jalapeno_pretzel
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We had tomato-mozzarella-pesto paninis, chips, and smoked mozzarella pasta salad.
Ended up having Steak and Cheesy Ranch Mashed Potatoes.Chicken Parm and GF Ziti or Steak and Rice, I haven't decided yet.
Well, MIL is deep in the throes of dementia and frequently has zero clue who I am when we're face to face, so much so that several times she's dropped the decades-long fake-nice facade and told me flat-out what a terrible person her daughter in law is. She's always ruled the group think roost, so FIL and BIL just stand there awkwardly because interrupting her won't work with her endless looping back to the same conversations. I'm sure they're hesitant to point out who I am when she's looping an angry tirade because she might lash out physically.
Ironically I've been the one who's encouraged DH from the time we began dating not to cut off a relationship with his family. They entirely papered over the ******* that existed long before I ever met him and I became the source of all the problems.
To be clear, I did not use inappropriate language. The word starred out is perfectly ordinary term for conflict that would be appropriate if you were talking with the Pope.
I’m so far behind in reading and have only “dented the thread”.
Cooking is nonexistent at this time but I still think of your perseverances.
N.,my SIL/friend is doing much much better though to be honest we were scared for a bit. Time is really flying and after a few weeks in Paris decided it was time to catch up with nearby friends. Currently in Aachen visiting a friend going through the pangs of empty nesting. Much champagne drinking which has been our get together drink since we first met back in the ‘80s. A great habit to pass along to others, as I plan to do if and when I catch up with “the Swiss Misses”. As I’ve been known to tell em: people do not live on hot chocolate alone, lol. This has been quite the adventure and I’m glad for taking the plunge though regret the initial reasons for it. So far, getting around has been pretty simple.
Still haven’t chosen a return date but that needs to happen soon from a practical POV. Can’t leave my home attendant up in the air at the very least.
Be well, all and I plan to post about food soonest! Keep those home fires and microwaves burning![]()
Our last night on the island tradition is to have room service on the deck at sunset. It was yummy! We went very basic.. after eating fancy sushi and fresh catch for two weeks. We had chicken Caesar salads, with a kids side of mac & cheese & fries.![]()
. For dessert, a warm brown butter chocolate banana bread with vanilla ice cream. Delicious!
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Thank you. I've actually long accepted the situation. Things are just a bit of a pressure cooker right now given the demands that have come along with the serious decline in health of my inlaws and my mother, simultaneous to the situation with my brother completely poisoning my relationship with my mother. I've stopped papering over the situation and have made it clear what I will and won't do to help going forward.@cabanafrau, I just noticed that a lot of what I typed in my reply to you somehow disappeared, before I posted it. Anyway, I wanted to let you know that I'm here, if you ever want to vent to someone who has "been there & done that with the inlaws". I could have typed pretty much everything you said. I also wanted to reiteriate that your inlaws are very lucky to have you, even more so given the circumstances.