What do you do about a spouse who doesn't want to do Disney again?

[Sillyminny40]

3 boys and I want to go back. DH has had enough but he has been 5 times more than us and we have not had enough. We could go to WDW 3 times a year and yet have only gone 5 in ten years.

Have you gone without a spouse?

 

[theatermouse]

I haven't, but I would!

Actually, my sister-in-law really wants to get her boys to WDW (as they're the only kids in the family who haven't been) and she knows that my brother won't do it, so she's come to realize the only way she'll ever get them there is for her to go at it alone, or at least without my brother, but maybe with other family members. Both my brother & his wife have been, but my brother is a "1 & done" sort of guy. She hates to leave him home, but she wants to go & take her boys, so "see ya later, honey!"

 

[karliebug]

I go without him. Several trips I took without hubby, just me and the kids. He took his vacation hunting and on a boy scout outing so the kids and I did disney without him. He did go on our last trip in January but I don't consider it essential that he come. In fact we sometimes have more fun without him because he doesn't like a lot of the rides that the kids do.

 

[disneynut67]

I go every year with my mom and kids, dh hubby doesn't want to go that much so yes I leave him at home. Sometimes he will come for 1/2 the vaca, we go for 10 days, he does the first or last 5, everyone is happy!

 

[Darcy03231]

Every trip I've taken to WDW except the first one has been without DH. He hates it (but in all fairness he hates all theme parks, lines, crowds, heat, etc). I've been taking the kids on my own since they were little (they're now 15, 17, 20 & 24). Usually while we're there he goes on a fishing, kayaking, camping trip with his buddies (not my idea of a good time - but to each his own). Some trips my mother came with me and once my sister and her family came, but mostly its been me and the kids. We have a great time! (and I don't have to worry about whether or not he's having a good time, making my trip miserable). GO! Have a wonderful trip. In fact, the kids and I are going to Universal Studios the end of the month for spring break and DH is staying home (and we're all happy).

DH and I usually take a cruise or an all-inclusive resort vacation by ourselves at some point during the year too.

 

[MJAJmom]

Last year we went twice with DS3 and DS6. One time in April with DH, one time in October without DH. I loved going without him!!! And will do it again for our June trip

 

[Deffenm]

The only trip DH has gone with us is 2007. DH does not really like it but loves being with the family and seeing the kids' faces. So he goes every few years and we are all much happier.

 

[myprincessgirlisa]

if we had the funds right now Id take DD & we'd go & he could go on a trip with the guys

DH says hes "tired" of going to WDW...BBBBOOOOOO!!!!!!!

 

[Tenuviel]

At the moment we don't go enough for my DH to tire of it, but I know someday we will probably reach that point

My cousin and I want to do a girls trip and her DH isn't a huge theme park fan, so I could see her and I going with our kiddos minus the DHs and actually I think it would be a blast! So yeah, I would do it as long as DH was okay with it and we were still able to have some special family time all together that year!

 

[frtchr]

Maybe take a break and go somewhere else. I personally wouldn't take a vacation without my husband, but that's just me. I'm obviously in the minority. LOL

 

[starrynyt]

3 boys and I want to go back. DH has had enough but he has been 5 times more than us and we have not had enough. We could go to WDW 3 times a year and yet have only gone 5 in ten years.

Have you gone without a spouse?

My DH is moaning about going in June. I told him to stay home. I love going and we always go with my parents and brother who is 16 years younger than me. I could go 4 times a year and it still not be enough. For me with so many kids so little it is the best place for us all to have a good time.

I say if you can't take a family member that you would enjoy being there with what about a sitter. When we go in June we are going to take our sitter so there will be 6 adults and 4 kids. It seemed like a no brainer to take her since it is only costing us for the park ticket and dining plan since we already need 3 rooms with our party size and are driving. I looked at it that if we were at home we would be paying her that for watching the kids because they would be out of school so it is a break even for taking her.

I would rather go without DH than have him there making me miserable.

 

[steelebug]

I take the kids by myself. My kids are 8,6, and 3. We just fly down, my mom lives in Orlando but the kids and I stay on property for the ease of the buses. We have a great time. I am usually more relaxed because I am not so worried if he is having a good time. This summer we are going to Myrtle beach but I hope to get to Disney with the kids after Xmas. Oh and Mom doesn't go to the parks but maybe 1 day with us. It is so manageable because the kids love it at Disney.

 

[Colleen27]

I've gone without DH. I don't especially like to, but his work schedule can be very demanding and greatly limits our opportunities to travel, especially during the summer. He loves Disney and comes when he can (he was/will be part of 3 of the 5 trips in my sig), but he doesn't want that to be the only vacation he takes so some winters we head to Mexico or some other beach destination instead. And I don't want Disney to be the only place my kids go, so over the summer my mom & I take them on other vacations to places that wouldn't be as much fun in the winter. Now that DS is getting older, we'll probably be splitting up along gender lines for some trips too, because DS wants to golf and canoe and hunt with DH. So we're talking about a spring "girls only" weekend for Flower & Garden 2010 while DH & DS take advantage of the low spring rates at a golf resort DH likes.

 

[cogero]

luckily DH loves to go but that being said I have gone on vacation without him. Not to Disney but other places. it is just one of those things

 

[~Kristina~]

I've gone without my dh.

 

[disneymomof2boyz]

Compromise...or maybe do a Disney Cruise...not exactly Disney World, but you should get your fill pf magic. Maybe you all can go one year to where he wants and then another year where you want.

 

[MARY-IN-OH]

It's common for guys to go on trips without us. Fishing, golfing etc. They don't feel guilty. They have a good time. I wouldn't want to go on "his" trip's. If he would be happier "not" going to Disney, and you and the kids will be happy going to Disney, that's what you should do!

When you get home, he will enjoy looking all of your pictures, and since absence makes the heart grow fonder....

Go and have a great vacation with people who really want to be there, you won't be gone that long!
-mary

 

[taylor3297]

My brother in law really does not like going to disney due to expense and crowds. Once he is there he has a good time because his girls are having a good time. My brother in law went on the last family trip we did together. He said that was his last trip and told my sister that she is more than welcome to go without him next time.

I have already told my husband that he doesn't have to go on the next trip when he complained about the price. In the end I know he will be going.

So I guess I am trying to say is you are not alone, but go without DH and have a good time.

 

[Worfiedoodles]

I'm taking ds11 by myself over Thanksgiving as a reward for a special effort he's making this summer/fall. My dh abhors all things Disney, and actually suggested I take him by myself. I probably wouldn't have done it when ds was "in-between" -- too young for the men's room and iffy in the ladies room. At 11, I know he'll be fine. Since you have 3ds', I think that will not be a concern for you -- and with 3, you can get the oldest to be your "helper".

My best advice is to not make your dh go -- trust me, it's not pretty!

 

[Sandi]

DD14 and I go without DH every year. He just isn't into Disney; we are. He also takes DD14 on trips without me (I don't need to jump in Lake Superior every summer; they do). We all take family trips together. Then, DD does her summer camps thing without DH and me. Everyone is very happy. You have to do what's right for your family.