Wedding Question

[Soccer Princess]

So one of my friends called me last night and asked me if I wanted to be an attendant at her wedding. I said sure assuming she meant like guestbook attendant. Well after talking to her a little bit more and an e-mail she sent me I'm a little confused on what she means by this. Nowhere during the phone call or the e-mail did the word guestbook come up and she was making it sound different like I would be there the whole day and be in pictures and stuff. When I was in the shower it really started bugging me and I don't want to call her back and be like sure -- what is that again? lol. I'm 99% sure it is not a bridesmaid though.

What would you think it means?

 

[lovemygoofy]

If she said an all day deal and being in pictures and stuff then sounds like she is thinking bridesmaid and not door greeter. I also called my bridesmaids attendants.

 

[kpm76]

Yes, she wants you to be a bridesmaid. Attendant and bridesmaid are one in the same. You could call her back and ask when you'll be dress shopping etc just to be clear on your role but I am sure she wants you to be a bridesmaid.

 

[TheGottis]

attendant = bridesmaid in my book (it's just an older term)

 

[Crankyshank]

I have never heard of a guestbook attendant, so if I was asked to be an attendant I would automatically equate it with being a bridesmaid.

 

[Beth76]

yes, she was asking you to be a bridesmaid. "Attendant" is the word generally used for bridesmaids and groomsmen.

 

[Soccer Princess]

Hmm thanks for the advice but I'm positive she didn't mean bridesmaid because she has had those picked out for a few months now and they already got measured for their dresses and such. Thanks though!

 

[horseshowmom]

Hmm thanks for the advice but I'm positive she didn't mean bridesmaid because she has had those picked out for a few months now and they already got measured for their dresses and such. Thanks though!

I would just call or email her and ask her. Tell her that you're a little bit confused, that you assumed she meant guestbook attendant, but thought you might better make sure that you knew exactly what she wanted you to do.

(I've never heard of anybody but the wedding party being in the pictures. Are you sure a bridesmaid hasn't dropped out of the wedding or that she didn't decide to add an extra one?)

 

[jennyL]

Not sure what she ment but I did get a picture taken with my guestbook attendant and my program girls. We just did one though and then they were free to go to the reception.

 

[UnderTheMistletoe]

A bridesmaid....

 

[mickeyboat]

I would guess a bridesmaid, but call her to clarify exactly what is expected of you. Tell her you need to figure out what to wear.

Denae

 

[My2Cinderellas]

I would have thought bridesmaid also, but maybe she means a personal attendant. I had a friend be my personal attendant, she helped me with getting ready, ran to the drugstore for a couple of "oops I need this" items, just helped me keep track of everything going on.

 

[LynnTH]

Could it be her "Personal Attendant". The one that is there and helps the Bride get ready and stuff??

 

[lulu71]

Personal attendant, guestbook attendant...what is all this stuff? It sounds like free labor to me. And people fall for it? LOL. I haven't been married that long but those are all things that you would normally pay for, not ask someone to do as an "honor."

 

[UrsulasShadow]

Personal attendant=maid/matron of honor (or best man for the groom). All other wedding attendants are bridesmaids/groomsmen/flower girl/ring bearer. If she means something else, she must clarify.

 

[Becky2005]

I would think it was bridesmaid. I've heard them called attendants before. OK then, just read the other response that she had bridesmaids for a while.

I have no idea then.

We had a guestbook attendant but it was one of DH's older (but in the younger age group) cousin. All she did was be by the guestbook at the beginning of the reception & then mid-way went around to the tables and asked if they had had a chance to sign it. That was it, I did take a picture with her at the reception but she wasn't at the church for the after the ceremony pictures, etc...

Let us know what she says, I'm curious now because I would have thought "attendant = bridesmaid" but maybe she IS thinking her personal attendant in the helping her out all day. We basically had the Limo driver doing that role (in a way since we did a limo the entire day package & that was part of his job was to help out with minor things like if we had to run to the store, he went and got me & my best friend lunch because we were getting ready at the church, so he took the Limo & did a quick lunch run for us while we stayed at the church.)

 

[Enchanted Tiki Bird]

Personal attendant, guestbook attendant...what is all this stuff? It sounds like free labor to me. And people fall for it? LOL. I haven't been married that long but those are all things that you would normally pay for, not ask someone to do as an "honor."

I'm with you lulu. This personal attendant and guestbook attendant makes no sense to me. Not to knock anyone who does it, but I couldn't imagine asking someone to my wedding and making them do this stuff that you can pay people to do rather than enjoy themselves.

I always that that attendants were the people who stood with the bride and the groom during the ceremony like bridesmaids, groomsmen, the best man, and maid/matron of honour. I guess that's what I would automatically assume if someone asked me to be their attendant.

 

[Dodie]

attendant = bridesmaid

As far as I know, that has always been the terminology.

I've never heard of a "guestbook attendant," although I do know that people are asked to stand by the guestbook to make sure everyone signs.

If someone asked me to be an attendant in their wedding, I would assume that meant bridesmaid.

 

[CEDmom]

Personal attendant=maid/matron of honor (or best man for the groom). All other wedding attendants are bridesmaids/groomsmen/flower girl/ring bearer. If she means something else, she must clarify.

Some brides have a personal attendant that's not part of the wedding party. She would basically have an extra pair of panty hose, lipstick, nail polish etc in case the bride needed something.

 

[Crankyshank]

I had no idea there was such a thing as a personal attendant. We had ours on a nice table right next to the place cards.

I would have loved a personal attendant. Only in my case, she would be to run interference with my Mother and MIL