Wendy & Chuck's PJ and TR Merged 2/4/08 Escape SBP/JIKO: Updated 9/19-Pleasure Island

[caryndisneydiva]

Where? Where?! I wanna see!

i'm a hijacking today...

it was on access hollywood or one of those entertainment shows tonight, i think the pics are in US or Oh mag...

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

I'm def. a Kat fan, but (and I hope I don't offend anyone) I am NOT feeling her dress. Love the veil though. Makes me feel a little better, lol.

Thanks for all the support yesterday. I think it was just an off day b/c the holidays are over and I had to have a crappy wedding dream the night before. I know everything will work out!

I'm picking up my dress tonight. And then I'm sending it this weekend with my FILs in the motorhome to FL. They're off to Fort Wilderness as long as the weather isn't too bad and they can get out of Michigan. I'm trying to pack up as much as possible and send it with them. But I feel like I'm drawing a blank. I'll send my dress, shoes, jewelry, the guest book and markers... I'd like to send the veil but I haven't done my hair trial yet, sooooooo....... Idk how I'm going to transport the veil. You can't really crush it down. I'm freaked out about packing it in my luggage to go on the plane. Hmmmmmm. I'd also like to send completed welcome bags with them, but I don't have completed welcome bags, LOLOLOLOL.

Okay, I'm a little better today, sorry for all the earlier ickiness.

 

[mla1977]

I agree about her dress. It reminds me on one that I wore in high school (freshman year - 17 years ago ). I have my mom saving all of my formal/semi-formal dresses for me to maybe make a quilt out of them, but I still can't believe I wore that one!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

did you see that katherine heigl from grey's anatomy totally copied us and wore a birdcage????

Srsly, I think this is the first and only thing I've ever been cutting edge on! And I have only you to thank Caryn! I wasn't even going to wear a veil! I would have never been able to articulate the look, but the minute I saw it I knew it was perfect!!!! I now have renewed excitement!!! Now the only question is how to get the thing to FL without crushing it! Suggestions??

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

I agree about her dress. It reminds me on one that I wore in high school (freshman year - 17 years ago ). I have my mom saving all of my formal/semi-formal dresses for me to maybe make a quilt out of them, but I still can't believe I wore that one!

You gotta give it to her, she's one thin chick, but yeah... all the ruffle up top?!? I don't get it. Guess that's why my dress is so plain, err.. I mean simple and elegant. Yeah, that's it!

 

[BayouPrincess]

Guess that's why my dress is so plain, err.. I mean simple and elegant. Yeah, that's it!

Your dress is not overly decorated it is simple and elegant with classic lines, but it is absolutely gorgeous and you look fantastic in it!


Last night Caryn wrote in my PJ about getting a fascinator to go with my red dress, I had commented on how classicly hollywood glamouous you and Carrie and Caryn will be with your birdcage veils and gorgeous dresses and fascinators! Just breathtaking!

 

[hope1826]

You gotta give it to her, she's one thin chick, but yeah... all the ruffle up top?!? I don't get it. Guess that's why my dress is so plain, err.. I mean simple and elegant. Yeah, that's it!

LOL... your dress is GORGEOUS and elegant!!

And yeah I was wondering about her dress.... She looked beautiful, but I don't understand the ruffles or the fabric. I think a stylist or someone must have told her that ruffles are going to be the next big thing. I just hope this doesn't start a big stiff ruffle trend.

 

[oneyodafan]

That's what we're doing - sending a combo announcement/reception invitation.

"We were married
February 4, 2008
in Lake Buena Vista, FL

Please join us
April Whenever, 2008
to celebrate our marriage
at So-and-So's House
etc."

I love this idea! I suggested something like that to my SIL. We'll see how she does it.

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

That's what we're doing - sending a combo announcement/reception invitation.

"We were married
February 4, 2008
in Lake Buena Vista, FL

Please join us
April Whenever, 2008
to celebrate our marriage
at So-and-So's House
etc."

I love this idea! I suggested something like that to my SIL. We'll see how she does it.

Yep, this is what we're going to do too! Our second half will be worded a bit differently since it'll be a STD instead of having all the actual info. I was playing around on zazzle.com yesterday and I'm thinking of doing postcards. Simple, easy, done. I just don't have the stamina to create 200 STD's from scratch. I mean, I could do it, I worked in a scrapbook store and kitted stuff out all the time. But by the time I got done paying for all the supplies and factor in my time, I think $.64 or $.69 a post card is very reasonable!

 

[caryndisneydiva]

wendy, i love your dress. it's fantastic looking. i wanted something like that but my hips are huge...anyways...

BIRDCAGE VEIL TRANSPORTATION

i'm having a similar issue. i bought this huge round styrofoam thing, but i think it might be too big for the veil...my problem is that i have to carry on my dress shoes jewelry handbag, cathedral veil and the cage in one bag. i'm thinking this isn't going to happen, since mark's suit is easily folded into the top of a carry on, we'll have 2 carry on's with our wedding attire...so i'm going to stuff it with either the styrofoam ball or with a ton of tissue paper and put it CAREFULLY into a carry on. heck. maybe i'll just wear it on the plane.

 

[lurkyloo]

ll or with a ton of tissue paper and put it CAREFULLY into a carry on. heck. maybe i'll just wear it on the plane.

OMG - you should totally wear it on the plane, with a glamorous little pencil-skirt suit and gloves the way women used to travel They would prolly upgrade you to First just to class up the joint!

 

[Lisella]

OMG - you should totally wear it on the plane, with a glamorous little pencil-skirt suit and gloves the way women used to travel They would prolly upgrade you to First just to class up the joint!

