Weddings (What type do you like)

[Ziggie]

Gumdrop, I can appreciate your feelings but not everyone goes into debt and/or gives up a house because of a wedding.

 

[ASFCurly]

I think I would like something with just siblings (not that I will get away with that when I do eventually get married) but mainly because my Mom and my Mom's family hate my Dad and my Dad's family, and the same is true in reverse.

 

[gumdrop]

Originally posted by Ziggie
Gumdrop, I can appreciate your feelings but not everyone goes into debt and/or gives up a house because of a wedding.

I didn't that say everyone does. I just said that I didn't

 

[CourtasanSatine]

casting vote for the best of both words with a if all else fails elope

 

[FOJMO]

My DH and I have done both. We were both married before our own marriage. We each did the full church wedding and country club receptions the first time around.

When we married each other, we had a simple chapel wedding, presided by a friend who had played King Arthur (we met when playing Lancelot & Guinevere in "Camelot"). We had about 50 people back to our house for cold cuts and salads and George (King Arthur) brough Excalibur to cut the wedding cake.

We left for WDW the following morning and we've been living "Happily Ever After" for 22 years this year!

I wish more couples would look at what they are actually DOING rather than the fashion in which they DO it. The wedding only lasts a day -- the marriage is a lifetime commitment.

 

[disykat]

Obviously, whatever the bride and groom want (and can afford!) is what they should have. However, since I was asked my opinion...

I prefer church weddings with cake and punch in the fellowship hall. No one seems to do that anymore though! Banquet dinners make me feel like I'm at a business obligation!

 

[Pin Wizard]

If it's my wedding, I'll do all the planning. And that's what I did. It's "our" day, not my parents' day!!! We had a lovely wedding without going overboard. We intended to pay for it. At the reception, my dad came over and told me that he'd be covering the bill! We had a church wedding and a reception with 75 people. Just right!! And everyone had a great time! Friar Tuck Inn in Cedar Grove, NJ was our reception site. Just beautiful!

www.friartuckinn.com

 

[figmentvi]

I'd be doing a MAJOR happy dance if our DD's wedding came out to be $60.00 pp.

Our DD Andrea is getting married in WDW and we're planning a Fairy Tale Wedding. The minimum we have to meet is $100.00 pp for food and beverage. But it certainly will be an event that we won't likely forget. I think we're actually getting our $$ worth, because it will take us a year to plan it and we're having soooo much fun doing it.

Linda

 

[WDWLVR]

When I got married 13 years ago I wanted a very formal wedding with a great party afterwards. That's what we got. We had a beautiful church wedding with a full nuptial Mass (we're Catholics) followed by a reception for 150 that was family style. It worked out great.

I agree that everyone should have what they want/can afford. I'm afraid that too many brides these days (or their mothers) want these over the top celebrations. To me the bigger the hoopla the less intimate the actual wedding ceremony. To each their own.

 

[powellrj]

Originally posted by disykat
Obviously, whatever the bride and groom want (and can afford!) is what they should have. However, since I was asked my opinion...

I prefer church weddings with cake and punch in the fellowship hall. No one seems to do that anymore though! Banquet dinners make me feel like I'm at a business obligation!

Thats what we had 25 years ago....It was short and sweet and we did have deli trays and salads!!

 

[Ziggie]

My daughter's reception will be held at the Breakers Hotel but she will have the actual ceremony in a church (we are Catholics also). And Linda I agree, planning this wedding with DD has definitely been a fun-filled year! We've enjoyed every phase of it.. from the engagement party right down to planning the after-party

 

[RUDisney]

I like any wedding that is not on my DH's side of the family.

They are a miserable bunch... don't dance... don't smile, etc.

A wedding that is fun is what I like. It can be elegant or casual, that doesn't matter.

When we got married, I wanted to do our reception in my parents' backyard, but DH insisted that it be at the Country Club. Actually, at first he insisted that it be at his aunt's restaurant, but her DD got married 4 months before us and there was a huge family fight caused by some of the teenaged boys. She cancelled our wedding without telling us.

In the meantime, we knew that there was so much animosity in the family at that point that it couldn't be there. Luckily, his uncle called his country club and the only Saturday open for the whole year was the day we had chosen to marry. Hence, our location, but I was still all for renting a tent for Mom and Dad's yard.

We paid for our wedding because I knew if someone gave us a dollar towards our expenses, they'd expect a dollar's worth of an opinion. The only opinions that mattered, in the end, were ours.

The day was lovely. We knew that we wanted people for years to be talking about the meal that we served. We didn't want standard reception faire. I spoke with the chef and told him that I wanted him to serve boneless chicken breasts stuffed with proscuitto, fontina cheese and spinach, covered with a pink tomato basil sauce. Everyone loved it and after 9.5 years, people still talk about our wedding meal. It was an absolute fairy tale.

People have told my mother that they will call her when their kids are getting married, because we always have come up with different ideas that are fun for the receptions.

We used to kid that we had to stay married until the loan was paid off for the wedding. Now, we tell everyone that it is paid off and we're still together, so it must be love.

 

[Ziggie]

RUDisney, you are so right. No matter how much planning goes into a wedding, if the families are miserable or fighting, the event will be a dismal affair

I love your menu! Personal touches are what makes a wedding special.

 

[tkyes]

Doesn't matter to me, I like them all.

I love watching the couple enjoy themselves and I love eating cake and dancing with my husband.


Tamie