deekaypee
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Hi, folks! Working at the public library here, and taking a break to post. DOOD and I "had it out" about the lack of reliable internet access at home, so that's going to change soon. Apparently, you don't come between me and the DIS. 
Beth: Thank you for the kind words. I'm trying to stay away from the dark side--Darth, you aren't my really my mother, are you? NOOOOOOOO.
Seriously, family. *sigh* I like your and Maria's points about toxicity; I try to stay away from people in my life who I find to be poisonous to my peace of mind; hence, the limited exposure to my parents. Too much history, too much learned behavior. And it reminds me of what I've been reading with Master Your Metabolism (I just got that book in from interlibrary load. It's got loads of good information! 
) about environmental effects. I just get a little down when I see them, kwim? And your encouragement--everyone's encouragement here--more than makes up for it. 
As for your ILs.
Wow. Just wow. You've all heard my stories before, but I've got nothing to compare with that. I'm so sorry to hear that the stereotypical images of IL relationships are so grounded in people's experiences. I'd rather hoped I was the exception. You're a strong woman to deal with your situation--and you don't deserve that at all. (As you know.) You deserve a real love-a-palooza, like from here. 
I know exactly what you mean by having that one food you love and can't resist. Your Oreos, my oatmeal raisin cookies. I can't have them in the house. Good for you for moving on (and with 35 miles), realizing it's a momentary lapse. It sounds like the spa challenge is challenging in more ways than one. Your leader sounds a little...needy...if I may say. I'm sure it comes from taking her responsibilities seriously, a good thing, but that's added pressure on you. And the scale thing would frustrate me to no end.
I know it's been a good motivator for you, overall, though, and hope it's been worth it.
Last, in my long post, HAPPY 11th BIRTHDAY to your DS. He's going to love the extended b-day celebration, getting to party with his school friends. It's better than a one-day b-day any day of the week.
Maria: First, I admit my general ignorance as to Wizards of Waverly place. I had to Google it; I was right in the basics, but had no idea of its popularity. Do tell us more about what this House Party entailed, and why oh why you applied.
Second, big kudos on the meal (and esp. salad) planning. That's such an important part of the eating success, as you know. Plus, it makes your life easier during the work week. It's kind of like the carpenter's credo: measure twice, eat once. More time in prepping equals success, yes?
Third, I know you're right about why my mother behaved the way she did while visiting. I do something similar when I'm on "their turf" or with my ILs...the stress, the feeling someone is more concerned with your lifestyle than theirs, or the idea that their lifestyle is somehow a commentary on yours. Thanks for putting that in perspective for me. And I SHOULD have noted that my mother also had a couple of salads when she was here, as well. I think I get caught up in all the mother-daughter baggage. I can more easily disassociate from my ILs because, well, they're my ILs. And I've come to the conclusion that all mothers are psycho when it comes to their sons. (No offense to those of you with sons. Just sayin'.
)
Fourth, and most important,
I didn't mean to make you cry. never would have posted this if I'd known it would cause you to reflect on your own family and make you feel bad. I'm sooooo sorry. And you've got a rough IL/extended family situation, with toxic being too gentle a descriptor. Take it from me and the rest of the Lean Meaters: they're short-sighted--heck, they're blind--if they don't see what an incredible person AND an incredible athlete you are. I'd adopt you into my family, but well...how about I just call you my honorary SIL, but you don't need to marry my BIL? (Things my get awkward between you and your current DH.)
Sarah: Great job on the 3 pounds lost in a tough week! That's a whole lot of poundage dropped during the challenge and being on track for your trip makes your success doubly rewarding!
You're going to hit that 20 lb. clippy in no time, and that's good for the motivation, too. Perhaps not as good for the motivation as attracting the boys (whether you're interested or not, it sure is flattering).... Collect a few boys for me, please, and I'll live vicariously through you.
Shawna: Welcome!
