What I say and what I mean apparently are not the same! (Vent)

[mommaU4]

Aaargh!!!!!!!! Okay deep breaths....

Today my kids are making me crazy. There I said it. They seem to take what I say and interpet it in a whole new way.
For example:

When I say "please be quiet", they interpet it to mean "make more noise".

When I say "clean up your room", they interpet it to mean "just ignore me and keep right on watching t.v."

When I say "do not hit your sister again", they interpet it to mean "hit her again but wait until my back is turned".

When I say "it's time to eat", they interpet it to mean "it's time to drag yourself into the kitchen and moan and complain about how you hate what is being served."

Somedays, bed time cannot come soon enough!

Okay, vent over. I'm fine now. Carry on....


Wait, I just thought of a new one. My DS just came in here and asked for something. I said no which he must have interpeted to mean "the answer's no, BUT if you beg and whine and say please enough times I'll change my mind." Not gonna happen BTW.

 

[simpilotswife]

I know that telling my children that they are going to be grounded in their room for the rest of the day without any electronics at all improves their hearing tremendously.

 

[Stitchfans]

its not just the children though in my case it is often my DH too.


he often doesn't "understand" and does the opposite.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

The real problem is that you are saying whatever you are saying, but all the kids are hearing is, "blah, blah, blah...". They aren't hearing a thing you are saying! Wish I could give you a magic answer, but there's really none other than the obvious serious advice of making eye contact with them, having them repeat it back, turning off the tv, etc, etc.

 

[mommaU4]

The real problem is that you are saying whatever you are saying, but all the kids are hearing is, "blah, blah, blah...". They aren't hearing a thing you are saying!

That is so true!!!! Sometimes when I tell them to do something they don't even make a fuss or complain, they just sit there and ignore me as if I never said a word. I have wondered to myself if I actually said it out loud or was it all in my head because they are so good at ignoring me!!

 

[Tigger&Belle]

That is so true!!!! Sometimes when I tell them to do something they don't even make a fuss or complain, they just sit there and ignore me as if I never said a word. I have wondered to myself if I actually said it out loud or was it all in my head because they are so good at ignoring me!!

That so drives me crazy about my children (and my DH). I'd rather have an argument than not even noticing that I said something. They are out to get us!!!

 

[SleepyMom]

Wait, I just thought of a new one. My DS just came in here and asked for something. I said no which he must have interpeted to mean "the answer's no, BUT if you beg and whine and say please enough times I'll change my mind." Not gonna happen BTW.

This was me a few years ago, especially when we were in a store. I didn't know when it happened, but I noticed that even if I said no they thought that meant to whine until I said yes. One day I said it was enough, I made a new rule that if I said no once that was what I meant. If they asked again, they lost something (whatever I felt they would miss the most at that time... computer time, phone, whatever). Didn't take long at all and we were out of that phase! It was so nice after that, at home and when we were out and about.

 

[megan4777]

The real problem is that you are saying whatever you are saying, but all the kids are hearing is, "blah, blah, blah...". They aren't hearing a thing you are saying!

See I think that DH and DD hear the teacher from Charlie Brown talking...."wah wah wah...."

Dh thinks I'm nuts when I tell him how to fold laundry but it's b/c he has 90 t-shirts and the shelves only fit 40 the way he folds. I tried to show him how to fold "my" way (which will allow him to fit the 90 shirts) and he thinks I'm crazy.
I now get "the stare" ....you know...when they look at you and make eye contact but you KNOW they aren't really listening but trying to act like they are...

I feel your pain!

 

[kejoda]

Would it help to know that your children are normal? At least I hope their normal since thats what I tell myself about my kids.

 

[mommaU4]

Would it help to know that your children are normal? At least I hope their normal since thats what I tell myself about my kids.

Then I want them to be abnormal!

Thanks guys for all the words of wisdom and encouragement.
Sometimes I am hesitant to complain because there are some who are quick to jump in with "well, why did you have kids then" or "maybe you're just a failure as a parent", or my personal favorite "how can any mother say her precious angels are making her crazy"?

I do love my kids, doesn't mean they don't know how to push each and every one of my buttons occasionally. Well, okay, frequently! Nice to know I'm not alone.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Thanks guys for all the words of wisdom and encouragement.
Sometimes I am hesitant to complain because there are some who are quick to jump in with "well, why did you have kids then" or "maybe you're just a failure as a parent", or my personal favorite "how can any mother say her precious angels are making her crazy"?

Well, sometimes I wonder why I had kids, maybe I am a failure, and my precious angels do drive me crazy! Really, I wouldn't trade them for anything, but sometimes they know just how to kick me where it hurts (and I'm a female so that takes aim...). I do love them, though, and I did have 4 of them so either it's not so bad or I'm a REALLY slow learner (go with option B ).

 

[mommaU4]

Well, sometimes I wonder why I had kids, maybe I am a failure, and my precious angels do drive me crazy! Really, I wouldn't trade them for anything, but sometimes they know just how to kick me where it hurts (and I'm a female so that takes aim...). I do love them, though, and I did have 4 of them so either it's not so bad or I'm a REALLY slow learner (go with option B ).

Hey, I have four of the little rugrats too!!! What were we thinking? Of course in my case the last time was a buy one get one free deal!

 

[allie&mattsmom]

Glad it's not just me having a day like this today (not that I want anyone else to suffer but you know misery does love company ). My DS8 is driving me crazy today. He had a buddy spend the night last night so of course he's absolutely exhausted. DD10 had a sleepover at her friends house last night and she's also tired & grumpy! 1 tired DD plus 1 tired DS equals one nutty mamma!

 

[clh2]

My DD, is 11, and she has pushed me to the end of my rope today.

Yes, my friends on the DIS...it has come to my attention that it is MY fault that she forgot her vocab words that are due tomorrow morning, first thing. It was also STUPID of me to suggest that she call one of her friends, and just maybe that friend might have the words. It is also MY fault that she is tired.

 

[slo]

Do I have a hidden camera in my house , because you just described the daily events in my house

The whole thing makes my head hurt sometimes But, if we all wish together real hard, maybe our children will have children just like them someday, and then they'll know how we feel

And how do we feel you ask????
We feel that we really deserve that Mother's Day and Father's Day!!!