Went off diet tonight...feeling bad

[kamgen]

We went out to dinner tonight and I ate poorly....so I feel pretty bad. It is only week two and already I am cheating!!!
Could just use a little boost from my WISH friends.

I think it is the stress of everything. For those of you that don't know...the past 6mths have been pretty stinky for me. My grandmother died August 1, my dad died on November 1 and I had a baby *GOOD THING* on December 4. The joy of the baby is still marked by the sadness that my dad did not live long enough to meet little Liam. In the middle, we sold our house to move in with my parents to care for my sick dad and hit some major financial troubles so I have been feeling pretty bad since. I try to stay positive, but it is hard sometimes. My faith sometimes gets weak..... And I hate my body right now...after two babies in two years, I need to lose this weight for my mental and physical health.
Things could be worse, I know....but I am still sad a lot and frustrated. It is not an excuse, but right now it seems like one of my major enjoyments is going out to dinner.... I know how to make good choices, but it is hard sometimes.
Sorry for the vent, just needed to chat here for awhile. I will get back on track better tommorow....after all, tomorrow is a new beginning!
Thanks for listening.

 

[Patches]

My goodness! You and your family are beautiful!

Hang in there- I had two children close together (not quiet as close as yours!)- but as a mother of a 17 and 19 year-old- this too will pass!

I know it sounds trite- but really do try to focus on what you have- a great little family! Get your exercise in- it's true that exercise does help your stress levels!

I don't know if anything I'm saying helps- just wanted to give you a hug.

Give those little ones a snuggle- my 17 and 19 year-sons will hug- but NOT snuggle- HA!

 

[Bee]

I agree you are beautiful.... I experienced Baby blues for another reason..
I had a c-section for both... but they put me to sleep for the 1st one.. as mother.. I wanted to hear her cry.. and see her first.. I had a whole book with pictures of everyone holding her before I was even awake.

You will get thru this... I am soooo sorry for your loss--I couldnt imagine going thru what you are. I love to eat out also. Temptation is strong.

Look how much I have to lose. WOW!! (see my ticker) Anyway, come on over to Disappearing Peeps.. We will surround you with LOVE!!!
and you on!!!

 

[cinmell]

I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother and father.

Congratulations on your baby!!!!

I could have written part of your post. I had my second baby on November 3rd. This is week two for me too back on WW/and exercising since last February. I blew it big time last night. I went to the Outback for dinner and I did not shy away from those cheese fries and dressing that you dip them in, salad with dressing or the steak. But you know what, I enjoyed going out and enjoyed dinner and I'm going to try to be back on track today. If I never gave myself a treat I think I would be totally miserable and probably give up. It is very hard to stay on track when losing weight. Don't beat yourself up. So you fell off the wagon for one meal, big deal. The important this is you realized it and you are ready to get back on track today.

I enjoy going out to eat too. I think a big part of it is because I don't have to cook and clean!

Good luck, you can do it! Don't feel bad, it happens to all of us. Have a great day!

 

[tommygirl79]

Kamgen,

Just wanted you to know that there are lot of us here that understand and can empathize with how you feel! We might not have all had a really bad year this year, but we definitely can acknowledge the frustration of dieting along with having a lot going on emotionally. Just know this - if you keep on keeping on, your determination and faith with carry you through and the more weight you lose and more energy you feel will make those emotional times just a BIT easier!

2006 was the hardest year of my life for many reasons I won't mention so I KNOW KNOW KNOW where you are coming from. Personal tragedy = time to eat for me, so I understand. Eating out is such a treat sometimes isn't it?
And that's okay. Just pick yourself back up, and make today a good day. Failure doesn't come by having a couple of days here and there where we aren't on points or calories or exercise goals aren't met. In fact, those days are GOING TO HAPPEN and if we expect them, we can deal with them and move on.

I have admired your family's picture the last couple of days and you are beautiful, as are your children!

Praying for you in the days to come and sending another hug your way.

 

[kamgen]

I want to thank all of you for your kind thoughts and kind words.
I woke up today pretty ill..having only got 1.5hrs of sleep last night too. So, dh stayed home from work to help with the kids so I can rest and try to get better. He is wonderful.

Having WISH as a place to come when I need encouragement means so much to me. Thank you.

 

[AKASnowWhite]

PLEASE! Do not beat yourself up over one meal! If you can look back over the last 2 weeks to see the "big picture" I bet you'll find that you really did an excellent job overall.

Having a newborn is exhausting - add in another toddler and wowza is life busy! Take it easy, take it slow...one day at a time, even one MEAL at a time. And if things don't go according to plan ('cause we all know *stuff* happens) - forgive yourself and then move on in a more positive direction.

 

[keenercam]

Hi, Kamy!
I just wanted to stop by to tell you to STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP!!! If you are conscious of what you are eating, that is the hugest step in this battle we are all fighting. You are a beautiful, accomplished, loving person. I know that. I've met you! You are also strong and determined and you WILL be able to do this. It is a one day at a time thing, kiddo, and it is certainly NOT the only priority in your life. Give yourself some credit for every day you get through with your sanity intact, kiddo. You have been through an emotionally and physically exhausting time for all these many months. Give yourself permission to get past whatever you ate last night. I have learned to tell myself that I can't change what I just did, but I can decide what I am going to do next. The very next meal is an opportunity to do something that you won't beat yourself up over.
You can do this Kamy. One meal at a time, sweetie. Give yourself permission to feel better and to get through some trying times without being hard on yourself. Remember, this is a lifestyle change. You don't want to make yourself so unhappy about a splurge or two or you could derail your long-term efforts.
Okay, I'm sure that's so NOT what you were looking for.
How about a and : and that you will feel better and eat healthier at your next meal?

 

[Tiger Lily 03]

Hi Kammy! I am so happy to see you here!

You will get through it. You WILL!

Everyone here has offered great advice. Take what you need and feel good about you. Make it small steps. In the small steps the big picture becomes a work of art.

When my Mom was talking to her oncologist regarding her choices after mastectomy his advice was spot on. It still keeps me moving...Make your choice whatever it is then move forward. Do not look back at what might have been, what you should have done, make yourself move forward with what you have.

You can do whatever you want. We are here for you along your way!

Go Kammy! Go Kammy!