The more, the merrier. I cannot imagine living deep in the heart of Texas, with the heat and humidity. I may complain about the cold during the winter, but I definitely get snarky in the warm weather. Your goals sound really do-able to me, although I currently am chasing my tail with the same 5 pounds. That's just about a pound a week. Especially on the days when it's too hot to be outside (every day of the summer for you, it sounds like, what with the heat & headaches 
).
Lots of people here like the Leslie Sansone DVDs and they seem to work for you, so that's a great start. I'm not a huge fan of Curves, if for no other reason than the equipment & intervals don't allow you to progress and challenge yourself, making more progress rather than just plateauing early. It sounds like you discovered that as well.
I love Vicky's advice--I second it! She's a good example of where I should be with cutting down/out the sugar and caffeine. I'm trying to move to green tea for the latter, since it's so good for you in other areas. For energy, I also try to watch my early a.m. protein intake to keep me fueled all day. Do you have cable TV/On Demand service? I've found that some of their exercise videos--especially the short intros--let me test drive fitness routines that I can then check out of the library or put into my Netflix DVD queue. I get bored easily, so I have to rotate my XT a lot. I do find that I like On Demand for the dance cardio, for example, and dancing in the privacy of my own home is the only place THAT's happening.
Shoes...can't help you with that a lot. I have normal to high arches, and am a dedicated New Balance girl. Do you know about Joe's New Balance Outlet, though? I love that place. (Vicky: some of the NB shoes are in the new models now. Check out Joe's and get that second pair to rotate!
)
Vicky: A button pusher, yes! Great description. I'm sorry you have one of those. And your future ILs sound like they will be a challenge. I'm obviously no poster child for getting along with the ILs, but I do try and perfect my non-committal "mmm-hmmms" when my ILs offer their never-ending advice on how we should life. Although I have been known to say, once or twice, "Yes, I know that's what you think we should do."
Not a good way to win family members over, btw.
Great way to shake things up with your routine by trying a new PT. Is this a temporary shift or are you shopping around? Boxing sounds like fun, in "work your aggressions out" kind of way. Did you imagine yourself as Rocky? I think we know you're in great shape, because we don't see you as often as we'd like and DF sees you all the time, so notices the small differences (and I would expect no less of DF). Your friends and family are kind of in the middle, seeing you so often that they take your appearance for granted, kwim? And you're still posting steady losses!
Jackie: I hope the work load lightens sooner than later, or at least you get the kudos you deserve.
Julie: Have you started training for the marathon yet. Where are you staying again?
Wendy: How's the DL training progressing. I know I said it on the thread, but great presentation on Web 2.0 and Disney. DOOD is going to conference on Web 2.0 and Shakespeare, and I could briefly explain what Web 2.0 is, thanks to you.
Cindy: Have you signed up for your next tri yet? I hear they're very addictive. Lots of swimming practice, too, good for the Madonna-esque physique.
Kim: Have you settled on your Goofy plan yet? I keep tweaking mine. Apparently I have commitment issues.
Amy: Saw that you've started training for the full already.
As for me: My total loss for the challenge was 4 pounds. Not as horrible as I thought, but not stellar. Still progress, though, right? One of my goals for Goofy training is to keep losing for the first half of training and avoid gaining during the second. I told DOOD to expect lots & lots of veggies to infiltrate our household because I'm eating an unlimited amount of carrots and broccoli. If he wants post-workout ice cream (as he's been craving) he'll need to stay out of my sight.
We were talking this weekend about how our eating habits have changed since we've been together. When we first started dating, there were lots of meals out (mmmm, Indian, Ethiopian, Mexican food) and weekends of waffles. Not to mention lots of drinks in the courtship stages. Now, we eat much healthier; I don't remember the last waffle I had, and our breakfast routine now includes our daily oatmeal--just as one example. So I was wondering, what is one (or more) permanent, heatlhy change you've made in your diet?
