What do YOU consider to be a clique thread?

[grinningghost]

As previous posters said, I've often posted lengthy responses that get totally ignored, but someone else says the same thing and THEN the idea gets a response - positive or negative.

I wonder if the number of tags is related to the level of cliquishness... I realize that some are just eloquent posters, but there are often newbies with several tags and veterans with none.

I honestly don't think the tags have anything to do with it. I've got a bunch of tags and I don't belong to any cliques. I'm not very eloquent either.

 

[MerryPoppins]

This is probably going to fall on deaf ears, but it'll make me feel better. I'm part of two threads that most of you would call cliques, I guess. To me, they are just a group of friends. I'm not afraid to venture out without them. I just like their company. I like "getting together" with them each day and sharing what's going on in our lives and making each other laugh. It disturbs me to be lumped together with unfriendly groups who are unwelcoming of others.

One such thread is the GAGWTA thread. It's a group of really neat breast cancer survivors. We welcome anyone. You don't have to have had cancer. Look for us if you want to offer good wishes or if you are having a cancer scare. The only code words you'll find are medical terms or our GAGWTA greeting which is explained in the thread.

I'm also an Angel. We originally formed because of the daily riddle. (I'm a sometimes riddler, too. Guess that makes me part of three cliques? ) We didn't want to hijack the riddle each day for the riddle lovers, so we formed another thread to talk and laugh. Do we sometimes say things that others wouldn't understand? Sure, but we'll always explain if anyone asks. And we've welcomed many people over the years.

To me a true clique is in the business of excluding others. If you FEEL excluded that is not the same thing as BEING excluded in my book. If you are turned off by the size of our threads, we are sorry. We're not in the business of trying to recruit new members. So there is no reason to forbid in-jokes or limit post counts in our threads. The point I'm trying to make is that if you visited you'd find we are friendly. Would you "get" what keeps us posting? Maybe not, but do we all have to like the same things?

We've been lumped in the complaints about cliques before. I just needed to defend my choice of friends, even if it was a waste of breath. And by the way, I've never called all my friends to come to my defense when attacked on a thread. I guess if they ever did, it was because they were venturing out just like me.

Hopping down off my soapbox. Have a great day!

 

[Doesney]

You obviously didn't say it right -- try a funny voice or a prop next time .

Or try posting pictures of an alcoholic drink or better yet something disgusting. That should grab attention

 

[Tigger&Belle]

Or try posting pictures of an alcoholic drink or better yet something disgusting. That should grab attention

Yeah, I can't wait to see the next disgusting picture!

Seriously, though, there have been so many times that I have posted on non-clique threads and said something, only to be ignored and have someone come along right after me and say the same thing and have the OP or someone else recognize what they have said and totally ignore what I have said. I used to get my nose a little out of joint until I realized that I was probably just honestly overlooked. Either that or the special favors I now do (when I'm not ignored) really do pay off.

 

[momm2four]

If you FEEL excluded that is not the same thing as BEING excluded in my book.

I totally agree with that. Sometimes, based on our own insecurities, we "assign" thoughts and feelings to people b/c that is what WE think they believe.

Lori P.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

I think you are absoluetly right. I have been on the DIS since early 1999 (my post count was reset twice due to system failures back in the "olde days") but I have never been tagged. I rarely post on the CB and almost never to the clique-y fun-fun-fun mega threads. Either the tag fairy thinks I am boring or I just don't post to the "right" threads ... and certainly not the TF "clapping and begging" threads! At this point I am proud of my tagless status, LOL! I don't want a tag and I don't need a tag. I'm just fine the way I am. Boring and under the tag fairy's radar .

Umm you have a tag.

 

[MushyMushy]

I think you are absoluetly right. I have been on the DIS since early 1999 (my post count was reset twice due to system failures back in the "olde days") but I have never been tagged. I rarely post on the CB and almost never to the clique-y fun-fun-fun mega threads. Either the tag fairy thinks I am boring or I just don't post to the "right" threads ... and certainly not the TF "clapping and begging" threads! At this point I am proud of my tagless status, LOL! I don't want a tag and I don't need a tag. I'm just fine the way I am. Boring and under the tag fairy's radar .

I didn't think of it that way. My Marseeya name had four tags, but I never felt like I belonged in any clique, or that I'm particularly witty. I just think getting tagged is a matter of being in the right thread at the right time when the TF is in the right mood.

And this username got tagged on my 2nd post. Kinda defeated the purpose of changing my username.

 

[phorsenuf]

And this username got tagged on my 2nd post. Kinda defeated the purpose of changing my username.

Why did you change your name? I recognized your avatar but was surprised when I saw the name.

