What do you think of this gift request? Update...No Wii

[C.Ann]

Rude - and a guilt trip to boot! Wow!!

 

[cheermom1]

Well, update. I have already sent my reply saying that since I have already purchased their gifts that I could not contribute to the Wii. This is the reply I received:

"I understand you won't contribute. We just thought even though you bought them something already, since it's only 20 bucks most people wouldn't mind. Thanks anyway. Merry Christmas."

Now, I know it is SO hard to read tone in an email but I am reading this in a snarky way. Am I wrong about that?

I spoke to my mom and she IS going to contribute because she says she'd feel bad if she didn't. I really wonder if they are going to raise enough. My luck I'll be the only one in the family that doesn't cough up the money and then I will look bad.

WOW just the rudest thing what are they thinking?? I would starting calling the rest of the family and find out what they think too and let them know what I think..they need to know how rude this is...

but this is me and my personalty ...good luck

 

[Darsa]

Only $20??? Um, do they not realize that $20 is more to some than to others?? Seriously, that's just plain over-the-top RUDE and I can't believe they can't see that.

 

[chicagoshannon]

I'd be tempted to take back the presents you already got so they get NOTHING. I think they'd be off my Christmas gift list in the future that's for sure.

I can't get over how incredibly RUDE that is!

 

[OceanAnnie]

Well, update. I have already sent my reply saying that since I have already purchased their gifts that I could not contribute to the Wii. This is the reply I received:

"I understand you won't contribute. We just thought even though you bought them something already, since it's only 20 bucks most people wouldn't mind. Thanks anyway. Merry Christmas."

Now, I know it is SO hard to read tone in an email but I am reading this in a snarky way. Am I wrong about that?

I spoke to my mom and she IS going to contribute because she says she'd feel bad if she didn't. I really wonder if they are going to raise enough. My luck I'll be the only one in the family that doesn't cough up the money and then I will look bad.

"...won't contribute, ...even though you bought them something, ...only $20,...thought you wouldn't mind, ....Thanks anyway, ...Merry Christmas."?

No you aren't mistaken about the snarkiness. It's all over that message.

What a planet are they from? Like a pp, I'm wondering how close this family member is to you or your DW. Looney rude tunes.

 

[DWGal210]

Only $20??? Um, do they not realize that $20 is more to some than to others?? Seriously, that's just plain over-the-top RUDE and I can't believe they can't see that.

That got me too - just $20?! I mean, whether or not you can afford $20 to me is not the issue; for me, it's to pass it off like it's no big deal to shoot money their way, AND during the holiday season, no less, is just ridiculous.

Once again, if they can't afford to get their children a Wii, it's not your responsibility, or that of your family, to ensure they have one.

I wonder how many of your family members will take the bait....

 

[mtemm]

the only family members I purchase gifts for kid-wise are my sisters kids. if they asked, then yes, I would go with the $20

 

[momrek06]

Well, update. I have already sent my reply saying that since I have already purchased their gifts that I could not contribute to the Wii. This is the reply I received:

"I understand you won't contribute. We just thought even though you bought them something already, since it's only 20 bucks most people wouldn't mind. Thanks anyway. Merry Christmas."

Now, I know it is SO hard to read tone in an email but I am reading this in a snarky way. Am I wrong about that?

I spoke to my mom and she IS going to contribute because she says she'd feel bad if she didn't. I really wonder if they are going to raise enough. My luck I'll be the only one in the family that doesn't cough up the money and then I will look bad.

It's situations like this one that ruins Christmas for so many people.

Sorry, OP, your relatives actually do NOT understand. They are very rude and selfish.

They did NOT read your email and understand you.

As you have already bought their kiddos gifts.....you ARE contributing to their kiddos Christmas with the presents you bought them.

 

[pixiewings71]

I agree, very rude!! I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

On another note, last year DBF's parents gave us all 4 Deluxe APs to DLR, his sister and her family chipped in. We were more then thrilled with that, it gave us another year at DLR with little cost to us (we upgraded those Deluxe's to Premiums). At times combo gifts can be GREAT, BUT it should be arranged earlier in the month and everyone who contributes should get the credit, not just the parents.

 

[TIAMOMMA]

Amazing...some people really have some brass ones...
I think it's obvious why they waited until a few days before sending this out - they knew that family members would already have bought presents for their kids, so the kids get the WII PLUS the family members already purchased gifts...I think the response about "it's only another $20.00" proves that.

I knew someone who had 4 boys and REALLY wanted a girl, they obviously had no problems with fertility but didn't want to gamble and land up with a 5th boy. Soooo....they adopted a girl from China. Great, that solved their dilemma and helps a child in need. But THEN the mother had the nerve sending an email out about how tough it was because they owed over $19,000.00 for the adoption and if anyone wanted to chip in....

This was also the same person who purchased a $2000.00 dog and asked parents to chip in. ??????? People just astound me. It's as though we are all sent on earth to assist them in any way possible...

 

[Pooh_Friend#1]

Wow, she thought you would contribute $20 on top of whatever you spent for their Christmas gift, that is just RUDE. If it is "only" $20 then I am sure she would have no problem contributing $20 more dollars. Geez, some people.

 

[Kim&Chris]

I love the way they put the words "won't contribute" into the reply. Passive aggressive nonsense. I'd be so furious

 

[C.Ann]

Well, update. I have already sent my reply saying that since I have already purchased their gifts that I could not contribute to the Wii. This is the reply I received:

"I understand you won't contribute. We just thought even though you bought them something already, since it's only 20 bucks most people wouldn't mind. Thanks anyway. Merry Christmas."

Now, I know it is SO hard to read tone in an email but I am reading this in a snarky way. Am I wrong about that?