OMG - I love this idea. You both should absolutley wear them on the plane! Are you two heading to Orlando around the same time? Wouldn't that be hilarious if you arrived the same day and people happened to notice 2 birdcaged brides wondering about the airport? We would of course need pictures

 

[lov2b@disney]

OMG - I love this idea. You both should absolutley wear them on the plane! Are you two heading to Orlando around the same time? Wouldn't that be hilarious if you arrived the same day and people happened to notice 2 birdcaged brides wondering about the airport? We would of course need pictures

Loving this!

 

[Rora]

Hey there, I've just gotten around to reading everyone's PJs (I've just started my own wedding planning and cant stop, lol). Let me first start off by saying how much I loooovee your dress! It's so elegant and you look great in it. The birdcage is so classy and will go perfect with it. Also, it's funny that you and lurkyloo are wedding twins. Too cute! Glad the red top issue is resolved *whew*! Just wanted to leave you my comments and say congratulate you. Not too much longer until you are a Mrs.! Looking forward to more of your updates!

 

[BayouPrincess]

OMG - I love this idea. You both should absolutley wear them on the plane! Are you two heading to Orlando around the same time? Wouldn't that be hilarious if you arrived the same day and people happened to notice 2 birdcaged brides wondering about the airport? We would of course need pictures

I LOVE this idea! I would love to be a fly on the wall and see that! I think you should wear them!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

hey all, I have soooo many new developments and no time to post them. I hope to get my latest updates up this weekend. Perhaps Sunday while I'm recovering from my bachlorette party! Eeek!

 

[MeowGoddes]

What a tease!

 

[MistressOfAllEvil]

I'm skipping the update on my shower. I'll come back to it. Right now I need to vent about something else.

That something else would be the Best Man. I would have never anticipated something like this.

He has been dragging his feet for a while on making reservations and getting a flight. Well, he actually told me before xmas that he wanted to have everything set. So after christmas came and went I sent him an email to follow up and get everything taken care of. I went ahead and booked him a room since we were paying for one night anyhow since Chuck was staying with him the night of the wedding. Deposit = price of one night stay. So just this monday he IM's me through google chat to let me know that him and his new bride have had an emotional weekend and that he can only fly in on the day of the wedding. And he has to fly out the same day!

So, he will NOT be there for the welcome dinner.
he will NOT be there for a tux fitting.
he will NOT be there to spend time with Chuck the night before the wedding.
Chuck will be alone the night before the wedding. This makes me deeply sad for Chuck and freaked out for myself at the same time. Someone needs to be with Chuck the night before the wedding. Some best man.
he will NOT be able to stay for the reception dinner. His flight is out at 6:53pm. Our dinner starts at 5pm.
he will be there just for the ceremony and the cake and champagne toast and pictures.

I almost feel like why even bother.

The Back Story:

Chuck's best man Anthony just got married in November. He married Erin. Erin and him dated on and off for a couple of years. Prior to that, Anthony had dated Chuck's sister Christie for quite a few years on and off. He was head over heels for Christie and while she led him on, she never was really attracted to him and didn't want to be with him. Because of his actions prior to their marriage, Erin does not want Anthony in Florida with Christie for any amount of time. She's been invited. She doesn't want to come b/c Christie will be there. Now I understand that she doesn't like Christie (an understatement.) But for goodness sake. He married you, you have to trust your husband. I understand that Anthony's marriage is young and he is trying to preserve it. But, I still can't help but be completely devestated by this.

I don't even know what to say. I run through the list and there hasn't been one person that hasn't in some way made things more difficult for me.

Chuck's parents.
Chuck's sister.
My parents (to a lesser extent)
My sister
My friends
Chuck's friends

I really just feel like throwing in the towel. I don't even want this monster of a wedding that I never had a vision for. So now it's turned into a hodgepodge circus of a show (not even a fancy circus like cirque!)

I know this isn't all Anthony's fault. But it's like that straw that broke the camel's back. I just didn't expect this from ANTHONY of all people.

I feel defeted. I would be happier if I could just go to Disney by my self. I don't want all these people there. Trying to coordinate and entertain them is the dumbest idea I've ever had.

I've asked Chuck more than once why we even need to have a wedding. I'm all about city hall!! He said because he has to actually have a wedding for his mom. We all know his mom doesn't like one thing I'm doing with this wedding. It's not the elaborate, italian affair that she wants. Heck, there's no dancing! So I'm planning a wedding, quite literally ON MY OWN (not even Chuck has really contributed). My FSIL/MOH is galavanting across the country and hasn't been around for support. My other bridesmaid is a young mother and her bf/baby daddy left her a week before xmas and if she was on the verge before now she's completely fallen off the wagon and is drunk all the time. I have no way to help her, I don't even know what to do. I've had NO SUPPORT (except for my faithful DIS friends) and I just don't want to do it any more. I'm so over it and I'm so done.

 

[caryndisneydiva]

oh wendy! pixie dust for you my friend! if it were me, i'd just forget about all that cra*@ and go to disney for YOUR wedding with chuck and not worry about anyone else. just concentrate on him and be thankful that you're not a spiteful rat like anthony's wife who doesn't care about anyone but herself.

this really stinks that all of this is going on right now, when your wedding is so close, but-you know what they say, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger! sooo mushy and cheesy but true!

hang in there. i have faith that everything WILL turn out 100% fantastic for you! and feel free to vent to us anytime you want!

 

[mla1977]

Dump the family and invite 18 of your closest DIS friends!