what a kid on the other soccer team said to DD today...

[Rock'n Robin]

DD #1 had her first game today in the 5/6th grade bracket. There was a girl on the other team who was trash talking her own team! Finally after DD heard her call her teammates "stupid morons", she said "that probably doesn't make them feel very good, so why don't you just can it." And the girl said "you are too short and fat to say anything, so shut up!!"
GRRRRRRR!!!!!
So there I was on the other side of the field with the moms, and there was a clump of obviously well off moms from that team commenting on how it was a clean game, etc. Then I went over after the game and DD's whole team was complaining about this girl! One girl had a big cut on her let from the girl's cleats!
One of the girls teammates told DD that she is always insulting the other girls.
I was hot, but when I figured out who the girl was she was crying on her mom's shoulders--she had a chance to tie it up on a goal kick and shanked it to the left, so their team lost 1-0. She was saying how bad she played and how she sucked, etc. So I told DD we should just feel sorry for her instead of being mad since she obviously has issues.
BUT...why does her coach stand for this abuse of the other team members? If she was on my team and badmouthing DD every practice, I'd say something.
Robin M.

 

[MaryAnnDVC]

Robin, the last 6 years of our lives have revolved around soccer, and I could write a book about what I've seen players, coaches and parents do. It's a sin. I've been at the point sometimes where I just want to yank my 3 kids out, but all 3 love the sport. Instead I decided to turn the garbage I've seen into "teachable moments", as you did, and discuss the bad behavior I've seen and why it shouldn't happen. Hopefully, my kids will internalize what I'm teaching them, and not the trash they're seeing and hearing on the field.

{{Hugs}} to you and your DD...and GOOD LUCK!!

 

[Zurg]

why does her coach stand for this abuse of the other team members?

Because the coach doesn't know and/or care about sportamanship. There are a lot o f these.

We pulled our kids out of a very well respected program, after the season their team won 1st place because the coach didn't teach the game or sportsmanship, he won.

Joined with some other parents to start an instructional program the next season. went great more participation that we had hoped for. doing it agian this year.

 

[bumcat]

So glad my girls are thru with sports and my son has no interest. So sad what goes on these days.
We were lucky to have good coaches that didn't put up with stuff like that. I can't believe the coach is not doing anything unless maybe the coach is her father. The girl obviously has major issues, that was good of you not to say anything I don't know if I could have walked away. Your dd will remember your actions as positive.

 

[Disney Doll]

That is one sad kid, who has parents who are not taking their responsibilty as parents too seriously. The worst part of it is that this kid's teammates and friends will eventually turn against her and she will have no idsea why because no one will have ever taught her right from wrong with regard to group behavior. Sad, really.

Good for you to turn the incident into a lesson for your DD.