What do you consider TMI?

[My sister's princess]

I have posted alot of info about myself over my TR, and in other places on the boards. I have shared details of my trips, budgets of my wedding *, and information about my job.

However I would never post family issues, if someone in my family was very ill etc.

What do you consider off limits when you are posting? Do you ever worry that people IRL will discover you are posting about them?


*Not budget exactly, but when asked by another Disney bride what I paid for my flowers, photog, etc, I responded.

 

[lacrosse_lady72]

I have posted alot of info about myself over my TR, and in other places on the boards. I have shared details of my trips, budgets of my wedding, and information about my job.

However I would never post family issues, if someone in my family was very ill etc.

What do you consider off limits when you are posting? Do you ever worry that people IRL will discover you are posting about them?

I think different boards have different versions of TMI. For example, I wouldn't talk about "family issues" on any TRs but I might bring it up here on the CB. I think for wedding stuff, I'd post it in the Wedding and Honeymoon board. For travel stuff, the Transportation board. WWoHP, in the Universal boards.

I can and will talk about anything, but sometimes (aka a lot of the time) the DIS doesn't allow it per either the "rules" or by them deleting my post, so they end up TMIing me. I think as long as they're in their appropriate places (see above) then you shouldn't have a problem. And if they're not, you'll probably be fine too

 

[golfgal]

I would say posting financial information is generally too much information vs posting about a sick family member, especially if someone is asking for prayers. Posting budgets for trips, weddings, etc. to me is bragging-not matter how much you spend.

 

[Planogirl]

I would never post anything specific about my identity. I also won't post private info about someone else because I would hate to embarass anyone if they found out. I personally don't need to hear about body functions and such things either...

I don't mind specific financial information if it comes to sales and good deals and the like. Salaries and the costs of weddings and fancy vacations and all that seems to be irrelevant.

 

[My sister's princess]

I think different boards have different versions of TMI. For example, I wouldn't talk about "family issues" on any TRs but I might bring it up here on the CB. I think for wedding stuff, I'd post it in the Wedding and Honeymoon board. For travel stuff, the Transportation board. WWoHP, in the Universal boards.

I can and will talk about anything, but sometimes (aka a lot of the time) the DIS doesn't allow it per either the "rules" or by them deleting my post, so they end up TMIing me. I think as long as they're in their appropriate places (see above) then you shouldn't have a problem. And if they're not, you'll probably be fine too

I didn't mean on which boards. I mean what is your personal limit. I wouldn't talk about family issues on any board. I also wouldn't ask for a diagnosis. I did ask for advice on frying eggs one time....

I would say posting financial information is generally too much information vs posting about a sick family member, especially if someone is asking for prayers. Posting budgets for trips, weddings, etc. to me is bragging-not matter how much you spend.

When it comes to the wedding board, if someone is specifically asking for help in finding something in their price range, I don't think it is bragging to tell them what you spent, and what you got.

I don't mean when people ask for prayers for their family who is ill, I mean when people discuss in great detail their childrens' bodies


So you doesn't talk about costs of trips, that would be your personal limit?

 

[Silent1CB]

Generally, its its not something I would stand in a room full of strangers & yell, then I wouldn't post it.

Also, some things some people just don't need to know. Sometimes the info doesn't change the story by leaving it out.

Every once in a while, I have to go back & remind myself that people can connect enough dots, and just how much of a picture or a trail do I want to leave.

And sometimes, people just think they are way more interesting to others than they really are. I don't need to know every single little detail about people, their family, their kids, their neighbors, their kids teachers..... If I need to know, I'll ask.

You can get around costs of trips by saying its 2 weeks take home pay instead of a dollar amount.

 

[My sister's princess]

I would never post anything specific about my identity. I also won't post private info about someone else because I would hate to embarass anyone if they found out. I personally don't need to hear about body functions and such things either...

I don't mind specific financial information if it comes to sales and good deals and the like. Salaries and the costs of weddings and fancy vacations and all that seems to be irrelevant.

You and I are along the same thinking.

 

[My sister's princess]

Generally, its its not something I would stand in a room full of strangers & yell, then I wouldn't post it.

Also, some things some people just don't need to know. Sometimes the info doesn't change the story by leaving it out.

Every once in a while, I have to go back & remind myself that people can connect enough dots, and just how much of a picture or a trail do I want to leave.

And sometimes, people just think they are way more interesting to others than they really are. I don't need to know every single little detail about people, their family, their kids, their neighbors, their kids teachers..... If I need to know, I'll ask.

You made me snort

 

[Planogirl]

You and I are along the same thinking.

I think so too. If someone wonders what something will cost and you tell them what you got and what the price was, I think that's fine. If no one asked and someone spent a lot and tells everyone how much that's a bit too much.

Is someone complaining about prices being posted? That's too bad.

 

[My sister's princess]

I think so too. If someone wonders what something will cost and you tell them what you got and what the price was, I think that's fine. If no one asked and someone spent a lot and tells everyone how much that's a bit too much.

Is someone complaining about prices being posted? That's too bad.