Beth: Thank you for the kind words. I'm trying to stay away from the dark side--Darth, you aren't my really my mother, are you? NOOOOOOOO.
Seriously, family. *sigh* I like your and Maria's points about toxicity; I try to stay away from people in my life who I find to be poisonous to my peace of mind; hence, the limited exposure to my parents. Too much history, too much learned behavior. And it reminds me of what I've been reading with Master Your Metabolism (I just got that book in from interlibrary load. It's got loads of good information! ) about environmental effects. I just get a little down when I see them, kwim? And your encouragement--everyone's encouragement here--more than makes up for it. As for your ILs.
Wow. Just wow. You've all heard my stories before, but I've got nothing to compare with that. I'm so sorry to hear that the stereotypical images of IL relationships are so grounded in people's experiences. I'd rather hoped I was the exception. You're a strong woman to deal with your situation--and you don't deserve that at all. (As you know.) You deserve a real love-a-palooza, like from here. I know exactly what you mean by having that one food you love and can't resist. Your Oreos, my oatmeal raisin cookies. I can't have them in the house. Good for you for moving on (and with 35 miles), realizing it's a momentary lapse. It sounds like the spa challenge is challenging in more ways than one. Your leader sounds a little...needy...if I may say. I'm sure it comes from taking her responsibilities seriously, a good thing, but that's added pressure on you. And the scale thing would frustrate me to no end.
I know it's been a good motivator for you, overall, though, and hope it's been worth it.Last, in my long post, HAPPY 11th BIRTHDAY to your DS. He's going to love the extended b-day celebration, getting to party with his school friends. It's better than a one-day b-day any day of the week.
Maria: First, I admit my general ignorance as to Wizards of Waverly place. I had to Google it; I was right in the basics, but had no idea of its popularity. Do tell us more about what this House Party entailed, and why oh why you applied.
Second, big kudos on the meal (and esp. salad) planning. That's such an important part of the eating success, as you know. Plus, it makes your life easier during the work week. It's kind of like the carpenter's credo: measure twice, eat once. More time in prepping equals success, yes?
Third, I know you're right about why my mother behaved the way she did while visiting. I do something similar when I'm on "their turf" or with my ILs...the stress, the feeling someone is more concerned with your lifestyle than theirs, or the idea that their lifestyle is somehow a commentary on yours. Thanks for putting that in perspective for me. And I SHOULD have noted that my mother also had a couple of salads when she was here, as well. I think I get caught up in all the mother-daughter baggage. I can more easily disassociate from my ILs because, well, they're my ILs. And I've come to the conclusion that all mothers are psycho when it comes to their sons. (No offense to those of you with sons. Just sayin'.
)Fourth, and most important,
I didn't mean to make you cry. never would have posted this if I'd known it would cause you to reflect on your own family and make you feel bad. I'm sooooo sorry. And you've got a rough IL/extended family situation, with toxic being too gentle a descriptor. Take it from me and the rest of the Lean Meaters: they're short-sighted--heck, they're blind--if they don't see what an incredible person AND an incredible athlete you are. I'd adopt you into my family, but well...how about I just call you my honorary SIL, but you don't need to marry my BIL? (Things my get awkward between you and your current DH.)Sarah: Great job on the 3 pounds lost in a tough week! That's a whole lot of poundage dropped during the challenge and being on track for your trip makes your success doubly rewarding!
You're going to hit that 20 lb. clippy in no time, and that's good for the motivation, too. Perhaps not as good for the motivation as attracting the boys (whether you're interested or not, it sure is flattering).... Collect a few boys for me, please, and I'll live vicariously through you. Shawna: Welcome!
