Wedding Invitations and Professional Titles?

[TigerBear]

Here is the situation: A MD is marrying a PhD (professional psychologist). Should the PhD refer to herself as Dr. on the invitation?

I have always heard that PhDs should not be addressed "Doctor" socially. All of my psychologist friends completely disagree with me. And yet, it would almost seem wierd to me to list "Ms." as my title.

Anyone have thoughts on this?

 

[lulugirl]

I think it's a personal decision whether or not to use a "title". I personally don't like it, seems very pretentious to me.

 

[ducklite]

My sister has her PhD and uses it professionally and to a degree socially. When my BIL was in the USAF full time, it chagrined the base command that the name plaque outside their door read Major and Dr. XXXXXXXXX.

She obtained her PhD after they married, but neither used a "professional title" on their wedding invitation.

Anne

 

[Beth76]

Is this your wedding invitation and are you the Dr/Ms in question? I've actually never seen the bride's name with a title in front of it. It's usually Mr/Mrs X request.....marriage of their daughter Jane Elizabeth to Mr/Dr. John Doe. Occasionally I've seen the invitation from the bride and groom and they just listed their names, no titles. Do whatever you want though.

 

[KathyTX]

I think I'd ditch the professional titles altogether. What are the options?

"Mark Smith and Julie Jones request the honour of your presence"
"Dr. Mark Smith and Julie Jones, PhD. request"
"Drs. Mark Smith and Julie Jones request"
"Dr. Mark Smith and Dr. Julie Jones request"
"Dr. Mark Smith and Ms. Julie Jones request"

Since, presumably, all of the people who know you well enough to be invited to the wedding already know of your very hard-earned titles, seems like you could just be Mark and Julie on that day rather than doctors... JMHO.

 

[crz4mm2]

If I had my PhD, I would want to use Dr. Heck, if I earned it,I'd use it!!!
I wouldn't think it pretentious at all.
I don't know if I would use it on the wedding invitation.

So would it read:
Dr. Bob Smith and Ms. Jane Doe request the honor of your etc etc...

As opposed to Mr and Mrs John Doe and Mr and Mrs Jake Doe request the honor at the marriage of their children
Dr. Bob Smith and
Ms. Jane Doe?
Or it could just say Bob Smith and Jane Doe


Our invites listed our parents requesting the presence....

See what I mean?

 

[Disney Doll]

I don't ever think professional titles belong on a wedding invitation.

How about

Mr. & Mrs. John Doe
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Jane Elizabeth Doe to
Robert David Smith

and so on with the ceremony location, time etc.​

 

[Jilliebean]

I don't think professional titles belong on a wedding invitation personally. DH is a PhD (psychologist) but doesn't ever use "Dr." socially.

 

[TigerBear]

I am definitely considering not including any titles, even though standard etiquette says the groom should include his title (including "Mr."). Everything I have read indicates that MDs should be addressed as "Doctor" on wedding invitations - it is both a social and a professional title.

Jillebean, I'm curious - when you receive a wedding invitation is it usually addressed to "Mr. and Mrs." and not "Dr. and Mrs.". I have a lot of friends who will not like this. Btw, I truly am looking forward to being called "Mrs.".

 

[luvmydogs]

TigerBear, you're getting married?!!!

CONGRATULATIONS!!!

 

[Kallison]

A doctorate is hard work -- if I earned one I would use the title.

 

[TigerBear]

TigerBear, you're getting married?!!!

Yep, this is me.

Thank you!

 

[luvmydogs]

Yep, this is me.

Thank you!

All my best, Deborah. I'm so very happy for you both!

 

[Jilliebean]

Usually social invitations come addressed as Mr. and Mrs. The only exceptions are invitations from people who know DH primarily professionally.

 

[princess pooh]

Congratulations!!!!

Personally, I think it sounds warmer if you don't use formal titles. My fiance is an MD but he didn't want it mentioned in the invitation. Our parents' names were on the invitation so we just put our first names.

My friend got married last year and they're an MD/PhD couple. They referred to themselves as Dr. Hername and Dr. Hisname. Go with whatever you feel confortable with.