What not to do at Disney?

[Legendofthehawk]

I was speaking of mothers with special needs. Escpecially, considering that I have a niece with downs. I am speaking of parents (especially of my nationality) that stroll their children of older ages in the park. They are no longer babies.

I hate that you took it so wrong.

Perhaps it is the way that you typed it? I saw nothing that said "with the exception of.." just a generalization of not wanting to see kids over a certain age in strollers.

It is worth pointing out as has been a key in this thread, that people can be not what they seem to be at all. Many people have been glared at having older children in strollers for this reason, or glared at because they moved ahead due to a disorder that is not apparently seen.

But even if that is not the case.

I am still curious as why it would bother you?

You are not doing the pushing, nor are you paying for their stroller rental. And yes, kids are by definition no longer babies. However many mothers with toddlers (and here in, also not babies), use a stroller because their kids do get tired walking the long parks too. You are of course entitled to your opinion and feeling the way you feel. It just don't understand why you feel so strongly when it affects you not at all.

Likely if a mother is pushing an 8 year old in a stroller, she has a good reason for it. I can't think of many eight year olds that would consent otherwise.

 

[polineedyan]

Why does it matter to you?

There are a lot of mamas on that visit disney (and some that have been on this thread) that have Special needs kids. Kids with needs that you wouldn't know by looking at them, that might need the usage of a stroller to keep them calm, etc.

They are the ones pushing them, which is the hardest job... soooo... why does it really matter?

Agreed. Even without the disability. Children are at a disadvantage in these large crowds. Non child bearing guests WANT kids in strollers, trust me..they dont even know how crazy or dangerous it COULD be without them..

 

[nancyoliver23]

Be more courteous and tolerant of others little quirks as long as they aren’t really doing you any harm. Hey, each is a different person, out on a vacation. Why ruin another’s day by pointing and commenting loudly? I hate such behavior!

 

[polineedyan]

Here's MY dont...DONT STARE AT MY WIFE..i KNOW she's hot and all, thats why I married her..dont stare..

 

[danagirl]

Agreed. Even without the disability. Children are at a disadvantage in these large crowds. Non child bearing guests WANT kids in strollers, trust me..they dont even know how crazy or dangerous it COULD be without them..

Same with a wheelchair!! I almost died pushing that thing around last year!! Have you seen that uphill stretch to the monorail from the Magic Kingdom?? Do you have any idea the momentum I have to get going to get my kids wheelchair up that thing?? (Also this is when leaving the park because we are hot and tired...)Lines aren't shorter cause it takes longer to do everything! And while most people spend their time taking in the sights and sounds of Disney I spend all my time trying not to run into the people taking in the sights and sounds of Disney! Also there is no weaving through traffic...nope I have to stand behind the slow pokes...I have rides to get to people!! Just Kidding! I walk fast in general so Disney world drives me a little crazy...but its a good kinda crazy

 

[Mom2adisneybaby]

Do NOT FART when in tight spaces or small rooms. Please oh please clinch your butt cheeks with all your might!

so funny, but so true!!

 

[Mom2adisneybaby]

Here's MY dont...DONT STARE AT MY WIFE..i KNOW she's hot and all, thats why I married her..dont stare..

I could understand, but got a question for ya....does she do things to get stared at? : daisy dukes and a low cut top, white shirt on a water ride, such tight clothing you would think they were painted on, shorts so low you see her g-string, etc. If so than maybe she should try to avoid these things next time.

 

[coalmnrswife]

A mom feeding her baby was offensive to you? Sad.

I agree! Sad!

 

[Dianatlol]

Disneylover83, thanks for being so understanding.

I don't know about other parents of kids with disabilities, but for me, when I over hear a comment like "isn't that kid too old for a stroller?" I don't think to myself "he's 8 and has autism so shut up," I think yes, he's 8 and still needs to be in a stroller. He's different than other kids and can't do what kids his age do because he's disabled, has no fear, will run off, doesn't understand or know better."

So it's not the actual comment that hurts so much it's all the thoughts that come rushing to your head that remind you that your child is different.

We used to go to Sesame Place every year but my son outgrew it. We went to Disneyland in 2008 when we had to fly from NY to CA to see an immunologist that was a specialist in another disorder my son has on top of his autism. We decided to make a vacation out of it and he loved it. So last year we brought him to Disney World and we're going again this summer. He loves it and for the most part he can blend in. He has some issues, but it's so loud there and people move so quickly that most don't hear his vocal ticks, or hear him repeat the repetitive phrase of the week that he says over and over and over 1000 times a day. (this week's phrase is "our house is 279")

We can almost forget for a week that our child is different. He's doing what other kids do, enjoying something "typical" and having fun. There's no teachers, therapists, special ed departments, or specialty doctors to deal with. Although on our trip this year we are making a diversion to see a specialist in Melbourne, but that's only a few hours of our week. We can pretend to be a typical family for a few days a year. Comments and remarks basically hit us like a 2x4 to the head and knock us off our cloud, and really put a damper on our day/week.

