What do you think (school related)

[sunnyday123]

The other kids should be irrelevant to you.

Maybe the teacher has a disability and is not disclosed to the students. Maybe the principal knows he has a problem teacher and can't get rid of him b/c of tenure. Maybe he is just odd. The cursing should not be tolerated though. Has your son asked in class to not be hit again?

The only disability that would cause someone to hit and curse at another person is stupidity.

 

[EMom]

Speaking as a former teacher, if a teacher laid a hand on my child in that manner, they'd draw back a nub. Not only would my child be out of the class, I'd have reported the teacher to the proper education authorities and likely have called the police to report an assault. I'm an agitator, so I'd have notified the other parents as well. He has no place in the classroom. Not once did I lay a hand on a student and my classes were very well-behaved. There is no excuse for this. He's a bully.

 

[disykat]

I've run into two inappropriate teachers in my life. Perhaps if my parents had helped me lodge a complaint about the one in 10th grade I would have been brave enough to lodge a complaint against the one in college.

 

[TheDisneyGirl02]

There's a way to be a 'cool' teacher and be liked by the kids, but hitting and name calling in a classroom setting is not called for at all.

I had a teacher in high school that was literally four years older than me - he just graduated from college and I was a high school senior. He was a good teacher, but he let the popular kids get away with murder. We were in a portable classroom first period and the popular kids would reflect the sun off of their textbooks into people's eyes and laugh like a bunch of idiots. At the time I did nothing but I was scared then, I'm not anymore. They shouldn't have gotten away with that.

Anyway, I think the OP had every right to contact the principal. Until her child turns 18, he is still her child who is not of legal age. When he gets to college and is 18, then he can fight his own battles.

Good luck, OP. Please keep us updated.

 

[Carly_Roach]

I am so surprised at how many people seem so quick to defend the actions of this teacher.

And I'm surprised at how many people are jumping on the teacher with so little information and only one side of the story.

The mother complained, the principal stated he'd look into it. He probably remarked about reviewing the son's schedule because her email may have been interpretted as a request to move her son. And that's where this situation stands at the present time. Other than those facts, there is very little about the accusations that can be substantiated.

It's not a case of defending the alleged actions of this teacher, it's a case of people being innocent until proven guilty.

 

[Eeyore'sthebest]

No but where does it end? If a teacher in college is disrespectful to her son, is she going to call the dean?

By high school one should at least try and handle the situation by reporting it himself. IF he gets nowhere, then a parent can step in.

This teacher isn't being disrespectful. This teacher is striking children. And yes, high schoolers are still children.

Why, yes, of course. And when he marries, I plan to move in to make sure his wife treats him right.

Love the response!!

And I'm surprised at how many people are jumping on the teacher with so little information and only one side of the story.

You're right. We have only one side to the story. And to be honest, I would love to hear the teacher's side of why he needs to strike children and curse at them. Should be an interesting response.

Keep us posted OP.

 

[lajones81]

Why, yes, of course. And when he marries, I plan to move in to make sure his wife treats him right.

OP - Glad you have a sense of humor re: some of these absurd comments!

 

[MiniGirl]

Sounds like the teacher fancies himself to be the Jethro Leroy Gibbs (from NCIS) of the teaching world. If you aren't familiar with the show, Gibbs often smacks his agents (well, one in particular) on the back of the head and he makes these little comments to his agents. On the show it is charming and a bit endearing. I can see how it would not be in real life though.

OP, I hope this is resolved quickly. Of course, the students could all band together to do something. I think having every single one of the students report to the office or even the guidance counseler during this class and leaving this teacher's room empty could make a huge impact.

Also, I think it is clear that the students have tried to resolve this themselves. They have asked him to stop, and he hasn't -- or so it seems. I, too, would step in if my dd tried, unsuccessfully, to stop this behavior.

 

[BelleWDW]

And I'm surprised at how many people are jumping on the teacher with so little information and only one side of the story.

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Huh? are you a parent?
If my child (even in high school-they are still my child) told me the teacher was hitting him-that is inappropriate behavior. Period.

Its not hearsay or rumor.

The classroom need to be observed

 

[The Mystery Machine]

Sounds like the teacher fancies himself to be the Jethro Leroy Gibbs (from NCIS) of the teaching world. If you aren't familiar with the show, Gibbs often smacks his agents (well, one in particular) on the back of the head and he makes these little comments to his agents. On the show it is charming and a bit endearing. I can see how it would not be in real life though.

OMG...I was thinking the same thing. Yep.