The more, the merrier. I cannot imagine living deep in the heart of Texas, with the heat and humidity. I may complain about the cold during the winter, but I definitely get snarky in the warm weather. Your goals sound really do-able to me, although I currently am chasing my tail with the same 5 pounds. That's just about a pound a week. Especially on the days when it's too hot to be outside (every day of the summer for you, it sounds like, what with the heat & headaches ).Lots of people here like the Leslie Sansone DVDs and they seem to work for you, so that's a great start. I'm not a huge fan of Curves, if for no other reason than the equipment & intervals don't allow you to progress and challenge yourself, making more progress rather than just plateauing early. It sounds like you discovered that as well.
I love Vicky's advice--I second it!
She's a good example of where I should be with cutting down/out the sugar and caffeine. I'm trying to move to green tea for the latter, since it's so good for you in other areas. For energy, I also try to watch my early a.m. protein intake to keep me fueled all day. Do you have cable TV/On Demand service? I've found that some of their exercise videos--especially the short intros--let me test drive fitness routines that I can then check out of the library or put into my Netflix DVD queue. I get bored easily, so I have to rotate my XT a lot. I do find that I like On Demand for the dance cardio, for example, and dancing in the privacy of my own home is the only place THAT's happening. Shoes...can't help you with that a lot. I have normal to high arches, and am a dedicated New Balance girl. Do you know about Joe's New Balance Outlet, though? I love that place. (Vicky: some of the NB shoes are in the new models now. Check out Joe's and get that second pair to rotate!
) Vicky: A button pusher, yes! Great description. I'm sorry you have one of those. And your future ILs sound like they will be a challenge. I'm obviously no poster child for getting along with the ILs, but I do try and perfect my non-committal "mmm-hmmms" when my ILs offer their never-ending advice on how we should life. Although I have been known to say, once or twice, "Yes, I know that's what you think we should do."
Not a good way to win family members over, btw.Great way to shake things up with your routine by trying a new PT. Is this a temporary shift or are you shopping around? Boxing sounds like fun, in "work your aggressions out" kind of way. Did you imagine yourself as Rocky?
I think we know you're in great shape, because we don't see you as often as we'd like and DF sees you all the time, so notices the small differences (and I would expect no less of DF). Your friends and family are kind of in the middle, seeing you so often that they take your appearance for granted, kwim? And you're still posting steady losses!Jackie: I hope the work load lightens sooner than later, or at least you get the kudos you deserve.
Julie: Have you started training for the marathon yet. Where are you staying again?
Wendy: How's the DL training progressing. I know I said it on the thread, but great presentation on Web 2.0 and Disney. DOOD is going to conference on Web 2.0 and Shakespeare, and I could briefly explain what Web 2.0 is, thanks to you.
Cindy: Have you signed up for your next tri yet? I hear they're very addictive. Lots of swimming practice, too, good for the Madonna-esque physique.
Kim: Have you settled on your Goofy plan yet? I keep tweaking mine. Apparently I have commitment issues.
Amy: Saw that you've started training for the full already.
As for me: My total loss for the challenge was 4 pounds. Not as horrible as I thought, but not stellar. Still progress, though, right? One of my goals for Goofy training is to keep losing for the first half of training and avoid gaining during the second. I told DOOD to expect lots & lots of veggies to infiltrate our household because I'm eating an unlimited amount of carrots and broccoli. If he wants post-workout ice cream (as he's been craving) he'll need to stay out of my sight.
We were talking this weekend about how our eating habits have changed since we've been together. When we first started dating, there were lots of meals out (mmmm, Indian, Ethiopian, Mexican food) and weekends of waffles. Not to mention lots of drinks in the courtship stages. Now, we eat much healthier; I don't remember the last waffle I had, and our breakfast routine now includes our daily oatmeal--just as one example. So I was wondering, what is one (or more) permanent, heatlhy change you've made in your diet?
My DD would be so jealous. She loves that show. Have a fun party. I can't wait to hear all about it.
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for you! 
to Kim, Vicky, Julie, Shawna, Sarah and Jackie! 
The trainer kept telling me to hit harder and get angry. I always end up giggling and laughing everytime someone says that too me.
