Wedding Guests!

[Lynn5700]

Oh and here are other things she has said to me:

You can't have a shower

Your brainwashed from the girls at work who had destination weddings(three of my coworkers had a destination wedding)

It's stupid to have a total stranger marry you

People won't give you a wedding gift(I'm not expecting people to at all so I would'nt care)

Nobody is going to go(everyone wants to go except for het)

It's ignorant of me to make my father pay more money on top of the money he is giving me for the wedding

It just goes on and on.Everything is negative.

 

[Thumper's Tara]

Oh and here are other things she has said to me:

You can't have a shower

Your brainwashed from the girls at work who had destination weddings(three of my coworkers had a destination wedding)

It's stupid to have a total stranger marry you

People won't give you a wedding gift(I'm not expecting people to at all so I would'nt care)

Nobody is going to go(everyone wants to go except for het)

It's ignorant of me to make my father pay more money on top of the money he is giving me for the wedding

It just goes on and on.Everything is negative.

I have heard several of these as well. She is trying to change her mind to get you to do what she wants you to do, not what you want to do. I would make one last attempt to change her mind and then everytime she brings it up just say your line - "I am sorry you won't be able to make it, but this is where we chose to have our wedding".

Here is a sample budget you can share with her for the wedding. I am not sure where in Jersey she is, but there are often fare specials between Newark and Orlando.

Airfare - $235/per person * 3 = $705
Value Hotel - 3 nights @ $88/night = $264
Food, 2 days, $50/person/day = $300
Tickets, 2 days, 1 child, 2 adults = $274

Grand Total = $1543.00

I figured that she won't need to feed her family the day of the wedding and that she won't need tickets the day of the wedding. It can be a long weekend and they can get a "Taste" of DW.

Don't stress this! She wants you to do what she wants for your wedding. Tell her she got what she wanted for her wedding and now you deserve the same. If this effects your relationship with her, that is because she let it. You would have bad feelings towards her if she "forced" you to do your wedding her way. Maybe you tell her that too.

Finally, enjoy planning your wedding.

Good luck!

 

[PrincessBride07]

Oh and here are other things she has said to me:

You can't have a shower

Your brainwashed from the girls at work who had destination weddings(three of my coworkers had a destination wedding)

It's stupid to have a total stranger marry you

People won't give you a wedding gift(I'm not expecting people to at all so I would'nt care)

Nobody is going to go(everyone wants to go except for het)

It's ignorant of me to make my father pay more money on top of the money he is giving me for the wedding

It just goes on and on.Everything is negative.

The shower: There is nothing that says you aren't married if you don't have a shower. If you really wanted a shower type party, you could have a get together just to celebrate the wedding. No gifts.

Being brainwashed: Yes, because I can't think for myself.

The stranger marrying you: There is no guarante that someone you know can marry you at home. Also if you really wanted, you COULD have someone you know marry you at Disney. They don't dictate who performs the weddings.

A wedding gift: (I had that exact same comment made by my aunt!) It is pretty dumb to get married just to receive gifts. The best gift you could receive is for the ones you love to witness you get married.

Nobody is going to go: Well, Mr. & Mrs. Smith is going, Mr. Jones and his family are attending, mom, dad, cousin bobby, ....... they all said they are going.

Your ignorance with your dad: If he had a real problem with paying for you DFTW, he wouldn't. I am sure that you did not plan this wedding hoping that people would pay for it. I feel it is safe to say you know you can pay for it before you sign the contract.


I realize I might be saying stuff that would be a little harsh as a response. I too have an aunt that likes to say what I should or shouldn't do (and is very pessimistic (sp?)). She has been like this for a long time. I have learned to take what she says, and either let it go or speak up even if it is somewhat harsh. You just got to let it not bother you. I can tell you would really love for her to be there, but don't let her complaints ruin it. In the end, she will be the one who is all upset that she didn't go. (Or realize that it was really worth the money.) Hang in there, It will be all good.

 

[slbervine]

I just joined I want you to know that my custom wedding is a second wedding for both of us and people are complaining aout the price, People have a vision for you wedding especially your family and their vision is always different from what you want. My first wedding was my mothers, I will never do that again and I won't do that to my daughter when her day comes do what you want it is your day, The only day you will get married it should be everything you want.