What is the thought process here?

[BelleWDW]

Some live life looking for others whom we can judge as beneath us.
Others live life as a thrill ride where what others do or wear has no bearing on our own experiences because we're having far too much fun doing what we're doing to ever worry about whether or not other people are dressed appropriately.

I will say this: if I ever I allow what someone else is wearing to "cheapen" my own experience (whether it's a wedding, a fine dining establishment or a day at the beach), then I'll have given far too much control of my own happiness over to what other people are doing.

I'm confused by the outcry shown in this thread

I have read numerous and similar threads on the DIS....from formal nights on a cruise.....to dress codes at the nicer WDW restaurants (like sweaty theme park clothes & baseball caps on men at the highest end restaurants like cali grill) and I can understand someone being aggrivated when others dont dress appropriately.

The OP was just doing the same-when a slobbily dressed person went to a country club wedding.

And unlike what someone said previously-it is totally bad manners to purposely ignore dress codes-like at a Country Club-and expect staff to kick guests out. of course thta wont happen-and the slob gets away with it.

 

[luvsJack]

I still think there are lots of options (with no dress code)-like a Knights of Columbus Hall-the church's hall...etc............rather than having your reception around fire engines?

You do realize that fire engines roll, right? There is a very small town just south of where I live and the fire hall, the VFW and the town's community center are all the same building. The fire engines are just driven out in the parking lot when an event is inside. And some of the local florists and caterers have the wonderful ability to transform the hall into a beautiful room for receptions.

Why are you choosing to be so judgmental? None of this was about where anyone's reception took place.

 

[luvsJack]

I'm confused by the outcry shown in this thread

I have read numerous and similar threads on the DIS....from formal nights on a cruise.....to dress codes at the nicer WDW restaurants (like sweaty theme park clothes & baseball caps on men at the highest end restaurants like cali grill) and I can understand someone being aggrivated when others dont dress appropriately.

The OP was just doing the same-when a slobbily dressed person went to a country club wedding.

And unlike what someone said previously-it is totally bad manners to purposely ignore dress codes-like at a Country Club-and expect staff to kick guests out. of course thta wont happen-and the slob gets away with it.

If someone lets what someone else is wearing in a restaurant, especially a restaurant at a theme park, ruin their meal; then they are the ones with the problem. Same at any other place.

Wearing jeans does not make a person a slob, nor does it make that person beneath you. Did the op ever say if the person in jeans knew the dress code? You cannot ignore what you do not know.

If the OP was the bride and IF the person in jeans caused a scene or other problem and actually had an effect on her day; THEN I could understand the vent. Otherwise, what possible difference could it make to one person what another person is wearing (again, within reason)??

 

[okeydokey]

Whoever said the person who wore jeans ruined the experience for the poster. It certainly wouldn't ruin my experience at a wedding or any event for that matter. I would certainly notice the person inappropriately dressed, and I may actually say something to my DH, but then I would move on and enjoy the event. Making a comment about something doesn't imply that you were so bothered by something that your day was ruined. That's just a bit melodramatic.

 

[xoprincessmomxo]

I personally find it sadder that a person would let what someone else wears ruin their experience. Many more issues on that side than someone who chose to wear jeans.

 

[Jennasis]

Maybe if the wedding is in a barn...a dirty barn...

My wedding WAS in a barn. My barn. Cleaned up real purty. Not only did many people show up in jeans, shorts, tee-shirts...I ENCOURAGED IT! It was August and hot as Hades. I wanted my guests to be comfortable. So I told everyone to wear whatever they wanted and try to dissuade them from getting dressed up. My sisters insisted on getting dressed in matching bridesmaids dresses and heels, and then complained that their shoes were sinking in the dirt!

We went to a very elegant wedding of a self made Millionaire's DD. A few of his relatives -male-had plaid cowboy shirts and blue jeans on. I cant see any wedding Blue jeans being OK

See above. My wedding. Jeans ok.

Have I fallen in some sort of alternative universe-full of t-shirts,jean and boot wearing hobos who dont own any "good clothes " and all the weddings are "ho-downs"??????

Where the heck do all you folks live?? Appalachia???

North Carolina actually. I liked to think of my wedding as a gathering of friends and family, more than a hoe-down. Best wedding ever.

They can be some of the best receptions!!!!

Absolutely.

