Wedding questions-step mother of groom

[Disney Doll]

I'd stay away from black or black and white. That time of year with sage and white as wedding colors, you could do a nice raspberry, copper, chocolate brown, midnight blue...there are lots of possibilities.

Evening reception so you could wear a gown if that is what the MOB & MOG are doing...keeps everyone looking the same level of "formal".

If relationships are good between all the mothers, I'd probably do as a PP suggested and have a little "coffee klatch" to discuss what everyone is wearing, style, color, length etc.

If the relationship between the mothers is not so good then I'd ask the bride for some guidance...explain to her that you don't want to steal anyone's thunder and you don't want to "over do"(look too dressed up) or "under do" (look too casual).

 

[golfgal]

I'd stay away from black or black and white. That time of year with sage and white as wedding colors, you could do a nice raspberry, copper, chocolate brown, midnight blue...there are lots of possibilities.

Evening reception so you could wear a gown if that is what the MOB & MOG are doing...keeps everyone looking the same level of "formal".

If relationships are good between all the mothers, I'd probably do as a PP suggested and have a little "coffee klatch" to discuss what everyone is wearing, style, color, length etc.

If the relationship between the mothers is not so good then I'd ask the bride for some guidance...explain to her that you don't want to steal anyone's thunder and you don't want to "over do"(look too dressed up) or "under do" (look too casual).

Another consideration-we went to a wedding of a family friend many years ago. The parents of the groom were not happy about the wedding and the mom of the groom showed up in a golf skirt and golf shirt, the dad showed up in jeans. It was a pretty formal wedding otherwise . Still can't figure out why they were so upset since their son turned out to be pretty nasty.

 

[Traveliz]

Another consideration-we went to a wedding of a family friend many years ago. The parents of the groom were not happy about the wedding and the mom of the groom showed up in a golf skirt and golf shirt, the dad showed up in jeans. It was a pretty formal wedding otherwise . Still can't figure out why they were so upset since their son turned out to be pretty nasty.

Sounds like the nastiness might have run in the family.

Liz

 

[MickeyMomOfThree]

I agree, ask the bride for guidance. I think it's really nice that you are worried about not stepping on toes, sounds like you are a wonderful step-mom-in-law-to-be!

I want to share a story but don't want to sound like a not so nice person cause I raeally am and if this was anyone else I would have felt soooo bad, but anyway here it goes. When DH and I were getting married we had lots of moms, step moms, grandmas. My DH was raised by a step mom (not a nice one at all) since almost birth but his mom was there too, I was raised by my grandma since birth but my mom was there. Plus tons of grandmas. So we came up with this idea to have all the moms, grandmas, etc wear our accent color, pink. I can't remember who came up with the idea but they actually all were in agreement or so they said.

So the day of the wedding all of them are in various pink dresses, they picked whatever they wanted and I never saw anyone's but my grandma's (cause we bought it together) till that day. Well my DH's step mom (who is very much like Lady Tremaine, really, she gives the many good step moms a bad name,) wore this awful almost neon royal blue dress. It stuck out soooo bad. Uggg, I was annoyed which I knew was her plan so I ignored it, but I couldn't do anything but laugh when the photos came in. The whole neck was all silver sequins, like, 2 inches of heavy sequins, and the reflection of it made it look like she had a rash on her face. I honestly would have felt bad for anyone in the world but her, she was so awful to my DH all growing up and to me from day one. If she had just worn pink...

As for the driving around. DH was best man in a wedding last year. I was 8 hours away from us and where we had never been before. There was a 3 hour break between the wedding and the reception about half of which was photos at a seperate location. Because we had no idea where we were and all the locations were so close together (for some reason the bride had only her family, her best friend and her and the groom in the limo, they went driving and then to her parents for a break,) so DH and I drove to and waited an hour and a half at the reception site along with many of the other out of towners. I have to say it was kind of annoying. I say if they are going to drive around there really should be something for the guests to do, at the very least give the out of town guests some ideas of where they can go in the mean time. Just my thoughts.

Have a great time and best of luck to the new bride and groom.