What do most people do with a loved one's ashes?

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My mom picked up my dad's ashes from the funeral home a few weeks ago.

The wooden box (urn) is just sitting at my mom's house on the floor next to the couch. What do most people do with a loved one's ashes? I don't like the thought of someone's ashes being in the house. I don't really have a good reason other than it makes me feel uncomfortable and overwhelmingly sad.
I know some people scatter the ashes at favorite places. My dad never specified what we should do with the ashes. I don't really want to bring it up to my mom because she is still having a very difficult time adjusting to her "new life" without my dad. The sudden death is still a shock to her.

I don't want her to feel sad all the time. I don't know if having his ashes there makes it worse for her. I don't even want to go near the box. I don't really handle death well, so I may be making more out of it.

I guess I'm just looking for opinions on what is normal.

OK here it goes, all 3 of my dogs sit in a little can on the shelf, it was closure for my kids
My step-dads parents in the urn in a glass cabinet
My friends wife, on the bookshelf in the gathering room as her kids wanted.
My father-in-law, his ashes were buried at a family cemetary per his older sister & all agreed
My sister's MIL was out in the garage in a box till the family came up with $ & a better plan. She's now properly buried.

When I die I wanted a pinch of me to be sprinkled at Disney but I understand that's a big no no, so I'll probably end up at the beach, I'll never know, I'll be dead

It's OK to be uncomfortable with it, it took me a long time to relax & face the fact that this is just a part of life that no one likes dealing with & some find it creepy. Normal? That's a toughie, not sure myself?

It's sad no matter how you look at it & I'm so sorry for you & your mom. I hope you find peace down the road.