What Do You Think Is Happening Here...?

[Owlpost23]

You're out of the work loop.Nothing unusual,but can be disappointing.Don't be terribily upset-it happens all the time.Not everyone in your life is in the "run of the play" contract.

 

[JerseyJanice]

It sounds like they've backed off their friendships with you, so you need to do the same with them for now. Whatever you do, don't cause any drama with these people over their recent behavior!

You never know what the future holds, and if you need a personal reference from one of these colleagues for a job or whatever, you'll want to be able to count on them to stand up for you.

Let it go for now and try to reconnect with those coworkers you were closest to in the near future (say in the spring or summer).

Trust me when I tell you that it's very important to maintain friendly connections with former coworkers even if they choose to back away from their friendships with you. Good luck!

 

[LuvLDM]

Have you really left countless messages in just over a week? Maybe that seems like a bit much to them.

 

[AKL_Megs]

I thought you were quitting your job to stay home and have a baby? I might have missed an update.

If you were a flight attendant, wouldn't your coworkers be busy flying from city to city? It's probably hard to respond to texts and get together for meetings if they are out of town all the time.

Have you really left countless messages in just over a week? Maybe that seems like a bit much to them.

Not to any one friend, but I have tried to touch base with everyone, so to ME it feels like countless times to many people... One text per person, a phone call to a couple, and Facebook messages. We used to do all of those things daily.

 

[tlbwriter]

I read something once about the difference between friends and associates, and it said an associate is someone you have a paid relationship with, and you might think they're a friend, but once the paid relationship goes away you usually find they were associates. Sounds like that's what you've got.

Also, I hate to say this, but there are a couple of people who left my office in the last few years who I will avoid like the plague now that I can, even though I was always friendly and chatty when I worked with them.

 

[MrsWendy]

It's often difficult to know why some people drop you as friends. Sometimes people drift apart. Sometimes they are too busy with life things. And sometimes we unknowingly do things to upset them. That last thing happened to me once. I had a friend who suddenly and mysteriously stopped returning my calls and emails. About a year later I found out from another friend that I had offended her because I used the guest towels in her bathroom. She was so upset about it that she immediately ended our friendship. So you never know.

It's unfortunate that you may be losing some of your co-worker friends. But with your upcoming new job you may be able to build even better friendships. Good luck!

 

[DeluxePrincess]

. About a year later I found out from another friend that I had offended her because I used the guest towels in her bathroom. She was so upset about it that she immediately ended our friendship. So you never know.

That would never happen with the OP.