Wedding Thank You Notes

[ilovefh]

Here is my dilemma....

I got married almost a year ago and procrastinated horribly with the thank you notes for both the wedding and the shower. In fact I have not sent them out yet. I won't make excuses and say I was too busy or anything like that, I just honestly forgot about them.

So my question is:

What is more offensive, not sending them out at all or sending them out a year late?

I assume there are some people who are offended to have not received one. My concern is that by sending a thank you a year late I will offend them again. Or is it better late than never?

I know I will get flamed for this question but I am ready!

 

[Bren's Mom]

I think you should send them...better late than never.

 

[Christine]

Send them out.

To me, it is very offensive to never do it. Heck, if I got one 3 years late, I'd be happy!

 

[NMAmy]

Do the right thing and send them now. I'd add a funny note about being a procrastinator, ask for forgiveness, and express gratitude for the gift. There really should be some acknowledgement that the thank yous are quite late.

I'm a procrastinator, too, but I won't allow myself to use a gift or put it out of sight until the thank you has gone out. This system really works for me--having something cool staring me in the face that I'm unable to do anything with really motivates me.

 

[Disney Doll]

Send them.
Make an apology for being so late...maybe add something about how you are Queen of the Land of Procrastination or something like that to add a little humor. Then maybe something about how you use their gift all the time (every morning when I make my bagel I think of you as it is toasting in the toaster oven) or what you used the money for (Bill & I put your generous gift into our savings in hopes that soon we will be able to buy a house).

 

[Rora]

Send them now.

 

[mickeyboat]

Last time I got a thank you note a year late, it was followed shortly after by an invitation to a baby shower. You aren't pregnant, are you?

If I were you I would go ahead and send them now with an apology. People will be offended either way. Please be careful not to let it happen again.

 

[mtemm]

send them

 

[HM]

Send them.
I remember wondering whether the gift we gave my niece even was received. I as SO happy to get a belated thank you from the couple many months later. You and your husband need to take a day this coming weekend to get them churned out and sent on Monday. Between the two of you, you can get it done! You'll feel so good afterward!

 

[aprilgail2]

I would certainly send them out- I can tell you names of people that I gave wedding gifts to that never sent a thank you- thats how it stands out in some peoples minds LOL....I would not be offended to get one a year later- unless of course it came in the same envelope as the invitation to a baby shower....I guess they figured if they didn't thank people for the wedding that we gave gifts to 2 years before they wouldn't go to the baby shower .

 

[lillygator]

def send them now. Better late than never.

 

[MrsJackSparrow4Life]

I'm not totally positive but I remember hearing that etiquette says you have 1 year after the wedding to get thank you's out. So technically, if you get them out quickly, you wont be late getting them to people.

 

[omghidanielle]

I'm in the same boat as you (almost)

I wrote my thank yous to everyone, except my caterer!
They were such a tremendous help that, everytime I'd start writing their thank you, I never thought it was *enough*, and I'd scrap it and start a whole new one.

I thinking at this point, I should just send them every single thank you that I've written them along with a note that says I require a padded cell when it comes to thanking people.

It's so so so bad.

 

[KAMKIM]

Here is my dilemma....

I got married almost a year ago and procrastinated horribly with the thank you notes for both the wedding and the shower. In fact I have not sent them out yet. I won't make excuses and say I was too busy or anything like that, I just honestly forgot about them.

So my question is:

What is more offensive, not sending them out at all or sending them out a year late?

I assume there are some people who are offended to have not received one. My concern is that by sending a thank you a year late I will offend them again. Or is it better late than never?

I know I will get flamed for this question but I am ready!

I would imagine your first year of marriage has been a pretty busy one and I can totally see how you would forget. Send them and add a note like someone else mentioned......and yes you will probably get flamed because that is the norm around here but dont feel bad - I can think of alot worse things someone could do than forgetting to send a thank you note.

 

[lil mermaid]

I agree with those who say better late than never. I'd sit down and do them now.

 

[Piecey]

Last time I got a thank you note a year late, it was followed shortly after by an invitation to a baby shower. You aren't pregnant, are you?

If I were you I would go ahead and send them now with an apology. People will be offended either way. Please be careful not to let it happen again.

I still haven't sent mine either. I got pregnant four months after we got married... and we started focusing on finding a house and fixing it up.

I have them... in a box somewhere... and they'll get mailed out...eventually... is it rude to mail the baby shower thank you with the wedding thank you (separate envelopes but mail them the same day )? I haven't gotten all the baby shower thank yous out yet either!

 

[DVC Sadie]

I would not be offended to get one a year later- unless of course it came in the same envelope as the invitation to a baby shower....I guess they figured if they didn't thank people for the wedding that we gave gifts to 2 years before they wouldn't go to the baby shower .

This happened to us. We received a baby shower invitation in the same envelope as the wedding thank you card. My dh and I .

Please go ahead and send out your belated thank you cards, believe it or not most people do remember whether or not they received them and will be pleased that you sent them.

 

[Ember]

In my head upon receiving a thank you note a year late: "Well, it's late, but at least I know she got my gift. And she does say she's sorry for the lateness. I'm so glad she enjoyed the ____ I got her. I bet she just got very busy over the last year... I remember my first year of marriage. I should call and see how they're doing."

In my head when no thank you is ever received: "This couple must have been raised in a barn. Seriously, who doesn't know how to say thank you?! Last time I ever give them anything."

I think most people will understand a late thank you. I, for one, can never understand NO thank you. And I always think less of people who can accept gifts but not say thank you for them. Please send your late thank you notes.

 

[SNylund]

"I'm taking a stand against all of this over thanking, I thanked him once, when I got the tickets, then I thanked him again, now I have to call him up and thank him a third time?" Jerry Seinfeld

Just kidding, you should probably send them ASAP. And maybe put an official "excuse" as to why they are late.

 

[clh2]

Send them...send them...send them.

I sent a cousin a check for her wedding, we weren't able to attend the wedding. I totally understand the bride's year - they got married just before she started her last year of a pediatric residency, and then her new hubby got a professorship at a college halfway across the country. So, the TY's came about 1 year after the wedding. I was glad to hear from her.

Please send them! I rarely give cash...(as opposed to a check) but if I gave a cash gift - I would seriously be wondering if the bride/groom received my gift.