People should look our kids, smile, keep your comments to themselves, and hug and kiss their typical kids just a little bit tighter at night. This could have just as easily have happened to your child. We didn't ask for this, we didn't cause this, it just happened.

That was well written! I bet your Son is someone who can put a smile on anyones face!
It is hard to explain to my DD (9) why some children are different from others, she just believes thast all kids should be well and a chance to be normal. (She'll bring tears to your eyes!)

 

[bearlyanne]

Don't forget to give people in wheelchairs and scooters a little extra room! Not only can they not stop quickly, but some of the people riding in them get very nervous about being jostled or hit by other people. My MIL's back is so bad, that going over a raised crack in the ground HURTS...imagine how bad it could be to be hit from behind by someone not paying attention.

Please make my trip easier by doing this. TIA!

 

[disney_mommy]

I will never use a pool towel again at POFQ, after witnessing a woman change a child's diaper, while laying on a pool towel ( on a lounger). Plus.......wait for it...... she used the pool towel to wipe the "doo-doo" from the child's behind. Double Gross!!!!!!

I agree, totally gross - but I love your use of the word "doo-doo!"

Don't walk through a smoking area and choke and gag and wave your hand in front of your face. You have a map use it and besides you are OUTSIDE...get over it.

I choke and gag and wave my arms around because I am allergic to the smoke. I don't have the patience to map out the smoking areas and I know full well that I take a chance of walking through it. I'm not being dramatic to piss you off, the smoke just bothers me.

Don't bring that fight here.... you won't win.

Let's respect others opinions, while I don't share that opinion that does not make the poster wrong, just different. Everyone has a right to their own opinions.

The world would be so boring if we all had the same opinions about everything.

Or in the hot tubs!! We saw a young man with his hand up a young woman's bikini top at the CR hot tub. The whole main pool area was full of kids. I walked over and told him to get a room because no one wants to see that. They left a few minutes later.

I know I should've had a lifeguard do it but I'd rather have them watching the pool.

Oh good grief! I bet if that young woman's mother could have seen her, she would have been mortified!

And what's the big deal about using mugs from 2 or 3 years ago?
If we bought new mugs every year that would be about an extra $70 a year on mugs! Yes, I know it's not just for mugs, its for the drinks and I really do appreciate it. But disney's not going broke just because I don't get a new one every year, they're making thousands and thousands of $$ from me going 2-3x a yr.
If they're in good condition, I'm re-using them!

Because that's Disney's rule. If you don't follow it, you are stealing from them. And I'm pretty sure stealing is a big no-no, no matter where you are.

On the topic following through with threats, I'm asking the mods to CLOSE THIS THREAD PLEASE.

Can we seriously not have one thread on these boards where there's a battle over something. If you want to argue or "voice your opinions over it" find another place please. I didn't want to read this thread to see "that's so sad you think its ok" or "that's so sad you don't think its ok", its off topic and needless.

As I'm sure you've found out by now, one random person can't close down a thread simply because they don't like the things being said. While the arguments for or against something may be considered "off topic" in this particular thread, they are certainly not breaking any DIS rules.

I am not sure what you were laughing at, perhaps someone's silly hat? I know you were not laughing about your DD's inappropriate, judgemental and possibly very hurtful comment. A comment that may have broken the hearts of those parents, if they heard it.

Anyway, I think you left off the end of the story. You know, the part where you knelt down in front of your DD and explained to her, in a kind, gentle and quiet voice, that it may have looked odd to her to see such a big boy in a stroller, but there is a chance that his legs or body may not be as strong as hers. It may be that his parents wanted to bring him to Disney but knew he was not strong or well enough to walk the entire day, but since they wanted him to enjoy the park they decided to use a stroller, so he could have a great day. And then you explained that you and she are so blessed to be healthy and strong and it is important to be kind and not make remarks that might be hurtful. And then you said that you hope that boy and his family have a wonderful day.

Right? Isn't that what you said? I am sure it is.

I know this is a "vacation" but there is no vacation from being a responsible parent.

Truer words were never spoken! If people remembered this, it would solve half the compaints on this board.

How about - don't take food from the buffets to eat later in the day...I don't mean an extra cookie or a piece of fruit, last time we were at Crystal Palace there was a family filling rubbermaid (!!) containers and not the leftovers from their plates either!

1. Please do not wear nothing but a speedo on the buses.

Twenty years later, I STILL remember the 40 yr old man - who failed to dry off very well - sitting there in nothing but his neon green speedo. Seriously, people...

Lime green? Clearly he was a DISer! You should have introduced yourself and talked DIS.

I was speaking of mothers with special needs. Escpecially, considering that I have a niece with downs. I am speaking of parents (especially of my nationality) that stroll their children of older ages in the park. They are no longer babies.

I hate that you took it so wrong.

It was probably taken wrong because you chose not to read the entire thread where this subject was covered ad nauseam by lots of different people. If you had, you would not have felt is necessary to make that post in the first place.

Here's MY dont...DONT STARE AT MY WIFE..i KNOW she's hot and all, thats why I married her..dont stare..

Lucky you!

