Yes! Yes yes
yes! This is perfect. Just tell them the bags are restricted at AKL. Now how do we keep them from figuring out the "pass them out at SBP option"....
I'm not even offering the "pass themout at SBP" as an option. If they ask, I'll just say the logistics make it difficult. Which is true. Which is why I'm not passing out ANYTHING at the ceremony, nor was I planning to do favors at the dinner reception. I've been going back and forth about favors at the reception, but I think I should stick to my original plan of NO favors at the reception and welcome bags + a favor at the welcome dinner. Nice, easy
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it mightbme nice for them to havd them to the guests as a little munchy after the ceremony. i dont mean to go against the majority. but hay two gifts for the guests aint bad. and some might like it. i say just do it why cause to much drama for yourself. i am sorry if i made you upset but sometimes we get ourselves to upset for little things. remmeber it will all be wounderful as you let it be!!
You haven't upset me. And I know you're speaking from a reasonable place. I stated in the begining that I was being petty about this. BUT, it is MY wedding. SHE had her wedding already. And I HATE jordan almonds, or pretty much any of the same old cookie cutter crap that you get at weddings. More reasons why I'm having a disney wedding. I don't want all the traditional favors or trimming at my wedding that no on wants anyhow!
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Have you ever had Jordan Almonds? Blech! As a guest, I certainly wouldn't appreciate them as a snack right after the ceremony. I'd probably toss them right in the trash!
I don't know anyone who enjoys the things... I haven't ever actually seen anyone consume one even when they were provided. Besides... we're having cake and champagne right after the ceremony.
I'm with you... boo on jordan almonds.
Congrats!!
Maybe you can use the same reason as Animal Kingdom Lodge... The fish or ducks or loch ness monsters in the lake by Sea Breeze Point may choke on any tulle (mesh) that may blow away.
Loch ness monsters!!
I totally understand the concept of keeping the peace, but being that my FMIL sounds like your FMIL's twin, I vote for putting your foot down.
I've allowed a lot of small things in the name of trying to limit drama and being the bigger person, but now there is a rumor that my FMIL may "surprise" my DF and I with a priest ready for a blessing ceremony at our at home reception the week before our wedding. I don't think it's possible for a number of reasons, including the fact that I am NOT catholic, so I'm not going to stress about it. But my point is that I think that there should be a very clear consistent effort to help your FMIL, and mine, understand that they are NOT in control of their sons weddings, marriages, lives, future children, etc. or they will end up doing a lot worse.
yes i have had them i am italian so as you know they make an apperance at many event. i am not saying they are the best but it is a bag of almonds once the guest has them is they throw them out so be it but some may like it
i dont want to argue i am just saying some things are not worth a fuss. but again it is her wedding if it is that big of a deal then tell the mom no.
Like Nikki (hope1826) said, it's not just Jordan Almonds (even though I hate them.) It's a control issue. Should I also not make a fuss when she's overfeeding her grandchildren (like she did with her own children) because that's what grandparents do (her reasoning.) My fiance has struggled with his weight and type 2 diabetes and even still today we'll go over her house and she'll insist food upon us. I appreciate that she's Italian. I appreciate that she has some need to give to show love. It's just that she gives all the wrong things. And I think she needs to respect boundries.
you have it IN WRITING that they are not allowed at dakl. done. i still stand with my original idea. especially since they'll now be a part of the ceremony.
do you know that they make silver jordan almonds? gross...they look like you're eating metal...
It's in writing. I've actually put Chuck on this one. I asked him to please talk to his sister or mother and let them no that it's not allowed at AKL. Hopefully, he'll be able to handle the situation with out stirring up more drama.
I would just like to reiterate something I posted awhile back.
FMIL is not the most wretched evil person ever. She's very generous and she's very kind. She's been very, very good to me. However, that's been mixed with some not so great times and not so great moments. That being said, there are huge generational and cultural gaps. FMIL just turned 70, my mom is 50.
I'm used to a different way of relating and doing things. And she's very old school. Therefore, we butt heads a lot. We disagree on a lot of things. That doesn't make her bad. I just have to stand firm on the things I want and I believe. The only time it gets out of control is when she's too insistant or plays the underdog/martyr card. She get's overly emotional and upset when you tell her she can't do certain things. Should I feel guilted into comprimising what I want in these important/ once-in-a-lifetime situations? The stress factor comes in when I know resisting will cause more drama because of she's "
hurt." Her daughter gives in a lot to what her mom wants. That's fine. But my mom doesn't try to push her desires on me. I'm not use to having to do things to keep a parent happy? Does that seem fair? Make sense?
This is a little bit of happyness (just watched the pursuit of happyness this past weekend, lol) for me!!! I feel an enormous weight lifted!! Wooo Hooo!!
THE MONEY THEY WOULD HAVE SPENT WOULD MAKE A GREAT DONATION TO MAKE A WISH IN YOU AND YOUR FIANCE NAME! 
, BEST OF LUCK IN WHATEVER YOU DO ITS GONNA BE A GREAT CEREMONY I WISH I WAS STILL GONNA BE AROUND AFTER MY WEDDING TO PEEK IN ON YOURS