 

[robinb]

Umm you have a tag.

Yes, that's a user defined tag not a tag fairy tag. I put that one in myself a couple of years ago. It used to be blue when we could color our own tags and then it was accidentally deleted by a tech person and it's now black.

 

[Miss Jasmine]

Yes, that's a user defined tag not a tag fairy tag. I put that one in myself a couple of years ago. It used to be blue when we could color our own tags and then it was accidentally deleted by a tech person and it's now black.

It looks red to me. Either way I am joking with you.

 

[JulyGirl]

Yes, that's a user defined tag not a tag fairy tag. I put that one in myself a couple of years ago. It used to be blue when we could color our own tags and then it was accidentally deleted by a tech person and it's now black.

I see your tag and info as being red.

 

[MushyMushy]

Why did you change your name? I recognized your avatar but was surprised when I saw the name.

I've been using Marseeya for way too long now (over 10 years), and now that I'm going to start teaching I wanted to distance myself from the name and make it a little harder to find me if anyone wanted to do any checking. I've got nothing to hide, which is why I'm being fairly open about it.

 

[GeorgiaAristocat]

Mostly it's the former. Who in the heck cares on the general CB that I'm pregnant? I don't expect anyone to. But if I post in an area where I've known people for awhile, they ask how the baby is, how I'm feeling, and so forth. And that makes me feel good.

And, there are those who believe "friendly debate" belongs on every thread. Sometimes that's just exhausting.

Congratulations on the baby!

I confess, I decided to read this thread just for entertainment, and to see if, in fact, the small group that I belong to has caused any true resentment, since I do not believe that we have done so intentionally.

I don't like that everyone has decided to call them "cliques." It just seems so, I don't know, junior high or high school. Just like in real life, I have connected with a group of friends through this HUGE board. Is my group of friends that I meet face to face regularly considered a "clique?" I doubt it. We are friends. We have common interests. We know each other's histories, woes, joys, children, stories. The only difference between those friends, and my friends from here is HOW we communicate.

But, I have enjoyed seeing other people's views on this subject. Perhaps I felt the same six months ago. I don't think I did. At that point I recognized that there were already groups here on the DIS that had connected in a more personal way than just talking about Disney. I would think everyone would be happy about this. Why be upset that someone else has made a new friend? (Well, except for the thread highjacking and traveling in packs concerns, which I will certainly be more aware of now.)

Hmmmm, I think I need to stop now. I think I'm only making things worse probably.

Sorry.

 

[robinb]

It looks red to me. Either way I am joking with you.

Ah! It looks black in Firefox and Red in IE. Very strange. The tech must have colored it when I asked for the "Biggest Loser Blue Team" tag to be removed.

 

[Kitty 34]

I honestly don't think the tags have anything to do with it. I've got a bunch of tags and I don't belong to any cliques. I'm not very eloquent either.

I have a bunch of tags but never got them because I belong to one of the clique threads, either.

 

[disykat]

I consider some of the threads people are talking about to be "clubs" and don't mind them at all. What I consider clique threads are normal threads that get taken over. I'm impressed with this thread. 7 pages and I've only counted 3 posts that didn't make sense to me because I'm not part of their gang. 7 pages and only 3 attempted hijackings is a miracle on the DIS lately.

 

[Toby'sFriend]

I you want to do a morning shout out to your particular group of friends, that is a Clique.

If you start making up a secret code and start posting using those words which have a specialized meaning that only your "special friends" are going to be able to decipher, that is a clique.

If you start trolling around with your buddies and decide that certain threads need to be hijacked with a cyber drinking game because you don't like it's tone, that is a clique.

If you and a group of friends start telling people that you "own" a thread and they can't post on it until they learn your rules or that they need to delete their tag because you don't like it -- that is a clique.

 

[Tigger&Belle]

I don't like that everyone has decided to call them "cliques." It just seems so, I don't know, junior high or high school. Just like in real life, I have connected with a group of friends through this HUGE board. Is my group of friends that I meet face to face regularly considered a "clique?" I doubt it. We are friends. We have common interests. We know each other's histories, woes, joys, children, stories. The only difference between those friends, and my friends from here is HOW we communicate.

But, I have enjoyed seeing other people's views on this subject. Perhaps I felt the same six months ago. I don't think I did. At that point I recognized that there were already groups here on the DIS that had connected in a more personal way than just talking about Disney. I would think everyone would be happy about this. Why be upset that someone else has made a new friend? (Well, except for the thread highjacking and traveling in packs concerns, which I will certainly be more aware of now.)

Hmmmm, I think I need to stop now. I think I'm only making things worse probably.

Sorry.

I think that you expressed yourself very well!