That is more what I am talking about. For people planning weddings thousands of miles from where they are, finding someone who has had a good experience, is a life saver! Though, there are people who continuously share every penny they spend! That is way TMI for my tastes

 

[PebblesMK]

You made me snort

I think you should post pics of your entire family and your address.....I want to be a creeper! Also, you may just find a plaid flannel shirt laying on your porch one day with a note that says "Tuck me in".

 

[Mermaid02]

If it's something only myself and someone else knows and it's not about ME I don't post it. If it's about illness (my aunt is in the hospital with a blood clot at the moment for instance) and our whole family knows it- I might post for others experiences or good thoughts.

 

[DebbieB]

When it comes to yourself, you can decide what you want to post and if any of it could reveal your real identity. I'd be careful on family or work issues in case someone you know makes a connection.

I draw the line at posting information that could reveal someone else's personal information, especially without their knowledge. There was one time that really upset me. There was a member of this board who died suddenly. A link was posted to her death notice, which revealed all her personal information. She had her daughter's picture in her signature, so someone who knew her could have already made the connection. Then a couple months later, someone who knew her posted that the board member's mother was trying to get custody of her young daughter because the daughter's dad was abusive. So this little girl's privacy was violated. That went too far.

 

[My sister's princess]

If it's something only myself and someone else knows and it's not about ME I don't post it. If it's about illness (my aunt is in the hospital with a blood clot at the moment for instance) and our whole family knows it- I might post for others experiences or good thoughts.

Makes total sense.

We are a great example of what I am talking about. We were both posting on a message board with fake names, yet we found a common link, and know some of the same people!

 

[My sister's princess]

When it comes to yourself, you can decide what you want to post and if any of it could reveal your real identity. I'd be careful on family or work issues in case someone you know makes a connection.

I draw the line at posting information that could reveal someone else's personal information, especially without their knowledge. There was one time that really upset me. There was a member of this board who died suddenly. A link was posted to her death notice, which revealed all her personal information. She had her daughter's picture in her signature, so someone who knew her could have already made the connection. Then a couple months later, someone who knew her posted that the board member's mother was trying to get custody of her young daughter because the daughter's dad was abusive. So this little girl's privacy was violated. That went too far.

Poor family!

 

[Mermaid02]

Makes total sense.

We are a great example of what I am talking about. We were both posting on a message board with fake names, yet we found a common link, and know some of the same people!

And we don't give away each other's alter egos!

 

[My sister's princess]

And we don't give away each other's alter egos!

Good gravy NO! Because of my posting here, you could have (and probably did) know I was eloping before my family and friends

 

[Mad4Mickey]

I would never post anything that I would not say at work . The company I work for even looks at Facebook so even there I am very careful .

I LOVE the BUDGET BOARD! They do not love me LOL I love to get great deals and there is tons of stuff I would have missed out on .So when people post money saving tips and deals they have gotten I always pay attention . But when someone posts what "they" are making at work I always just back out of that and read no further . I know when I see that , that someone is just not right LOL

As far as the wedding cost post I do not think that is bragging if someone is asking I think it is helpful .

With the budget questions I do not think that is bragging either , I think that sometimes people have never been and really have no idea what to plan on spending .

 

[KandD]

I don't post anything that would give away my "true" identity. It is not so much that I don't want the Disboard members to know me but rather for my real life people not to identify my posts! LOL. Sometimes I just come here to vent and I would never want anyone to be hurt by my posts. I actually have a situation going on right now that sometimes I just want to come on here and let it all out but I know that it would be too much specific info so I don't. (I don't even know anyone in my real life that goes on the DIS...but just in case).
As far as the financial stuff....sometimes I am surprised by what people post (like how much $ they are in debt) but at the same time, I don't know them so I guess what is the harm? I wouldn't have a problem posting how much I spent on something if someone asked.

 

[ksumn1]

I think it depends on the context of the post or thread. I've posted some general financial stuff on threads before, but definately not in a bragging manner. I asked for advice on some spending habits of DH and mine on the budget board to get ideas on how others have handled the situation. I've talked about my family and Dd's. Given out some background information aslo but I've also misstated, overstated, understated or blown out of proportion this very same information. Kind of as a safeguard in a way.


But I'm a pretty open person, in general. I'll talk about almost anything. A context example. I wouldn't ever start a post about my (previous) intimacy issues asking for advice but have posted about same issues on a birth control thread referencing how hormones seemed to be a major cause of the problem. I don't think I'd ask for alot of medical advice. In general, if I wouldnt put it on fb on my wall, I wouldn't put it on the Dis.

Another example, someone I know is getting a divorce. Very sordid, ugly mess, especially for my "friend". I am in total agreement with most of our friends that the friend's (soon to be) ex spouse was in the wrong and I think horrible, hateful things about this person. And to be honest, have said some things that aren't nice in person to other who are aware of the situation. But because we have people on fb in common, I have keep my thoughts and opinions in check. and becasue I won't say it on fb, I definately wouldn't say it on here. KWIM?

Oh but I can honestly say I would NEVER, EVER start a thread about my menstrual cycle, decribing it's length, physical descriptors about its attributes or any other problems with the "nether" regions.