grandmom, and other standard names are taken. My son and his fiance have asked me what they should call us when talking to him about us (he's doesn't speak very many words yet) and I honestly don't know. We don't have any other grandchildren yet so this is all new to me.

Any suggestions???????

The bolded statement tells me that you do have a problem with it. But that's okay. As long as you are willing to grow into this role as a grandparent. If you aren't willing you need to say something now.

What did you think future grandkids might call you?

I know that I want to be Gamma.

When I got married, with step kids, step MIL was Grammy. His mom and my mom were both already Grandma. But his mother was teaching the kids that every "lady" friend she got was to be called Grandma. We did up putting a stop to that and then my mom switched to just G-ma.

There are so many possibilities. Nanny, Nannie, Nana, G-ma, Grammy, Gramma, Gammy, Gamma, Mamaw, Mammy....just pick one and stick to it.

I think it's actually harder to come up with the grandpa name...there just are as many. Grandpa, G-pa, Papaw, Pappy.

 

[veraletta]

I'm Called Grandma Lita from my step grandson. He came up with it on his own. If you have other grandchildren he will just called you what the other children call you, if you have any.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

But how is he going to feel if the couple has other children, and those children call them grandma and grandpa, while he doesn't. I could see if he was older, but I think it's a nice gesture to treat him like a grandchild, because now he is.

He never felt any different, he was comfortable with this and so were my parents... He started this when he was 3 and he is now 21. They are still Diane's Mom and well my Dad passed away....

He was right on. They are my parents. He started the name and he felt comfortable with it. My children (no disrepect meant to stepson) call my mom and dad Nana and Papa. My stepson already had a Nana/Papa. Two sets would have been confusing to him in a conversation. I have to go back and read the original OP's post to see the ages... That is what makes the difference.

 

[Tinker'n'Fun]

Okay I re-read the original post. Since your new grandson is very young, I would recommend a name that is NOT already in place and as he grows up, if he is comfortable with the name it will stick...

And since I forgot in my original post, congrats on your new grandson

 

[alexandria674]

My step-grandparent are named "Grandma Shirley and Grandpa Ben" They are a very nice couple. My Memaw (maternal grandmother) doesn't mind because she is known as "memaw"