What Did You Ask Your 'Maids to Pay For?

[DinahInWonderland]

As a part of my gift to my bridesmaids I am paying for their shoes, jewelry and handbags. When it comes to adding on hair and make-up I just don't think we are going to be able to afford it, and I think a couple of my girls might be expecting it becasue we have paid for everything so far but the dresses. Did your girls pay for their own hair the day of? How did you let them know this was going to be their expense? Or did they just assume it on their own?

 

[dhay]

As a part of my gift to my bridesmaids I am paying for their shoes, jewelry and handbags. When it comes to adding on hair and make-up I just don't think we are going to be able to afford it, and I think a couple of my girls might be expecting it becasue we have paid for everything so far but the dresses. Did your girls pay for their own hair the day of? How did you let them know this was going to be their expense? Or did they just assume it on their own?

IMO if you want their hair and makeup done and a specific way, you pay. If you are Ok with them doing it however, it is their responsibility. They can do it themself or pay to have osmeone do it.

I have been in many weddings. I know it is tough to pay for a wedding (just did it) but see the other side too. As a BM you already have to buy a dress you will never wear again, spend money on bachelorette parties, travel etc. So if you tell me my hair has to be done and a certain way, that is fine, But you are paying for it.

I would have the convo soon to let them know what you are covering and what is their responsibility so there is no surprises. Weddings can be expensive on the BP too and they need to know what to expect in advance so they can budget for it too.

Good luck! And ocngrats!

 

[Keira1387]

My girls were responsible for buying their dress and shoes. I paid for them to get their hair done, and bought their jewelry. They did their own makeup. I have been a BM twice and have never paid to get my hair done.

 

[CoP Luv]

I only paid for jewelry. I didn't have a specific shoe except that it had to be black...and who doesn't already have that? My only requirement for the hair was that it had to be up. My BMs could either have it done professionally or not. I didn't care. Same with make-up. Only 7 girls went with our MUA and the other 4 did their own. Didn't matter to me one bit.

I just sent an email to everyone with the costs of the hair and make-up and to let me know if they wanted to be included or not.

 

[tinkabella627]

In my opinion, when girls say yes to being in a wedding they know what they will have to pay for. I had to pay for everything for the wedding I was in. The girls in my wedding are paying for everything for themselves also. Now at the same time, I am letting them pick their own shoes and hairstyle and they are doing their own makeup unless they decide otherwise.

 

[mermaidbride1108]

My Bridesmaids are paying for their Dresses, shoes, & Hair.

If I can and I have the extra money, I'll cover the cost of hair. But I also asked everyone if they wanted their hair & make-up done and said it was up to them. I also didn't care how it was. I would have wanted everyone to get their make-up professional done, but I didn't have the money to pay for it for all of them so I didn't ask them to.

As for dresses, I asked that they get a Dress in the color I wanted (Pool) and let them pick the dresses they liked best. If they're paying for the dress, I want them to at least like it!

I suggested a pair of Flip-flops, silver from Target for $12.99. Not sure if everyone will go with them yet. The girls have actually been looking at heals from David's Bridal. But I don't want them spending alot more money than they have already. I'm pretty much leaving it up to them (something my MOH sister is freaking out about, she cares how it looks more than I do!)

I've been concerned about cost for my bridesmaids because of economy and because they are paying to travel to Disney. It's alot to ask for so I'm trying to be cheap when I can, that's why I let them pick dresses from David's Bridal because I think they have inexpensive bridesmaid's dresses (in Philly at least) and found inexpensive shoes that work too.

I'll probably buy jewelry for them as part of their gift because I want them to wear starfish pieces as part of the theme. I'm thinking of Bracelets for two of them (because they're necklines are high) and necklaces for the other two.

So as they saying goes, if you want something specific, you should pay for it. Having open communication with your bridesmaids is the best thing. I was prepared to deal shop online & on ebay in case my bridesmaid didn't want to pay full rate for the dress, but it wasn't a probelm for anyone to buy it from a store.

 

[tiggersam00]

I am pretty lucky because 2 of my bridesmaids are hairdressers, so they have offered to do the bridal parties hair (I will pay them directly, so the BM's dont have to pay) BUT the BM's that want their makeup done will pay for it on their own. I told them how much it was and asked if they wanted to pay for it or not, so the choice was theirs (out of 5, 3 opted to pay for it and the 2 hairdressers did not b/c they do that too).
They are paying for thier own travel and dresses ($79 from Davids Bridal) and I said to silver shoes were fine since 3 have to buy silver shoes for other weddings they are in next year too.
HTH

 

[TinkAsh2001]

My bridesmaids are my sister, my niece and my best friend. They are paying for everything themselves. My sister will proubally do our makeup. But they all knew that and agreed.