 

[scarlet_ibis]

I choke and gag and wave my arms around because I am allergic to the smoke. I don't have the patience to map out the smoking areas and I know full well that I take a chance of walking through it. I'm not being dramatic to piss you off, the smoke just bothers me.

Seriously. How about "Don't smoke at Disney"? It's a kid's place, primarily, and there's no excuse for exposing kids to smoke. Or anyone, actually. It's not MY fault that Disney took all of the cool, out of the way, quiet places and gave them to smokers.

 

[Stegemouse]

Don't let your kids strip down naked and play in the fountains. While eating at Morocco last week, we watched a girl go from splashing in the fountain to completely nude without any parents stepping in to stop her for a good five minutes.

Also don't let your kids go to the bathroom outside of the restrooms. We saw a boy wizzing away in one of the dining areas at AK. Uncrowded restrooms were about two feet away.

 

[GRUMPY D]

Seriously. How about "Don't smoke at Disney"? It's a kid's place, primarily, and there's no excuse for exposing kids to smoke. Or anyone, actually. It's not MY fault that Disney took all of the cool, out of the way, quiet places and gave them to smokers.

Originally Posted by Disney_mommy
I choke and gag and wave my arms around because I am allergic to the smoke. I don't have the patience to map out the smoking areas and I know full well that I take a chance of walking through it. I'm not being dramatic to piss you off, the smoke just bothers me.

please dont put down us smokers because we are following the rules by planing and mapping out are routes to the few small smoking places Disney gives us and I'm sorry that you don't have the patience or smarts to look at a map and see were these spots are at and i don't think behind stores and in nooks and cranny's were these places are at are your cool ,quiet and out of the way places disney took from you

 

[disney_mommy]

Originally Posted by Disney_mommy
I choke and gag and wave my arms around because I am allergic to the smoke. I don't have the patience to map out the smoking areas and I know full well that I take a chance of walking through it. I'm not being dramatic to piss you off, the smoke just bothers me.

please dont put down us smokers because we are following the rules by planing and mapping out are routes to the few small smoking places Disney gives us and I'm sorry that you don't have the patience or smarts to look at a map and see were these spots are at and i don't think behind stores and in nooks and cranny's were these places are at are your cool ,quiet and out of the way places disney took from you

I'm absolutely not putting down smokers. I think it's great when smokers go to their designated areas to smoke. I'm just saying that when I walk through and cough, I'm not trying to be dramatic and make a point. And let's not resort to implying that I'm not smart. I think that's what you were saying... I'm having trouble following the meandering disconnected and unpunctuated thoughts of your post.

 

[livndisney]

I don't have a problem with smokers in the smoking area. But lighting up 50 feet from the area, or just "finishing up" as you are walking out of the area (and continuing smoking for 200 yards) is not smoking in the smoking area.

And I don't think I will ever forget the mom breastfeeding while smoking in the smoking area. Let's just say she did not have enough hands and I am still amazed that child did not fall.

 

[Chloesmom]

I don't have a problem with smokers in the smoking area. But lighting up 50 feet from the area, or just "finishing up" as you are walking out of the area (and continuing smoking for 200 yards) is not smoking in the smoking area.

And I don't think I will ever forget the mom breastfeeding while smoking in the smoking area. Let's just say she did not have enough hands and I am still amazed that child did not fall.

Ok... I dont have a problem with moms breastfeeding... I breastfed... not a big deal... BUT... while smoking? Uh... I think thats a whole new debate....

 

[scarlet_ibis]

please dont put down us smokers because we are following the rules by planing and mapping out are routes to the few small smoking places Disney gives us and I'm sorry that you don't have the patience or smarts to look at a map and see were these spots are at and i don't think behind stores and in nooks and cranny's were these places are at are your cool ,quiet and out of the way places disney took from you

I have plenty of patience and smarts, TYVM. The places I refer to are places like the terrace on the water below the ice cream place at MK, part of the walkway on the left side of the castle, the shaded area between Adventureland and Frontierland on the castle side. Many beautiful garden spots in all of the parks where we used to be able to enjoy a cool drink out of the hustle and bustle of traffic have been stolen for smokers.

Truly, there should be no smoking in any of these parks anyway, and I stand by that. I will give Disney credit for banning it in most parts of the parks. It's a relief not to have to worry about my kids walking into someone's lit cigarette and it sure was awful to be disembarking a ride and get caught behind someone who couldn't wait 60 seconds to light up. Now, if only they'd do something about the people who DON'T abide by the smoking areas. (I find this happens a lot at EPCOT.)

 

[bdoyledimou]

Truly, there should be no smoking in any of these parks anyway, and I stand by that.

I agree, and they should also ban all of the high fat, cholesterol laden foods, all the sugar filled goodies, and all the alcohol from the parks as well.



//end sarcasm

 

[scarlet_ibis]

I agree, and they should also ban all of the high fat, cholesterol laden foods, all the sugar filled goodies, and all the alcohol from the parks as well.



//end sarcasm

What you choose to do to yourself is one thing. But when you inflict something unhealthy and unpleasant on others, it's quite another.