What a week.....

[pigletgirl]

First of all, this is just a rant and I just want to let this out!

Found out on monday that the pastor who is supposed to marry Ryan and I is fighting for his life in the hospital with pneumonia. He's on the ventilator and isn't expected to make it. This has just been the biggest blow for me.

Tuesday, my beloved labrador Abby, died. She suffered a seizure, so again, I'm I have had her since I was 11. She was 10.

On wednesday DF's good friend was killed in a car accident..

And then today I got the news that my aunt has stage 3 breast cancer ...

I absolutely cannot bear to hear anymore bad news!!! I HATE this!! I'm so ripped up inside!

Poor DF has been riding along with me with emotion so we haven't exactly been on even terms.

Thanks for listening!

Also, I just wanted to know, what would you all do in these situations? Like means of coping??

 

[disney1990]

OMG - I am so very sorry to hear about your week. Please take care of yourself. This is just too much for one person to handle. I would say take it a day at a time, but you might need to take it an hour at a time.

 

[Nickimouse]

Sorry,no advice. I just wanted to send a hug.

 

[Brit17]

 

[dislaney]

Sorry!

 

[Sparx]

I'm really sorry.

 

[Mary•Poppins]

I am sorry to hear about your week ... However, try to be kind to your DF. Since your relationship is new, it is sometimes hard to work through the bad times. But you can find that these are the times that can bind you closer.

 

[minkydog]

Wow, you really have been hit hard lately. I haven't had as many losses as you, but the ones DH & I have had are significant. It was always kinda odd that when one of us was having a bad time, the other would be on top of things. Then it would switch and the other one would be down, etc. When I lost my baby DH seemed completely oblivious and he said a LOT of the "wrong thing." At the time I thought he was just heartless. Turns out he was just clueless. Much later he came out and told me how sad and disappointed he was that the baby died. Better late than never, i guess.

Things we did to stay close--we tried to spend at least 15 minutes every evening, before supper, just lying on the bed with our arms around each other. Sometimes you just don't have to words to express your grief, so you let your bodies do the comforting. Sometimes things would go farther, but a lot of times we just lay there not talking, just being quiet. Eventually we would find our words again, but it was nice to have that deep physical connection during that very critical time.

I wish you both the best. As bad as things are right now, they *will* get better and you will survive this.

 

[mlittig]

So sorry about your horrible week

 

[a1tinkfans]

Sorry for all this sadness creeping into your life right now. Its hard sometimes, dealing with "real world" issues...but stay focused on your FUTURE, on the Good things, On HOPE and just give each other "a hug and Breathe" You will get thru this and I want to wish all those that are so ill, prayers for recovery and sorry about your dog too!

 

[iwrbnd]

I'm so sorry to hear about your week! My son was in a bad car crash this week (he's ok) so it's been bad for me, too. For me, my faith in God and having my husband just hold while we talk or watch tv gets me gets me through! Hang in there! You've had a really bad week but good days will come again!

 

[Saphire]

Also, I just wanted to know, what would you all do in these situations? Like means of coping??

After having lived a few more decades than you (I assume), I will tell you that there will be times like these. Gosh, they are hard and trying. Often, they will come at really bad times, inconvenient times. 'When it rains it pours' is one of our favorite expressions around here.

These are the times that I appeal to God, asking for help and comfort and assistance. Somehow in the pain He comes to me, helping me to move forward. After all, He (if you are a Christian), suffered the most of any of us and understands our pain. Anyway, that's what I do, run to God.

I hope that you will find peace in all your turmoil. Hang in there!

 

[manning]

My dad always said life is not fair and you just have to make the best of it. Going thru life I finally understood what he meant. Hang in there, there will be good times too.

 

[Plannin'Shannon]

You have a lot on your plate right now. I'm so sorry for everything you've been through this week.

 

[surfergirl602]

Wow. To say your week has sucked would be an understatement.

All I can offer is many hugs and support to get you through this difficult time. I know its hard to think of right now, but remember to take care of your self, too.

 

[4nana]

I'm so sorry for your many heartaches . It's times like this when it seems we are doomed as we have no control and our faith is really tested. Take a deep breath, take it one day at a time, most importantly - take care of you. Try to cling to your faith to find hope, peace, and courage, through these difficult days. I'm sending prayers and hugs your tomorrows are brighter.

 

[DVC~OKW~96]

I take action when faced with things like you have described. I would do something as simple as send a card to the pastor in the hospital, to going to visit, or sending flowers, whatever would be appropriate to send in his current situation.

Same for my Aunt. I would send her a letter, telling her how much she means to me, or some other type of uplifting message, flowers, ect.

For someone I was about to marry, who lost a dear friend, I'd be doing whatever that person needed. Talk, or walk somewhere private, listen, be compassionate, understand...

That's the sort of thing that works for me...

 

[AmandaSparks730]

Ooohhh, Emily!

 

[pigletgirl]

Thanks everyone for the encouragement. I really appreciate it!

Df and I went and visited our pastor, and so far its pretty much the same. No real improvement or worsening. We talked and cried with his wife. It was really nice to do that. We then went to lunch, and talked it through.

I guess our dog had some type of hypertension, which somehow led to a seizure?? I'm a bit confused by it all... She's in a better place now. I guess our other dog is grieving. I'm convincing my parents to get another. I hope they do it.

My aunt has been in good spirits. I spoke to her on the phone, and she's taking it day by day. They are planning on doing a double mastectomy within the next 2 weeks. The cancer is in both breasts and surrounding lymph nodes. It hasn't spread to the lungs, bones or brains.

And as for DF's good friend, he was under the influence. They found many, many bottles of vodka in his car. Apparently it was obvious. No services have been planned yet.

So, thats what is going on in a nutshell. I'm trying to focus on the good, and this too shall pass...

I really, really appreciate DF! Despite his own feelings and whatnot, he's been a rock for me. Love him to death!

 

[darlak]

So sorry you're had so much sadness in such a short span of time. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other and moving forward. It will get better and you'll come out on the other side a stronger person. I know that doesn't make it any easier right now though.