weird situation: Ex Wife wants to join us, how to handle ADRs?

[santadog]

Wow, a lot more than I had hoped to hear about. I was REALLY hoping to see that it went off without a hitch.

Your DD is one tough little cookie.

Time to revisit visitation agreements? Or is this behaviour pretty typical now?

Sorry to hear there was a bit of drama, how was the rest of your trip? Did you and your DD have a good vacation together despite "mama" doin "weird things"?

It's interesting to hear DD talk about the events. To hear her tell it, she got lost, just like Nemo. And just like Nemo's daddy, her dad kept looking, and had all his friends (security and police) helping me until I found her.

Mom called tonight from New York, she made no mention of the incident, and DD didn't even want to talk to her.

 

[roxysmum123]

It's interesting to hear DD talk about the events. To hear her tell it, she got lost, just like Nemo. And just like Nemo's daddy, her dad kept looking, and had all his friends (security and police) helping me until I found her.

Mom called tonight from New York, she made no mention of the incident, and DD didn't even want to talk to her.

Sounds like she's got pretty good coping mechanisms. And judging by DD not wanting to talk to her tonight it sounds like she's pretty wise to the idea that mama brings sadness with her. Do you think your ex-wife remembers the incident at all? I'm guessing she'll deny it if you ever brought it up

 

[NJDiva]

It's interesting to hear DD talk about the events. To hear her tell it, she got lost, just like Nemo. And just like Nemo's daddy, her dad kept looking, and had all his friends (security and police) helping me until I found her.

Mom called tonight from New York, she made no mention of the incident, and DD didn't even want to talk to her.

first, let me just say you are such a strong person for dealing with this so well. your daughter sounds like she has a pretty good understanding of the situation in her own little way. I know that had to be the most frightening thing to deal with in such a large place.
I do have a question, did your daughter have any idea that what her mother was doing was wrong? the reason I ask is that as you've explained your ex doesn't really have a good relationship with your DD, your ex makes the statement that she is not going to be spending time with you all at the parks and then shows up. I know she's young but it seems that she's used to being disappointed by her and it seems she's done being disappointed

 

[santadog]

Yes, DD knows Mama was wrong, when she told mom "I'm not supposed to leave the park with you", Mama's response (according to DD) was "If I leave you here, can you take care of yourself? You need to come with me or you won't survive"

I don't know if Mama remembers the incident or not, she was cited by the police, so if she doesn't answer the charges, I assume a bench warrant will be issued for her (and that will make any future Disney World intrusions very short affairs, I assume).

 

[roxysmum123]

"If I leave you here, can you take care of yourself? You need to come with me or you won't survive"

Mama DOES do weird things. I work in the field with people like her, it's heart breaking when they're a shadow of their former selves. You're a strong person for keeping her in your lives, however minimally it may be. Many families just drop away.

 

[Kat&Dom]

It's interesting to hear DD talk about the events. To hear her tell it, she got lost, just like Nemo. And just like Nemo's daddy, her dad kept looking, and had all his friends (security and police) helping me until I found her.

Mom called tonight from New York, she made no mention of the incident, and DD didn't even want to talk to her.

You are doing an amazing job as a dad and it is obvious that you are your daughter's whole world.

I am so glad that you found her so quickly. Even though your daughter is 6 1/2, she is very smart and sounds extremely well adjusted in spite of her mother's bizarre behaviours around her.

When your ex-wife calls, do you always answer the phone and make your daughter talk to her? The reason I ask is that I have a 5 year old son (soon to be 6) who has not wanted to talk to his dad over the past year - we also split up when my son was 18 months old. I have call display and when I see my ex-husband's phone number come up, I tell my son, it is your dad calling - do you want to talk to him? If he doesn't, I don't answer the phone, if he does want to talk to him, he answers the phone. It seems to have made a big difference for my son now that he has the choice of talking to his dad. I used to make my son talk to his dad and always answered the phone but changed my strategy back in January and my son seems so much happier for it. I also never call my ex-husband for anything ever. I will however, give him my son's extracurricular activity schedule the next time we see him, in case, he wants to attend my son's hockey games or watch his swimming as I know it would mean a lot to my son to have his dad show up once in a while.

I hope in spite of all the ex's antics that you were still able to have a wonderful vacation with your daughter. You are doing an incredible job with your beautiful daughter.