 

[Disney Doll]

I didn't realize that the person who wore jeans to this particular country club wedding was jobless and destitute and starving and knew absolutely nobody he could borrow a pair of pants from. If that's the case, then I'll cut his some slack. If he had more appropriate clothing and just felt like wearing what he wanted with no regard to the occasion then I still think he was in the wrong. It's funny that no matter what kind of conversation we are having here, everyone will twist it into the most extreme worst case scenario possible.

Ding! Ding! Ding!!!!
We have a winner!!!!!!

More likely it was as pearlique said in a PP...someone who is going to be independent and do what they want and "show" everybody that nobody tells HIM what to do!

 

[Sanchez]

um-that's a movie-as in fantasy/fiction-not based in reality.

the reality in the region we live in is-if you were to arrive at the international airport nearest our home (spokane but not in spokane 'proper') the nearest towns have no second hand stores, goodwill, or salvation army. the town we are in has only 2 stores that sell any type of clothing-JEANS and thermal long johns. in spokane 'proper', depending on the day, you might find a clothing store open till 5 or 9, or none at all.

when we lived in the napa valley which is known for country club and high end weddings, a traveler with lost luggage could be even worse off. if the traveler arrived in angwin they would find NO clothing stores. if they arrived in st. helena, yountville or calistoga so long as they arrived before 5 p.m. on certain days of the week they might find either insanely overpriced designer items or trashy wine themed t's and shorts, but otherwise little else (wedding rental wear or that aquired through thrift stores ala 'my cousin vinny' was only available multiple towns away at stores that closed even earlier in the day). in napa 'proper' the choices would again be limited to those stores open only until the early hours of the evenings-and those being primarily outlets featuring off season overpriced designer handbags, and boutique lingeree.

speaking as someone who traveled on buisness to lax where my luggage was lost the evening prior to an important presentation, despite my own and the hotel concierge's best efforts to locate a store for me to aquire appropriate attire during non retail hours-it may look easy squeezy in the movies or some d list reality show to pull off finding replacement clothing, but in the real world .-when the store closes, it's closed.

It was only a fictional movie? All these years I thought it was real. Thanks for the heads up.

 

[Mkrop]

I still think there are lots of options (with no dress code)-like a Knights of Columbus Hall-the church's hall...etc............rather than having your reception around fire engines?

Some of the fire halls around here are nicer than the country clubs, as are the KOC halls etc. And we also have some very high end hotels and country clubs, something nice for everyone's budget.

The things you learn on the DIS!

I have never heard of this-the fire stations here are bare bones garages...thus my confusion.

Oh please now who lives in an alternate universe, do you live somewhere where everything is so prim and proper


I would not wear jeans to a wedding. Would I notice someone who is, yes, would I think it is odd, yes, would I care after that, only if that person comes between me and the open bar

 

[Disney Doll]

I have a few relatives who have worn jeans to weddings. It's not something I would do, but I am not them.

Now the short shorts, flip flops, and other things mentioned on this thread are a little much...or, shall I say...not enough. That is disrespectful.

Well, if one follows the logic of many posters on this thread, why is this disrespectful?

Isn't it more important that she showed up at the wake to pay her respects?
Maybe that was the best t-shirt and cut-offs she owned?
Maybe she didn't have the money to go out and buy a different outfit.
What do you care what she wore? It wasn't your wake.
You're a snob for judging someone on what they wore to a wake when you don't know all the circumstances.
Maybe before the deceased died, that was their special request of that person to wear the bingo t-shirt and cut-offs tot heir wake.

There..I think I covered it all.

 

[luvmy3]

Ding! Ding! Ding!!!!
We have a winner!!!!!!

More likely it was as pearlique said in a PP...someone who is going to be independent and do what they want and "show" everybody that nobody tells HIM what to do!

So he can't be destitute but he must have a **** you, I'm doing what I want and I really don't care what anyone thinks attitude.
Now, thats twisting the OP in the typical DIS fashion, I think you (and I guess pearlique) are the real winners here.

 

[wenrob]

Good Lord, the insults here are astounding. Who isn't beneath you?

About 50% of my wedding guests wore jeans to my wedding and a fair amount had a few drinks in them as well(including the bride and groom). We had us a good 'ol time bunch of low class, hill billy, low lifes that we are. edited to add: Yokels, I forgot, we're yokels too.

We went to a very elegant wedding of a self made Millionaire's DD. A few of his relatives -male-had plaid cowboy shirts and blue jeans on. I cant see any wedding Blue jeans being OK

I am a MAJOR jean wearing person.
However, i DO own nice slacks and dressy pant suits to wear to weddings and funerals and other dressier occasions.

there is NO excuse why your relatives dont do likewise.