 

[Abbie]

Quite frankly, the first time I heard that this teacher was hitting students or cussing at them I would have been IN the principal's office personally and demanded a meeting with that teacher. I would have then informed the principal and teacher that if that teacher in any way touches, cusses at or threatens my child I would have him brought up on physical and emotional battery charges and would go after the school (including the principal) for continuing to allow such inappropriate behaviour. I would also be reporting the teacher to the school board AND the state certification body.

While letting our kids fight their own battles is a good thing after a 'certain' age... in this particular instance expecting the teen to handle it all could be construed by the teacher (and principal) as the teen not having the support of a parent, possibly giving them the idea that the student's concerns and discomfort is not worth dealing with. Worse yet, it could invite retaliation from the teacher, and the teen may be too afraid to bring in parents at the point.

Assault is assault...to have someone in a position of authority do this to students is...is...words fail me.

What she said.

And to the poster who questioned if mommy would go to the dean if this was happening in college? No, of course not.....at that point I would be pressing assault and battery charges directly with the authorities. No one would be getting a chance to explain at that level.

 

[Carly_Roach]

And to be honest, I would love to hear the teacher's side of why he needs to strike children and curse at them. Should be an interesting response.

Well, to be honest myself, I'd like to know if this is what is actually happening. Why don't we get the facts first before throwing the noose over the branch, OK?

 

[Piglets Mommy]

OP, keep us posted, please!

If this teacher is hitting and cursing at kids, I don't care what type of disability he has, he should NOT be a teacher. There are many other positions he could have with the school district that don't involve direct interaction with students. A student with a disability wouldn't be allowed to behave in this manner, why should a teacher?

 

[Liberty Belle]

Well, to be honest myself, I'd like to know if this is what is actually happening. Why don't we get the facts first before throwing the noose over the branch, OK?

You don't know my son, of course, and you do not know me, but I will tell you my son is a responsible person. I had him read and ok the email before I sent it to the principal. He never backtracked or changed his wording on anything. I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that he is telling the truth.

Might he fib to me about eating his vegetables, what time he got to bed, etc? Possibly. Would he lie to me about this? No.

 

[lovemygoofy]

You don't know my son, of course, and you do not know me, but I will tell you my son is a responsible person. I had him read and ok the email before I sent it to the principal. He never backtracked or changed his wording on anything. I have absolutely no doubt in my mind that he is telling the truth.

Might he fib to me about eating his vegetables, what time he got to bed, etc? Possibly. Would he lie to me about this? No.

Don't worry about having to convince anyone else. You know your son and you know how he is. I believe what you are saying.

I had a crazy teacher in high school that would yell and carry on and one day he snapped and started throwing desks and yelling and cursing and acting a nut. Unfournately for him, his classroom shared a wall with the principle who happened to be in his office the day he snapped.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Well, to be honest myself, I'd like to know if this is what is actually happening. Why don't we get the facts first before throwing the noose over the branch, OK?

Likely the offending teacher isn't a member of the disboards, so good luck with that.


Are we seriously assuming that all disers who post have reason to make crap up? It's very astonishing to me.

OP--a sure fire way to get to the bottom if the school doesn't react to your satisfaction is to file criminal assault charges.

 

[minkydog]

This is absolutely abuse! My own father used to do this kind of thing to us kids. He thought it was funny to thump us on top of our heads or hold us up by our necks with our feet dangling. Then when we were crying or choking and wiggling to get free, he'd laugh at us and make fun. It was awful the things he did and it was abusive. Of course, we didn't understand that at the time and let me tell you, there has been life-long fallout. Five kids, and all of us suffer from depression or alcoholism. I so wish someone, neighbor or family, had stepped in to help us.

OP,I think you've made a good first step. Hopefully, the principal will do a thorough investigation. And if this were my son, and I believed that what he was saying is true, I would consider calling the police. They will maketheir own investigation. If there is nothing going on, the case will be dropped. If there *is* inappropriate behavior going on, the court system will act on it. This teacher needs to be held accountable. What happens if the school lets him go? He moves on to another school and continues his warped style of teaching.

There is never a good reason to hit a teenager on the back of the head, or anywhere else. There is never a good reason to curse or humiliate anyone, regardless of age.

 

[BelleWDW]

Any Update?

 

[Liberty Belle]

Any Update?

No, not yet. We only had school Monday through Wednesday this week. Hopefully I hear something on Monday.

 

[OceanAnnie]

What a thing to have to deal with! That's just nuts!

Well, the ball is rolling don't know where it's headed, but it's in the right court.
I would tell your DS to document all of the teacher's antics with the date and just the facts (actions, party action was against, phrases used). Tell him not to document the incidences in class and not to have any documentation in class. I'd also suggest that he tell the other students to do the same (not in class, no documentation in class). If the ball doesn't roll, gather the documentation and have a meeting.

Good luck!