WowLookAtThat
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My brother is a typical mooch. Tight with his own money but uses other people's funds freely. For instance, whenever we go out-I typically pay-even when he invites me out. How many times could he be saving up for something or forgot his wallet?
Now this is it.
A couple of years ago I was living in a vacation state, my brother wanted to come and to save me the trouble-invited himself and my mother. Initially I said no but realized I missed family. I paid for my mom's ticket and his as well out of savings. I thought I would be paid back but he went through hard times again so I said fine and forgave the debt. I paid for the tickets, cooked all the food, he never chipped in when we went out, nothing. I knew after that I wouldn't have him over again. He acted horribly in last time, getting mad at my mom for asking him for money (but it was o.k. for him to rely on me??), getting stupidly drunk in public and acted like a frat boy on Spring Break. It was really embarrassing.
So fast forward to today. I am living in another country and during a phone call he asks me when would I invite him over. I said no and tried to change the subject. Well, he goes on about how he wants to travel and wants to come in October. We already have plans and he says "Well, you live there so you can change the time." We already have money saved towards this trip, deposits put down and there is no way I am even willing to change it because of his behavior last time. The last time he invited himself over and I told him that it wasn't a good time, he acted rudely towards me.
We are here for a limited time and we have trips planned up, money saved for them and I am not willing to use what we have saved to again host someone who has rarely said thank you and keeps asking for more. If he wants to travel, he can pay for his own plane ticket and a place to stay. I am sick of feeling guilty for telling someone that they are not welcome. I love him but I can't afford to pay for him and not give up something that my husband and I want to do.
Now this is it.
A couple of years ago I was living in a vacation state, my brother wanted to come and to save me the trouble-invited himself and my mother. Initially I said no but realized I missed family. I paid for my mom's ticket and his as well out of savings. I thought I would be paid back but he went through hard times again so I said fine and forgave the debt. I paid for the tickets, cooked all the food, he never chipped in when we went out, nothing. I knew after that I wouldn't have him over again. He acted horribly in last time, getting mad at my mom for asking him for money (but it was o.k. for him to rely on me??), getting stupidly drunk in public and acted like a frat boy on Spring Break. It was really embarrassing.
So fast forward to today. I am living in another country and during a phone call he asks me when would I invite him over. I said no and tried to change the subject. Well, he goes on about how he wants to travel and wants to come in October. We already have plans and he says "Well, you live there so you can change the time." We already have money saved towards this trip, deposits put down and there is no way I am even willing to change it because of his behavior last time. The last time he invited himself over and I told him that it wasn't a good time, he acted rudely towards me.
We are here for a limited time and we have trips planned up, money saved for them and I am not willing to use what we have saved to again host someone who has rarely said thank you and keeps asking for more. If he wants to travel, he can pay for his own plane ticket and a place to stay. I am sick of feeling guilty for telling someone that they are not welcome. I love him but I can't afford to pay for him and not give up something that my husband and I want to do.
