Weddings (What type do you like)

[momsal]

What type of wedding do you like!!!
Formal or Home-made??

We are going to a wedding in a couple of weeks and I really wish we didn't have to go!! It is totally Upscale!! It is at a Country Club and is really over the top! I know that it is up to the bride aand Groom to have what they want but we are talking about wroking classs people who for some reason feel that they have to impress.

This is a $60 dollar a plate reception!!!!!
For pete's sake even the shower was catered!!!!

I don't know about everyone else but I prefer a family wedding with less impressing and more relaxing fun!!!

 

[bsnyder]

I know that it is up to the bride aand Groom to have what they want...

Maybe in most families it works this way. Not in mine. My dad paid so my mom felt like it was her wedding, LOL She even told me that I wouldn't get to make any wedding decisions until I had a daughter and she got married.

While I don't see the need to go into deep debt for a wedding, I do think the family/bride & groom can and should have whatever they want. And I've been to plenty of upscale weddings that were a lot of fun. I've also been to very simple affairs that were fun, too.

Why don't you send your regrets, along with a gift, and save them the $120, if you're worried about them overspending?

 

[chell]

Originally posted by momsal
I don't know about everyone else but I prefer a family wedding with less impressing and more relaxing fun!!!

I prefer a family wedding also. It is just more relaxed for everyone!

 

[CEDmom]

I like small elegant weddings. Not 350 of your closest friends and family more like 75-100. While $60 may sound a lot if you're going out to dinner that's actually pretty cheap as far as weddings go. I do like to get dressed up on occasion and to me a wedding is a perfect reason.

 

[gina2000]

I think many (if not all) first time brides want a fairy tale wedding. Having done it and enjoyed it as a bride, I'd never do it again...nor would I put anyone else through it.

I prefer informal, fun affairs now. If I were to ever get married again, it would be on a beach on an island..... Elegant.......understated...and informal would be my dream.

 

[Nutsy]

I don't like the big fancy wedding stuff, but I do like a Church Wedding a bride in a white gown with sleeves (not strapless) & a train.

No big flashy meal.........just a nice 3 course meal that is edible.

Ours was a Church wedding & the reception was at a Golf Club & all up it only cost us a couple of hundred. It was 19 yrs ago, but $60 a plate is ridiculous.

We just had a roast & apple pie for our meal & it wansn't a big deal.

Each to his own tho, we all have different ideas of what a weddding should be like & afterall it is the Bride & Grooms first meal together as husband & wife.

 

[Jenzebelle]

It is at a Country Club and is really over the top! I know that it is up to the bride aand Groom to have what they want but we are talking about wroking classs people who for some reason feel that they have to impress. This is a $60 dollar a plate reception!!!!!
For pete's sake even the shower was catered!!!!

My wedding was at a Country Club. It was a $60 a plate reception (that also covered the cost of the DJ and cake as well as the facilities), and my shower was catered.

That's actually fairly standard for weddings around here.

She even told me that I wouldn't get to make any wedding decisions until I had a daughter and she got married.

My Mother said something along those lines. She took over planning from the get go before I finally had to tell her she's going to have to pitch in with some $$ because I can't afford the wedding she wants

Seriously, I don't care if you have a swanky wedding on Nantucket, a beach wedding in Hawaii, a high society wedding, or a BBQ in your back yard. It's about what the couple (and their parents ) want. The only thing I required of my guests was that they share our love.
It shouldn't matter what the reception is like.

 

[momsal]

I Think most of my problem with this wedding is that the brides parents are sweet people and her brother is great but she is such a SPOILED BRAT!!! She always has to go one better then anyone else It sucks the enjoyment out of everything!!

Oh by the way I have to go it is family

 

[Wagamama]

i like weddings that i'm in....

 

[d.kurz]

I think you guys need a reality check. $60.00 a plate is cheap these days. A "fancy" country club wedding around these parts runs up to $150.00 a plate! And sometimes MORE!!!

Having said that, I like any kind of wedding. They all have their charms....

