What do you do if you have absolutely NOBODY in the world to talk to?

[zakatak]

Theoretically, if you have no family, and the only friend you have is friends with your husband too (hence she can't talk about him nor listen to your problems)... who do you talk to when you feel just about at the end of your rope?

A complete stranger?
Someone off the street?

The disboards?

Just wondering...

k

 

[Princess_Aurora]

When I have absolutely no one to talk to I come to the DIS

Or writing in a journal could help if its just something I need to get off my chest.

 

[Lars624]

There are many kind hearts and willing listeners here on the Dis boards Let me know if I can help......always willing.

 

[shep]

I come here..But most of the time I have someone to talk to..

 

[Disney845]

There are soooo many nice people here on the Dis, but there is that handful that never have anything nice to say, and are always playing devil's advocate. Sometimes I think people would be better off not sharing some of their problems here, because I think that the negativity of some on the board could do more worse than good. The anonymity of being on the internet and tossing out questions or info just to get advice can be great though. I know there are many here who wouldn't mind a PM to discuss whatever problems have befallen you as of late, and could provide that needed shoulder to hypothetically cry on. I would not suggest sharing any intimate details that might be "fresh wounds" for you in an open forum, b/c as I said many can be harsh, and even if their intention was not to be cruel to you, in a hightened state of emotions you might take it the wrong way and it could further set you back!

I know that it wouldn't be an immediate help, but perhaps you could join a book/sewing/aerobics club (insert any club) and meet more people. I don't have any room to talk as I am not a "joiner" by nature, but it could be an affective way of meeting new friends (with similar interests) who wouldn't be attached to your husband.

 

[Rajah]

I come to the DIS, either the CB in general, or PMing individuals.

 

[Serena]

I write it down, or come here.

When my husband and I were having problems, I needed someone to talk to. No one wanted to hear it. We were perfect and they didn't want to hear otherwise, and that was from family and friends, for years.
When we split up my dad was devestated. He said he didn't know what the world was coming to and couldn't rely on anything anymore.
Everyone is totally shocked now, they don't know what to think.

So, I come here.

 

[TINKTWINS]

I dont have family of my own. I have in-laws but none of them are people that I would turn to when in need. I do have one close friend but she also is friendly with DH. I try to be active. I have 5 kids, 3 are school age so being involved in their lives brings me around lots of other people and that helps alot. Volunteering for different school/sport activities always gives you people to talk to, and who knows you could just find the friend you need!!

 

[Goofyposter]

Groosch zakatak....

....I ain't no 'racket scientist'....but, I'll lend yer a shoulder, or a tissue....and try to make ya smilie!

Feel free to PM me anytime!

 

[TINKTWINS]

I dont have family of my own. I have in-laws but none of them are people that I would turn to when in need. I do have one close friend but she also is friendly with DH. I try to be active. I have 5 kids, 3 are school age so being involved in their lives brings me around lots of other people and that helps alot. Volunteering for different school/sport activities always gives you people to talk to, and who knows you could just find the friend you need!!

 

[zakatak]

Thanks guys... I don't want to/nor can't get into it all here anyways... I just wish I had someone to really TALK to... it used to be my husband, but it isn't anymore. That makes it really lonely around here.

Thanks for the support. I know I can always come here.

Karen

 

[believe]

No debates...just stating what I do. I usually have someone to turn to, but there are times that no one is answering their phones. I know I can always talk to God. Yes, you would probably think I was talking to myself....the answers usually do come, if not atleast I feel better that He is there for me.

 

[Robinrs]

Karen,

Sometimes you can be in an environment of MILLIONS and still not have that one person to talk to...

I used to live in NY, and dealt with and was friends with literally thousands of people, my Dad is one of 14 and I have over 100 cousins, I have two sisters, 4 nieces and nephews and 8 great nieces and nephews and there were times I needed someone to share something with.

This board has been my refuge more times than I can tell you. When my cat died, when my deceased son's birthday came around and no one noticed, when I lost my aunt and then my Mom... I cannot tell you how they rallied around me and kept me from falling.

There is nothing too small or too silly that someone here has not already been through and can get you through it, too.

God bless,

--Robinrs

 

[Robinrs]

Of course I agree with believe...

I spend half my day talking to God and my Mom!

 

[Buckalew]

Another vote for God. I tell Him everything. Usually I bypass DH until I talk with God. Then my head and heart are usually much clearer to be able to talk to him. I have several girlfriends but if I really need advice I'd be talking to Mr. & Mrs. Murphy. Dan has given me very good sound advice. My girlfriends tend to tell me what they think I want to hear or just don't have the life experience to always help. I can always vent to them though.

Many {{{hugs}}} Karen. I hope you find that good friendship here.

 

[zakatak]

Robinrs... I, too, have lost my Mother. 10 years ago to Breast Cancer. I was 23 at the time. My Father died 4 years ago on Valentines Day 1998. I have no siblings that give a damn about me (very distant and screwed up worse than me! lol).

How can you talk to your Mother without crying? I still can't. I just wish so much she could have met my children. They are 6, 4 and 2 and I have so many questions for her!

Thanks everyone! I could really write a novel about stuff that has gone wrong and stuff that has gone right in my life... couldn't everyone? Just lately, though, things aren't looking that bright. You know the old saying, no way out? Well... I am trying hard, very very hard, not to think like that.

Basically, it comes down to how I need to figure out how to be a single mother living with a husband.

I am looking forward to my sebatical soon, however I will worry about the kids! I'm sure they will be fine, just mother's guilt working.

Thanks again.
Karen

 

[antnee]

I feel counselling works best for me when I need to talk to someone