Wedding "Save The Date" question~~Update on page 4

[horseshowmom]

Well, if it makes you feel better, it was obvious (and funny) to me.

It was obvious to me. It made me laugh.

Me too!

I suppose it could have been a mistake, but didn't they look at them? I know 18 years ago when I was getting married, as soon as things came in (invites, etc) I couldn't want to look at them, over and over. How do you send them out and not notice a mistake like that?

If it's a mistake, I really feel for them. That would be awful. However, it does seem like one of those things you would notice immediately. I know that my daughter was like you, was excited about them and went through them carefully.

 

[It'sWDW4me]

Coffee Pot ($120) minus room (105.00) minus beef dinner(-25) and chicken dinner (-25), and gas (looking forward it will probably be about 4.00/gallon, so let's just say travel to and from -150.00) Turns out they owe YOU a grand total of 185.00! Then provide an address they can mail the check to so you can make it to their wedding!

 

[Sugardimples]

I really think that I would not be able to attend this wedding. The whole idea that you need to "cover your plate" is very distasteful to me and I don't even attempt to do it. I give a gift that I feel and appropriate and that I can afford. And I do come from a part of the country where "cover your plate" is the culture. I just don't like it.

This is taking it to a whole new level.

I feel strongly that you should have a wedding (or any other celebration) that you can afford. The point is to stand in front of family and friends and make your promises to each other. If what you can afford is coffee and cake, then do that. The best wedding I've attended have been the simplest.

 

[disneyfreakk]

Tacky, Tacky, Tacky!

 

[LisaNJ25]

The STD card is a really bad acronym for a wedding announcement, just saying .

 

[krcit]

Depends on who's getting married.

 

[DisneyBeagle]

You, I like. You can come to my next wedding. In lieu of a gift please stand by the open bar with me and gossip about my mother-in-law.

It's a date!

 

[kamik86]

Oh I really want to know too.

I suppose it could have been a mistake, but didn't they look at them? I know 18 years ago when I was getting married, as soon as things came in (invites, etc) I couldn't want to look at them, over and over. How do you send them out and not notice a mistake like that?

You would think so but I did have some post-cards made for something... I forget what, maybe the shower... and my name was misspelled on it. I honestly didn't notice until Mom pointed it out.

 

[Breezy_Carol]

The STD card is a really bad acronym for a wedding announcement, just saying .

I thought that too.

 

[TheIncredibles!]

You would think so but I did have some post-cards made for something... I forget what, maybe the shower... and my name was misspelled on it. I honestly didn't notice until Mom pointed it out.

My cousin sent out her wedding invitations inviting everybody to attend her wedding on Saturday September 20th at 5 pm. She did not catch her mistake until 3 weeks before the wedding. She was actually getting married on Friday September 19th.....

Weddings can be a frantic time. Sometimes the details are really easily overlooked. I would like to think this STD was just a huge mistake but a phone call to clarify really would be in order.

 

[DisneyScraps]

I can't think of any way that it would not be tacky. People these days! Sheesh if they can't afford to feed you then don't have a meal. Have a cocktail party or something less formal.

I don't mind a STD card, especially if you are expected to travel but one with pricing on it.....shudder!



Lisa

 

[bumbershoot]

The STD card is a really bad acronym for a wedding announcement, just saying .

Yeah. On a wedding planning board you get to a point where you don't even notice it, and you always read it correctly...but on a general board spelling it out is the best way to go.



OP, there's just two options that I can see.

The first is to call them and find out. With a save the date, there's probably still lots of time and they aren't getting frantic, and it's more OK to contact the couple with a question like that. It's mystifying (and I'm not really mystified by ANYTHING wedding-related, having planned my own for going on 3 years and doing huge amounts of research and reading) and needs an explanation!

The second choice is to just wait for the invitation, and see what the more expanded info that should be on it says. At that point, just decline or accept.

 

[SandiH]

You would think so but I did have some post-cards made for something... I forget what, maybe the shower... and my name was misspelled on it. I honestly didn't notice until Mom pointed it out.

I forgot to put the time of my wedding on the invitations. I didn't notice it and the printer didn't notice it. One of my friends said she'd love to come but didn't know the time. Oops.

 

[disykat]

Its a Save The Date and Your Money notice. They are just being considerate of their guests so that you have time enough to adjust your budget to attend their wedding. I sure wish alot more brides and grooms would think about their guests first, like this couple is doing.

I immediately knew you were joking.

That said, I think the "cover your plate" people would be saved a lot of time having to snoop around trying to figure out what your event cost. I don't think it would have been any tackier for someone to try to save them the effort than for people to do the cover your plate bit in the first place.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

Without smileys in your post it DID look like you were serious.

Maybe they were respecting the folks that complained a few weeks ago about the overuse of emoticons and how one should let others decide if it is funny or not.




OP: You must update us. That is the craziest thing I have ever heard.

 

[Lisa loves Pooh]

I wonder if there will be a bouncer doing credit checks at the door to the chapel?

That would mean that Dave Ramsey isn't invited. 'Tis a shame since he is wealthy and that would be one heck of a cash paid for gift.

Don't couples accept cash anymore? What is going on with society?

 

[RangerPooh]

Since this is only a STD there is no need to list the food options. Listing the prices, even on the RSVP is beyond tacky! I would stay clear of this wedding out of fear that I would receive a bill from the waiter.

 

[mhsjax]

MM. That is very weird. Was the meal info an insert or literally on the STD? It's tacky either way. You are supposed to pay for the meal of your guest. I'm confident in saying that that is NOT a regional thing.

Never seen that happen in my neck of the woods. People here would refuse to go. And I have been to quite a few dinner receptions.

 

[mhsjax]

I really think that I would not be able to attend this wedding. The whole idea that you need to "cover your plate" is very distasteful to me and I don't even attempt to do it. I give a gift that I feel and appropriate and that I can afford. And I do come from a part of the country where "cover your plate" is the culture. I just don't like it.

This is taking it to a whole new level.

I feel strongly that you should have a wedding (or any other celebration) that you can afford. The point is to stand in front of family and friends and make your promises to each other. If what you can afford is coffee and cake, then do that. The best wedding I've attended have been the simplest.

I agree. We will be going to a wedding this July. WE have known the bride since she was 13 years old, she is now 23. She was our kids only baby sitter for most of their lives. Plus we know the entire family very well.

They will be having a huge wedding, and a sit down dinner. Now I don't know how much it would cost to "cover my plate" and they would never ask for this, but I can guarantee you that the gift that we give here will be way more than the cost of the plate. But, that is my choice and driven by the way we feel about her. There is no way I would go to any wedding where they expected me to cover the cost of the dinner. If you can't afford to have that type of reception, then don't have it.

 

[daughtersrus]

OP here again.

I spoke with my DD. The Save The Date card was very specific to the couple. It had a picture of them as the background with writing over the picture. I don't have the card in front of me but it said something along the lines of the M_____ and T_____ were getting married Date______ in Place________
Under that it said

Whitefish
Whitefish with a choice of potato or rice, vegetable, salad and rolls.
$18.95

Roast Duck
Half duckling served with wild rice pilaf, vegetable, salad and rolls.

$18.95

Prime Rib
Slow roasted Prime Rib served with baked potato, vegetable, salad and rolls.

Regular $17.50 King $21.00


It seems to me that they're letting everyone know the cost of the meal because they are expecting them to pay for it.

It isn't a close friend of DD's and she already has plans that weekend so she wasn't planning on going even before she got the card.