 

[KJo719]

$60 a plate! Wow!! I'm getting married next month and around here the average is $90 a plate and that isn't even the most expensive places! I'm having around 175 guests, personally I would like it to be a little smaller, but since I have a big family that wasn't possible. I don't like anything too upsacle, but I do like elegant and hopefully that's what mine will be!!

 

[Ziggie]

Ever hear of the Breakers Hotel in Palm Beach? That's where my daughter's wedding will be. It is something that we have been saving for since she was born.

I believe that every family needs to decide for themselves what type of wedding is best for them. We only have one child and a fairy tale wedding was something we wanted her to have if we could afford it.

 

[Serena]

Mine was very homemade and everyone loved it.

 

[snoopy]

Maybe in most families it works this way. Not in mine. My dad paid so my mom felt like it was her wedding, LOL She even told me that I wouldn't get to make any wedding decisions until I had a daughter and she got married.

You are NOT alone, Bet! My mother planned my entire wedding. She was THE party planner extraordinairre, so I didn't mind, and I'm awfully picky. If I had to do it over again, I'd probably change very little.

I'm with Dorothy, I like any kind of wedding - I love weddings in general!

 

[PamOKW]

Ziggie, is your daughter actually having a wedding soon or is this a "future" plan?

It's funny how prices can be so different. A bride around here would consider that she was getting off cheap with $60 per person. And that certainly wouldn't include any entertainment.

I like weddings where everyone is happy and it's not a big production. Elegant for 100-150 is ideal. But, I can have fun at any wedding where everyone is getting along.

 

[Mishetta]

I think if the $60 per plate is on the East Coast, or West Coast, it's very inexpensive. I live in MI & that would be a higher end medium price per plate.

We had a beautiful, elegant wedding 9 years ago & I think our shin-dig with full bar was about $30 per person. Not too large, about 150 people. We were able to talk to everyone at our wedding since it was a manageable size.

Don't worry about the wedding being too upscale or snobby for your taste...just go & have a wonderful time. Weddings can be so magical. I still get goosebumps each time I attend a wedding.

 

[cgcw]

I had a very big wedding with ex-DH. We had all the bells and whistles to make it as much of a fairy tale as possible. We paid for a portion of it but my Mom paid for most. We were very fortunate and I wouldn't trade the experience for anything.

But, I did trade my ex-DH for my new DH. Well, not exactly like that but when my current DH and I decided to get married, I really wanted to just fly of to Vegas or go to City Hall. DH didn't want that because he didn't want to just tell his DD6 we're married. So, we had a very small, very elegant wedding. Although it was more than I wanted, it worked perfect for us.

I think everyone needs to do what's right for them when it comes to weddings. After all, it is the bride and grooms special day.

 

[gumdrop]

I like cheap weddings! I'm getting married on August 3rd and I wanted to make it as manageable as possible. My fiance and I bought a house, which to us, is way more important than a lavish wedding. Ours is a Sunday afternoon wedding, ceremony and reception at the same place ( a beautiful restaurant called Il Capriccio) and we're only having 65 guests. It's about 75.00 pp for a 4 course meal. We're having a piano player and that's it. Total cost for reception, music, dress, flowers, favors, cake is about 6000, and that is actually more than I wanted to spend! I saved wherever I could--I printed out my own beautiful invitations, bought my dress on sale, and luckily, I have hair, photography, and florist connections! We're paying half, and my parents are paying the other. It's the marriage that counts, not how lavish the reception is. By comparison, my friend's parents had to take out a second mortgage to pay for a $35,000 reception (about 185pp, 250+ people). That did not include her $4,500 dress, DJ, photographer, videographer, favors, flowers, cake...her total was over 50 g's. That was the downpayment on our house. I'm perfectly fine, and not going into debt with my cheap wedding.

 

[Ziggie]

Hi PamOKW, nice to meet you

Our daughter's wedding is just about 8 weeks away and we still have several loose ends to tie up. While it is a very formal affair, it will also be on the small side.. less than 75 people.

And I agree with you regarding prices! I see that you are in CT ~ I love it there! We have family in Westport and the rest (on hubby's side) are scattered between there and Simsbury.

I love weddings ~ and each one is magical and special in it's own way.

 

[olena]

Vegas wedding. Just show up, write a check and have FUN....