What can I say or do?

[Papa Deuce]

We have "new" neighbors, right next to us... but not real new.. They have been there about 14 months. We rarely see them, but when we do, we wave to each other or sometimes say "hello". And earlier this year we had them over for our annual pig roast.

So here is the "problem".... The woman absolutely can NOT remember my name. No less than 4x I have told her that my name is not Dave, but Chuck. Today she is out cutting her grass, and I am helping my daughter learn to rollerblade, and once again, she waves, with a "Hey Dave, how ya doing?"

Just let it go? Or keep telling her until she gets it?

Today I just waved, and went back to my daughter.

EDIT, BTW, my wife, only half kidding, says I should call her "Sue", though her name is Liz.

 

[LoraJ]

I think at this point I would give up. Send her a Christmas card and sign it "Dave" lol.

 

[Papa Deuce]

I think at this point I would give up. Send her a Christmas card and sign it "Dave" lol.

Or maybe "Not Dave".

 

[Buckalew11]

I'd do what your wife says and call her Sue. I think that is hysterical!

I have an older family friend who always calls my DH "Roger". I finally got through to her his name was not Roger and now it is a joke. She even addresses the Christmas cards "Roger". lol

I have a friend at church whose name is...er, um...um...oh yeah--Traci! But to me, she looks just like a "Sheila" and I want to call her Sheila. It is a very big, bad mental block I have.

 

[laurie31]

There was a guy at work who called me "Julie." For months. At work, we wear name badges with our names in BIG BLOCK LETTERS. It's easy to sneak a peek at someone's badge if you've forgotten their name. I have no clue why this guy thought my name was Julie, but he is really a nice guy, so I just smiled and said hello back when he'd say, "Hi, Julie!"

One day, he suddenly started calling me Laurie. No explanation. Maybe he got contacts - lol.

 

[quasar4legs]

I think you should change you name to Dave.

Maybe she has a memory problem

 

[3boymthr]

Start wearing a name tag whenever you are going to be going over. "Hello my name is....not Dave it's Chuck"

 

[cam&phoebsmom]

There was a woman in my neighborhood who ALWAYS mispronounced my name. So one day when she said my name I called back "Hi LaurIE" even though her name is Laura. She quickly corrected me and I just told her we both must be having issues since she always mispronounced my name but I would be sure to pronounce hers correctly.

That was the last time she mis-pronounced my name-so i go along with calling her Sue

 

[java]

Nip it in the bud. I have a friend from college that called me Kim for 3 years. My name isn't Kim. But it went on for so long that I just went with it.
What's funny is that years earlier another guy kept calling me Kim.
I guess I look like a Kim. (not even close to my name)

I would try to make a point of having DW yell "CHUCK! Can you come here for a minute"
Let her know without confronting her.

 

[GeorgeG]

It's possible you remind her a lot of a "Dave" she has known and it's just a simple confusion. Or, she may be one of those people who simply aren't good with names. Either way, I doubt it's intentional and getting to know her better can probably help her remember your real name. I wouldn't make any big issue out it, though.

 

[Kim&Chris]

My sister's name is Andrea. For YEARS, my cousin's husband has called her Angela. No matter how many times she reminds him that it's wrong.
And this is a family member

Maybe she has issues with memory

 

[shortbun]

LOL, she sounds like my grandmother who called most people the wrong name. She gave all of us nicknames(my mom said it was because she couldn't remember our names-I was named for her!!!) and when corrected, she just laughed. For sure, call her 'Sue!"

 

[MommyBoo!]

Family members from my grandparents generation used to call me by my mom's name. Now, family members from my parents generation call my daughters by my name. My daughters, like I did, just go ahead and answer. But, that's family and their grandparents and great aunts and uncles.

I would call your neighbor by a different name. I like Alice. Or Tawny.

Or, have your wife ask her if she's seen Dave and if so, not to tell her husband, Chuck. That should really confuse her.

 

[wdwmom0f3]

Call her Sue, I love it!

My granddaddy could not remember my sisters husbands name once and he called him Daryll instead of David. We all thought it was so funny because we didn't correct him, and he said it a few more times. To this day my husband calls him Daryll, every time we see them. He also calls my nephew Josh instead of Jacob, and my neice Mary instead of Macy. All of that came from that one day of saying the wrong name. It's a funny little inside joke type thing. We just have fun with it.

 

[JoShan1719]

I'd just laugh it off. I've worked with my company for three years. A coworker of mine in a different department constantly refers to me as Amy. My name is Shannon, no where close to Amy, but I guess that's what I look like to him. I just correct him, we laugh, and he does it again the next time he sees me. Some people are just bad with names I guess.

(ETA: We also wear nametags. Still, he insists I'm an Amy. Oh well lol)

 

[Disney Doll]

We had a neighbor like this when I was growing up.
My name is Patty.
My mother's name is Carol.

She would call me Carol and my mother Betty.

It got to where if she was outside and called "Carol", I would answer and my mother wouldn't even blink. Then when she called "Betty", my mother would answer.

I guess you can say we gave up....

 

[EthansMom]

If it makes you feel any better, I have a FIL and StepMIL who NEVER spell my name correctly... and I've been married to DH for over 10 years. I have the same name, with a slightly different spelling, as another family member. The ILs know I spell my name the alternate (but still VERY common) way and continue to address things to me with the WRONG spelling.

I've mentioned it politely to them a couple times. They still spell it wrong.

 

[puffkin]

My husband is HORRIBLE at remembering names. What he does do is make up little names for all the people in the neighborhood and that is what he refers to them as. For example the guy next door (real name Mike) he calls Dave....because he has a Dave Matthew's Band sticker on his van and listens to their music a lot. The guy on the other side he calls Chris (real name Brian) because he always wears a red shirt and reminds him of Kris Kringle and the guy across the Street is Joe because he always is carrying a coffee mug (real name Peter). Oh, and he also has a lady he consistently refers to as the Crazy Cat Woman at work because she corners him in the lunch room to ask about our cats all the time (real name Sharon). I have to catch myself many times to not refer to them with the wrong names.....

 

[lovetoscrap]

"Call me anything you want, just don't call me late to dinner!"



(anyone else thinking we all need to start calling him Dave now??? )

 

[Papa Deuce]

"Call me anything you want, just don't call me late to dinner!"



(anyone else thinking we all need to start calling him Dave now??? )

When she FINALLY does get it right, I'm guessing she will be quite embarrassed. What is funny is that her husband calls me Chuck. and has in front of her... And one time he even told her my name was Chuck.....

I think I will just be "Dave" until she finally figures it out.