My 9-year-old son LOVES Disney, but there are things he declines to do or does under duress. We spent a total of 11 days in Disney last summer and only about three hours of it was in Fantasyland. He wouldn't dream of doing Fantasyland rides unless cajoled into it (some would not do under any circumstances), any spinner including AstroOrbiter, things like Playhouse Disney. We walk through Toontown but no longer stop. He also considers the Little Mermaid and Beauty and the Beast to be girlish and tries to avoid them. He always has two older brothers with him, so that may help some in his attitude. He absolutely loves e-night. At MK, his favorites are the three mountains, Buzz Lightyear, TTA, Carousel of Progress and the speedway. Tiki Birds, Pirates, Haunted Mansion and Jungle Cruise are okay. We use the train for transportation. He likes Spectro but thinks of the afternoon parade as a bit babyish.
At Epcot, he loves Test Track, Mission Space, Imagination, Ice Station Cool, the funny country shows (statues in Italy and the mime and chair act in France) and Miyuki (candy maker -- Japan). He usually still makes a mask once a trip. He can be talked into the more educational attractions but doesn't get excited about them -- likes Spaceship Earth and Energy best. He likes Illuminations. He also really likes to eat at Teppanyaki, San Angel and Marrakesh.
At AK, he likes Dinosaur, Primeval Whirl and Kali. He always says he doesn't want to go to the Lion King show, safari and bird show, but enjoys them while he's there. He does not like to do the walking trails. Conservation Station was okay once but I wouldn't expect him to ask to go back soon.
He loves MGM. Rock 'n Roller Coaster, Star Tours, ToT and Millionaire are among his favorite Disney attractions. He also likes Muppets, Indiana Jones and eating at Pizza Planet. The backlot tour is okay once in a while. Fantasmic is okay but he hates the production of getting there. He likes this parade pretty well and enjoys the street shows. He starred in one (the spelling bee), so thinks of them as a big deal.
Last year was the first year he wasn't interested in autographs although he still consented to a handful of character photos. He also enjoys taking his own pictures, so you might get your child a disposable camera. Also, when he was younger, we used to send one parent to Fantasyland with him while the older boys did something else. You might make that offer. Funny thing was sometimes one of them chose to go along, too.