I spoke to my mom and she IS going to contribute because she says she'd feel bad if she didn't. I really wonder if they are going to raise enough. My luck I'll be the only one in the family that doesn't cough up the money and then I will look bad.

The "evil" side of me would turn this whole situation around by purchasing a Wii game FOR THE KIDS - which would put the parents in the position of having to cough up the money for a Wii on their own.. But.................... They're so cheap they probably wouldn't and then that would just be torturing the kids..

These people are NUTS !!!!!!!!!

 

[LisaR]

Great idea! DD would like a GT Convertible Mustang for Christmas and I wondered how I was going to fund that. Silly me, I was thinking we couldn't afford it but if I hit up friends and family, they should be able to cover it.

 

[Pooh's Pixie]

That's like my SIL...we are taking the WHOLE family to WDW in April, courtesy of our DVC points, and they are driving because she is afraid to fly...so I mentioned to her, when are you going to tell the kids and she said, oh we're giving it to them for Christmas! I said to DH, what exactly is SHE giving them?! Our DVC points and a couple of tanks of gas? Bah humbug!

 

[tarheel618]

Or return the gifts and send the 20 dollars. Maybe the 20 dollars is less than what you spent on the gifts. If they ask about the gifts then I would tell them that their email seemed desperate for the 20 so you thought it was more important than the gifts you had gotten.

 

[bumbershoot]

Well, update. I have already sent my reply saying that since I have already purchased their gifts that I could not contribute to the Wii. This is the reply I received:

Augh....

They certainly could have saved "only" twenty bucks a month through the year to get this, but obviously it was too much for them to save. Therefore, it's not ONLY anything.

How about getting them a book on etiquette for Christmas? Some people truly have no clue that they are being rude---someone should clue them in.

On another note, last year DBF's parents gave us all 4 Deluxe APs to DLR, his sister and her family chipped in. We were more then thrilled with that, it gave us another year at DLR with little cost to us (we upgraded those Deluxe's to Premiums). At times combo gifts can be GREAT, BUT it should be arranged earlier in the month and everyone who contributes should get the credit, not just the parents.

Nice!

And yes, the present should end up being from everyone, NOT from the parents.

I think it's obvious why they waited until a few days before sending this out - they knew that family members would already have bought presents for their kids, so the kids get the WII PLUS the family members already purchased gifts...I think the response about "it's only another $20.00" proves that.

Agreed.


I knew someone who had 4 boys and REALLY wanted a girl, they obviously had no problems with fertility but didn't want to gamble and land up with a 5th boy. Soooo....they adopted a girl from China. Great, that solved their dilemma and helps a child in need. But THEN the mother had the nerve sending an email out about how tough it was because they owed over $19,000.00 for the adoption and if anyone wanted to chip in....

Aughhhhh. We would have loved to adopt. We coudln't afford it. I've read of people doing fundraisers and getting the money for adoption that way, and even that makes me feel weird, and I can't imagine ever doing it (if I could imagine doing it we would have done it 3 times over!). But asking for contributions AFTER? Ugh.

This was also the same person who purchased a $2000.00 dog and asked parents to chip in. ??????? People just astound me. It's as though we are all sent on earth to assist them in any way possible...

Chip in for the dog???? I'm not sure I could be on their email list anymore....

The "evil" side of me would turn this whole situation around by purchasing a Wii game FOR THE KIDS - which would put the parents in the position of having to cough up the money for a Wii on their own.. But.................... They're so cheap they probably wouldn't and then that would just be torturing the kids..

I like it.

But also agree that it would be torturing the kids, and it's possible they already feel a bit negative in their day to day lives...

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Well, update. I have already sent my reply saying that since I have already purchased their gifts that I could not contribute to the Wii. This is the reply I received:

"I understand you won't contribute. We just thought even though you bought them something already, since it's only 20 bucks most people wouldn't mind. Thanks anyway. Merry Christmas."

Now, I know it is SO hard to read tone in an email but I am reading this in a snarky way. Am I wrong about that?

I spoke to my mom and she IS going to contribute because she says she'd feel bad if she didn't. I really wonder if they are going to raise enough. My luck I'll be the only one in the family that doesn't cough up the money and then I will look bad.

What nerve!!!!!! How freakin' ungrateful!

Are there even any Wii's in stock anywhere to purchase.

 

[goin2disneyagain]

Got an email this morning from a family member. It says that they have decided to buy their children a Wii for Christmas, and that if each family member contributes "at least" $20 they would be able to purchase it. It says if they can't collect enough they won't be able to afford the Wii. It also says if they collect "too much" they will use the overage for games.

At this stage I have already purchased gifts for their kids and I am not interested in pitching in another $20.

It seems so rude to me to request this.

Am I wrong here or just a scrooge? (yeah I could be both)

First of all it's a little late for them to be making such a request but most importantly it's just plain rude and tacky. You are not being a scrooge at all. I wouldn't do it either. Wow, the nerve of some people.....

 

[Piglet4Ever]

My Dad got a call from one of my cousins on my mom's side of the family. My mom is out of town visiting my brother's family and won't be home from Christmas. Anyway, cousins tells Dad that everyone decided to go in together on a gift for my Grandparents. My Dad told cousin that he and my Mom had already gotten a gift for them and so wouldn't be participating. Cousin then tells my Dad that he and my Mom have to give because they are "the money people". Dad then tells cousin you are barking up the wrong tree bud. My Mom lost her job in August and hasn't been able to find a new one yet, Dad's job is pretty much just getting them by and they have my youngest brother living at home and he isn't working either. So I guess it is time for my family to find new "money people". I'm just glad I live on the other side of the country