Ever hear of Goodwill?
Shirts-$5...slacks $7
I donate new and nearly new clothes to them all the time
And I'm talking Polo, Tommy Hilfiger, Ralph Loren

In fact afew weeks ago i gave them 10 coats/sportscoats because DH is a size smaller-and two of them were leather jackets

So glad Emily Post doesn't think so....or Miss Manners. There are social appropriate manners and dress....and these ladies books and columns try to educate the "less informed"

If some yokels want to dress down for everything-so be it.
That was the point of the OP-right?

The whole concept of Goodwill is to give employment to the less advantaged-everyone working there is in that catagory.

Plus it allows those who are poor to be able to get good clothes for 90% off.

Have I fallen in some sort of alternative universe-full of t-shirts,jean and boot wearing hobos who dont own any "good clothes " and all the weddings are "ho-downs"??????

Where the heck do all you folks live?? Appalachia???

I still think there are lots of options (with no dress code)-like a Knights of Columbus Hall-the church's hall...etc............rather than having your reception around fire engines?

I'm confused by the outcry shown in this thread

I have read numerous and similar threads on the DIS....from formal nights on a cruise.....to dress codes at the nicer WDW restaurants (like sweaty theme park clothes & baseball caps on men at the highest end restaurants like cali grill) and I can understand someone being aggrivated when others dont dress appropriately.

The OP was just doing the same-when a slobbily dressed person went to a country club wedding.

And unlike what someone said previously-it is totally bad manners to purposely ignore dress codes-like at a Country Club-and expect staff to kick guests out. of course thta wont happen-and the slob gets away with it.

 

[declansdad]

The OP was just doing the same-when a slobbily dressed person went to a country club wedding.

And unlike what someone said previously-it is totally bad manners to purposely ignore dress codes-like at a Country Club-and expect staff to kick guests out. of course thta wont happen-and the slob gets away with it.

The OP didn't say there was a dress code.

 

[Disney Doll]

So he can't be destitute but he must have a **** you, I'm doing what I want and I really don't care what anyone thinks attitude.
Now, thats twisting the OP in the typical DIS fashion, I think you (and I guess pearlique) are the real winners here.

Thank you. I haven't won anything in a while.

 

[DizBelle]

Giving me another cousin. Pretty sure he's not the only person who's gotten his wife pregnant while poor. Those silly poor people do that you know...procreate I mean.

I still loved him, believe it or not. I guess I should have thrown his jeans wearing, project living self out of my family....but I thought I'd keep him around since he changed my diapers and loved me my whole life.

I would not wear jeans to someone's wedding, but then I have a closet full of nice things. In fact, I usually buy something new if I have the excuse of a wedding I'm going to. That said, I still don't care if someone else doesn't have what I have.

Just because you have the parts and they are functional, it doesn't mean you should be procreating. If you might have trouble feeding that mouth, perhaps you shouldn't create it.

 

[wdwfan16]

Just because you have the parts and they are functional, it doesn't mean you should be procreating. If you might have trouble feeding that mouth, perhaps you shouldn't create it.

There are many people who can feed the mouth that should not be procreating.

 

[DizBelle]

OP here...

I was not the bride. I was a guest. I don't recall a specific dress code noted on the invitation but the simple fact that it is a wedding tells me to dress nicely. The location being a country club also tells me I should dress nicely.

The fact that this fellow didn't even tuck in his shirt (it was a plaid button up kind of shift) tells me that he just didn't care about looking like a slob at this wedding of someone he supposedly cares about.

If jeans, button up shirt, and tennis shoes were all he had, he could have made them look as nice as he could. He could have tucked in his shirt.

 

[Pigeon]

My step-sister got married at a country club a couple of years ago, and a couple showed up in shorts, t-shirts and sneakers. We were all privately astounded, and they stood out like a sore thumb.

Turns out that this couple's flight was quite delayed and the airline lost their luggage. They had just enough time to grab a cab to get to the wedding. All things considered, I think it was better that they decided to come, regardless of the inappropriate dress, than to have traveled all that way and not made the wedding because they weren't dressed for it.

 

[DizBelle]

There are many people who can feed the mouth that should not be procreating.

This is true, too.

 

[DizBelle]

On the lost luggage excuse... Wouldn't you carry on your wedding clothes if you were tight on time between the flight landing and getting to the wedding? Wouldn't you consider wearing your wedding clothes on the flight?