What do you think about relationships with a huge age gap?

[SEAlla]

I don't want to mention any Hollywood relationships because I don't want anyone to base their answer on the way they feel about the specific actors.

But, how do you feel about relationships/marriages with a large age gap. 12, 13, 15 + years. Do you think it could work out in the long run or do you think it just shouldn't be? Does it matter what the ages are or the maturity level?

I'd like to hear what you think...

 

[Marseeya]

I think once we reach adulthood, age shouldn't be a factor if two people love each other enough and have enough in common. It works for some people, but for some, it doesn't.

Personally, I could date a man 10+ years younger than me more than I could date a man 10+ years older than me. It's just the way I am. My DH is 4 years younger than me, and he could never date a younger woman, but he could definitely date someone even older than me.

Just depends on the personalities involved.

 

[bicker]

The question really comes down to where do you draw the line? My wife and I are ten years apart, and I don't know of any couples that are more firmly committed to each other, even after twelve years of marriage. I've seen friends, closer in age to each other that we are, get married, divorced, and remarried (in one case to each other, and divorced again!) in the time my wife and I have been married. I don't think age difference is a significant determining factor in the longevity and health of a relationship.

 

[Ava83]

It depends on the couple. I know its a trite sounding answer but its true for all relationships.

So yes I think it can work, but on a case by case basis.

 

[SEAlla]

My wife and I are ten years apart

Bicker-

If you don't mind me asking, who is older.

 

[bicker]

Can't you tell?

If you can't, my wife will be very happy to know that....

 

[msdznyduck]

I went out with a guy when I was 33 that was 22.......

I made a comment something like...."where were you 10 years ago"......
he told me he was 12

 

[bicker]

My wife likes to muse about what I was doing when she went to her first Pink Floyd concert.

 

[LeCras]

My dad is married to a terrific woman 12 years his junior. They have been married for over 15 years, have two kids together and overall are one of the happiest couples I know. I'd say age is totally irrelevant.

Charlotte

 

[SEAlla]

If you can't, my wife will be very happy to know that....

LOL! No actually I couldn't. Please don't take offfense to that, it's just I can't see the age difference at all.

 

[pattyT]

between two consenting ADULTS

go nuts

have fun


whatever ya want... whatever makes you happy

 

[The Mystery Machine]

I am older than dh by 2 years, not a big deal, I know. For guys it might though.

I think it isn't the age so much as the "path" that you are on together regarding raising children, maturity, careers, plans, etc.
People that are the same age tend to be on the same wavelength or time frame for obvious reasons.

Yes maturity level is important in ALL relationships.

 

[dmslush]

There is 11 years difference between SO and myself. Our relationship is more solid that most of our friends and coworkers. We are one of the only couples that we know that not only love each other, we are each other's friend. We have been together for 10 years come next month.

 

[bicker]

LOL! No actually I couldn't. Please don't take offfense to that, it's just I can't see the age difference at all.

Not at all, and my wife thanks you.

She's the AARP member in that picture; I'm the associate member.

 

[SEAlla]

She's the AARP member in that picture; I'm the associate member.

LOL, you are too funny!

 

[NMAmy]

DH is 11 years older than me. We started dating when I was in my mid-30's and he was in his mid-40's. It's never been an issue for us in our relationship. If you notice my tag, I made a comment once that the way to always look young is to hang out with folks who are older than you!

 

[Maleficent13]

For an age difference of 10 or so years, it's not a big deal. However, my roommate in college was 19...dating a 55 yr old. At the time we all thought it was perhaps a bit too much of a difference (or rather, in 19 yr old speak...EEEEEWWWWW!!). I think I still think that it's too big a difference.

 

[LeCras]

Ooh, I don't know - I've always found Sean Connery dead sexy even though he's older than my dad!!

Charlotte

 

[chrissyk]

I don't think that it's a good idea, but only because my grandmother threatened to beat the life out of me if I ever married an older man. She married a man who is more than a decade her senior, and needless to say, they have not aged at the same pace She said that it was great when she was young, though. She is adamant that a big age difference between husband and wife is a terrible idea, and I guess that her experience affected my views on the subject in a big way.

 

[RadioFanatic]

I have a friend who is my age (33) married to a wonderful 63 year old man. They have been together for 10 years, married for 4. They just had a set of twins. I think it does work out if they are the right personalities for each other.