What makes some kids "immature?"

[Tigger&Belle]

After everything that my DS and I had been through, and the school system all but refusing to evaluate my DS, I did not trust them any further than I could throw them. I went as far outside of the school system as possible. And, yes, it IS a valid diagnosis. No way can the school legally ignore this.

We so felt between a rock and a hard place with our son. The schools refused to test since he wasn't beloe grade level, but he was labeled "gifted and talented" and sure wasn't living up to being a GT kid. And our insurance didn't want to pay for testing because they said the school should be doing it. Eventually we got the insurance to pay for the testing (forgot exactly how, but I know his neurologist helped us out from a medical standpoint).

 

[tw1nsmom]

When it comes to outside evaluations, it is true that any qualified license professional should be able to conduct the evaluation. However, the language of IDEA 2004 says that the CSE team must CONSIDER an outside evaluation. They don't have to accept the findings. Some people in my parent advocacy group have found that the schools have less to argue about if you go to an outside evaluator that they would pay for anyway. If a parent disagrees with an evaluation done by the school (not just if they don't have qualified personell) they can request an Independent Educational Evaluation (IEE) at district expense (not always easy to get them to agree to this). They have a list of providers they will allow you to go to. It just might be beneficial (not mandatory) to work off that list.

Also, some are saying the laws in different states are different. That's true to a point. They can offer more services, but not less than the federal Individuals with Disabilities Act provides. However, some states choose to have laws that do not follow the letter of the IDEA law. That's why the courts are so clogged. I had one administrator tell me that they would do whatever they wanted, regardless of law, until someone sued them. Nice, huh?

We really have gone off topic though. For the OP, I would just have a meeting with the teacher to clarify what she means by immature before you get too worried.

 

[Cindy B]

My son as well, is a tad immature. I loved the other posters comments about a girlfriend wrapped up with a video game and a $50 bill. My son is like that as well.

He still comes home and plays Star Wars Lego, and Knex. Some kids in his grade (5th and will be 11 soon) are IM'ing, going to the mall and such. My daughter is a younger kid in her grade and she still plays with Barbies and things like that. Beleive it or not that is passe even in the third grade.

 

[heart4pooh]

I read on a post here a couple of months back about the quirks of engineers and someone posted symptoms of aspergers syndrome. I couldn't believe it, it was describing my son! Long story short, he is scheduled to get tested the end of December. He fits all the indications and I am so grateful to whomever posted that, because it may have taken years of struggling socially for him to have been screened for it. Immaturity and developmental delays are just a piece of the puzzle. My son taught himself how to read at three and reads encyclopedias and dictionaries for fun! But he doesn't make eye contact or speak to people outside of our family. He has many other minor issues and he is high functioning, if he does have it...just a thought for others who may be in the same boat. Intervention early on can make a world of difference for a child.

 

[Stitchy_Baby_626]

People say i'm immature because I am "childish and like Disney" whatever that's just stupid! I have a strong inner child that's all. It's a good thing.

Donna
xxx

 

[mom2rb]

My twins are immature. They are 7 and they mostly play with kids younger than they are. It doesn't bother me, I always had friends younger than me. My boys are happy and they will grow up when they are ready.