What goes around comes around....

[Mskanga]

And my day was today!
A couple of years ago my friend and I made an agreement to swap childcare for a couple of hours a week , she would drop off her kids so she could go work out and I would drop off mine so I could go to work an extra day during the week, I would drop them off around 3:30 pm and dh picked them up at 5:30.
Her husband had a major fit because I was going to work to make money and didn't pay her a dime , so all of a sudden my friend told me that she couldn't do it anymore because her husband didn't want her to do it for free. It didn't matter to him that this agreement was between both of us when neither one of the husbands were home.
Well, guess who started to work as a teacher sub this year?? My friend! Guess where she's dropping off her kids to be taken to the bus stop when she works? My house!
Today HE was the one dropping them off before he went to work and I could not hold my tongue and I asked him: So what do you think Steve? Now your wife is the one going to make money and pay me nothing for watching the kids and taking them to the bus stop.
You should have seen his face drop to the floor, he's one of those people who thinks he's better than anyone else and people take advantage of him.
I told my friend that one day he would get it back .....and he did today.
I have been doing it since the beginning of the year and I won't quit doing it because it really doesn't cost me anything to do so , and just because he can be a royal jerk , doesn't mean I have to get to his same level, but he has to realize that people do things for his family too.
So today just by being able to tell him what I wanted to tell him for a long time, I feel much better, it's a wonderful day!

 

[d.kurz]

Great story! I'll bet that felt good!

 

[mowsie dreamer]

Sweet! I'll bet that was worth the wait! hehehehe!

 

[Cinderellafifi]

Ohhhh, I bet that felt sooo good!

 

[Mskanga]

Yeap, it was well worth the wait....

 

[ltldeb]

Kudos to you! I am a firm believer in that old adage.

 

[CookieGVB]

Pretty funny. I'm glad you didn't let that jerk get in the way of you doing a good deed anyway.

I do hope that she will now be in a position to return the favor for free.

 

[Towncrier]

Your story reminds me of those "priceless" commercials. I'll bet that the look on his face was worth more money than he could ever pay you. You go girl.

 

[4greatboys]

Glad you got him Olga. First of all if you and your friend made the agreement she should have told her dh that was the deal you mad and she is sticking to it. Since she didnt Im glad you got him!

 

[apagano]

Well, I guess it's good that he got a piece of your mind. Unfortunately the truth of the matter is that it was really his wife's job to do that. It was pretty spineless of her to back out of your agreement because her husband didn't like it. Now you come off looking like a shrew when it's really his wife who has the problem. In a way your friend is taking advantage of your integrity.

 

[Mskanga]

You are all correct, my satisfaction was priceless and I know that my friend is taking advantage of the situation but like I said, I won't bring myself down to his level. The truth is I wouldn't have allowed my dh get involved in something that doesn't involve him , but she allowed her dh do that because he's a control freak, if he says no to something , then that's it. He whines from the mileage in the car to why should we spend $2000 to go on a nice vacation when we can go camping for $200.
The bottom line is I wanted him to know that I didn't forget AND they are the ones who need me now.
Not only do I take their children to the school bus, I also pick them up and keep them with us until she gets back from work.
BTW , I do not excuse my friend for any of this because she's as much to blame as he is for allowing him to get involved, she should stand up to him , and I'm not the only one who says that, her best friend from College can't stand him either!

 

[Cthia]

Good for you for having the courage to speak up to him. I can't stand people that are control freaks. It is a shame that your friend does not say something to her husband and you ended up having to do that. You feel like you want to knock some sense into them.

So are they going to offer to pay you? I know that you are there but what happens when you have to go somewhere. What will happen during vacations? Will they expect you to watch them for free then?

 

[Mskanga]

Cindy I only do it when I can (which is most of the time) but if for some reason I have someplace to go or something to do , I freely say I'm not available. I used to work things in a way that I could help out but a couple of years ago when they showed so little consideration, now I don't go out of my way. I think my friend knows , and one other reason why I do this is because her DD and mine are best friends, I don't want to ruin that for my DD or her friend.
Heck no , I won't do it for free if it becomes an everyday thing, I may be stupid but not THAT stupid, LOL.
BTW, I don't expect to be paid but IF I get paid , I will not say no. Heck , they take my money when I pay them to come and feed my dog while I'm away on vacation, LOL.

 

[gemmie214]

You watch their children for free almost daily and they make you pay to feed your dog while you go on vacation? No offense but they do not sound like very good friends to have.

 

[Mskanga]

Gemmie it's not daily because she's a substitute teacher, but within the last 4-6 weeks it has been often. But it just felt good to be able to tell him today what I felt, they will never again be able to throw anything to my face about doing me any favors.

 

[gemmie214]

I am glad you had the chance to say something...I feel good for you!