Wedding Thank You Notes

[disney junky]

Went to a wedding a couple weeks ago. The couple is very young 18-19, and the wedding was not terribly formal. Not very big.

Today we got a thank you note for our gift. It was preprinted inside. Basically said, thanks for your presence and the gift, etc. We are one in love, and then the names of the couple. No signature. No writing whatsoever. Is this something new? I have never gotten a preprinted thank note before. I'm somewhat flabbergasted......

Comments?

 

[scifihippie]

Personally, I think any gift deserves a handwritten thank you note. No email or preprinted option. I think it shows a lack of respect for the gift giver. After all, they took time to go buy a gift, wrap it and give it to you.

 

[lillygator]

I too think its very impersonal and I have always made a point to send hand written thank yous for even small things that happen....

however, I am still waiting on a thank you from a wedding we went to in 2003 and have yet to receive....a TY, even preprinted is better than none.

 

[aprilgail2]

I too think its very impersonal and I have always made a point to send hand written thank yous for even small things that happen....

however, I am still waiting on a thank you from a wedding we went to in 2003 and have yet to receive....a TY, even preprinted is better than none.

I'm still waiting for one from 2004! I am a big thank you freak so it really irks me. I also hate the ones from kids birthday parties that they stick in the goody bag saying "thank you for coming to my party and for the nice gift" It it SO tacky! I make my daughter sit down and write thank you notes to every child that came to her party and mail them to their homes. When she says "well sally didn't send thank yous from her party" I simply say, "Well Sally is rude and you are not so start writing!"

 

[Kahana-ri]

I believe getting a handwritten note is the most appropriate. There is something so much personal about someone taking the time to write a few lines. IMO

 

[beckmrk04]

I got married in Oct. 2004, and I can tell you that MANY companies are offering those stupid thank-you's that are completely impersonal.

I opted for blank so I could specifically thank the person for the gift we recieved.

I think preprinted say, "We're too busy and really couldn't even tell you what you got us."

 

[scrump]

I am a ty note appreciative as well, and I think a preprinted note is pretty tacky. Still, I guess better than nothing.

 

[Stacerita]

I think handwritten is much better than the preprinted ones. But you said the couple was young and it wasn't formal. So maybe they didn't know better. If someone at the invitation store was selling them as the best thing since sliced bread, they bought a loaf. At least the remembered to send thank yous out. And be thankful they didn't ask you to address them yourself at the reception.

 

[disney junky]

And be thankful they didn't ask you to address them yourself at the reception.

 

[Tracey1974]

I'm waiting for my boss and his wife to send thiers from their wedding in 2003. Thier excuse was that the photog kept messing up their pictures. Hello?! It is so rude....

 

[Honu]

I think handwritten is much better than the preprinted ones. But you said the couple was young and it wasn't formal. So maybe they didn't know better. If someone at the invitation store was selling them as the best thing since sliced bread, they bought a loaf. At least the remembered to send thank yous out. And be thankful they didn't ask you to address them yourself at the reception.

I think it's reasonable to believe that some would rely on the wedding vendors for guidance in this area and assume that those vendors wouldn't sell something that would make the customer look bad.

 

[Otto's Doll]

I And be thankful they didn't ask you to address them yourself at the reception.

This happened to me 2 years ago at a bridal shower, the hostesses handed out envelopes and asked us all to address them, to save the busy bride some time. I was appalled. (Took 7 months to get a thank you for that wedding gift, but at least we got one.)

 

[dolphinrescuegirl]

We just got married a month ago and as soon as we got back from our honeymoon we handwrote thank you cards to every one who gave us a gift. Even wrote a sentence something like "your generosity helped us buy a new office chair that was badly needed." It seems like the younger set just isnt as mannersome as we older ones (I'm only 25 myself) but you know what I mean.

 

[beckmrk04]

This happened to me 2 years ago at a bridal shower, the hostesses handed out envelopes and asked us all to address them, to save the busy bride some time. I was appalled. (Took 7 months to get a thank you for that wedding gift, but at least we got one.)

Everyone around here does that.

In fact, they did it at my shower come to think of it. Everyone put their address on an envelope and then my bridesmaids drew envelopes - whoever had their name drawn got a present, or something like that.

Honestly- I have seen this at a lot of showers and I really appreciated it at mine- I was a busy girl pre-wedding, and my thank-yous were out in a much timelier fashion than they would have been otherwise (especially since there were around 60 people at my SHOWER! )! After the honeymoon, though, I addressed and wrote out all the wedding thank-yous.

 

[clh2]

I have received 2 "pre-printed" thank you's from weddings. I was just speechless both times.

I am one of those who really appreciates a sincere TY note.

My DD absolutely needs to send out TY's for gifts. She writes great ones (OK - so I am biased), and as we've always explained, it doesn't need to be long, it just needs to be sincere. (Each of hers take about 5 minutes, max- and we don't even need to ask her about them anymore.) Now, about a couple of days after Christmas, or her birthday, she'll just give us a stack of envelopes and will ask us to mail them!