Wedding gift Thank-you...vent coming

[mickeyboat]

We went to a wedding last October, and received the thank you note this May - about two days before the baby shower invitation arrived.

Denae

PS - Still waiting for the thank you note for the shower gift.

 

[christinadei]

I think it's rude too. I sent personal ones out after my husband and I got married too.

I sent one out thanking a woman in my husband's family for an under the cabinet can opener she'd gotten us and I informed her how much use we were getting out of it. It was a LONG time later, but I finally got around to opening the box to find out, the can opener was actually not a can opener at all. She'd used that box to wrap up something else. I was SPEECHLESS I tell ya!

You think she might have known I lied?

 

[puffkin]

I think it's rude too. I sent personal ones out after my husband and I got married too.

I sent one out thanking a woman in my husband's family for an under the cabinet can opener she'd gotten us and I informed her how much use we were getting out of it. It was a LONG time later, but I finally got around to opening the box to find out, the can opener was actually not a can opener at all. She'd used that box to wrap up something else. I was SPEECHLESS I tell ya!

You think she might have known I lied?

I have to bite too. What was in the box? That is too funny!

I think computer printed envelopes are ok, and even printed thank you notes, but there should be at least an attempt to handwrite something, even if it is just something small. I have nice handwriting, so I wrote out all my thank you notes and envelopes (over 150) and had them in the mail less than two months after my wedding. It took forever, but I got them done.

 

[kelleigh1]

I was married in June 2004 and we had a reception about a month later. (We were married in Jamaica - reception in New Jersey.) All thank-you notes were sent within a month.

Sadly, during all my wedding planning, I heard so many stories about people never receiving thank you notes, pre-printed notes, or any number of other inconsiderate tacky options. I couldn't even imagine. I was actually looking forward to writing my notes...probably because I had special Thank You cards made using one of the photos from the wedding...and I wanted to show them off.

 

[Chicago526]

Well, at least you got a thank you note at all, I've heard lots of rants from those that don't even get a pre-printed cheapy!

I will be sending my thank you's, and the notes will be hand writen. The address will be printed on the computer, though, my handwriting is horrible and they might not get delivered if I do it by hand!

 

[Tea Please]

I had written out the envelopes prior to the wedding, and finished the cards within days of the wedding. Anal? you decide

 

[Chicago526]

I had written out the envelopes prior to the wedding, and finished the cards within days of the wedding. Anal? you decide

Actually, that sounds like smart planning to me! I should have done the same, we made our own invites, so I should have just printed off an extra envelope for the thank you's!

 

[snoopy]

I had written out the envelopes prior to the wedding, and finished the cards within days of the wedding. Anal? you decide

A girl after my own heart. Mine were mailed on our honeymoon.

As for the OP, I think its a bit tacky, but not the worst thing I've heard. I do think these days if you receive a thank you card at all you should consider yourself lucky.

 

[wendy1974]

When I got married (now divorced) I personally wrote out over 300 thank you notes so it can be done

 

[Bob Slydell]

I knew DH would never write his, so I put him in charge of the envelope. I wrote, he addressed, stamped, stuffed. So if any of my guests got the wrong thank you - blame him!

DW and I had the same arrangement.

I don't think I messed up any addresses.

 

[imsorry]

I don't find it offensive. I think people are too sensitive. They let stupid things mean too much.

showing your ignorance again - people's feelings are not stupid. I thought the canadian's were raised to be more polite than the Americans

 

[princess pooh]

Oooh, the pre-printed sorry excuse for a thank you note really bugs me. I once gave a very generous gift for a co-workers wedding and I got a label saying thank you in 18 different languages stuck in a card. They never even bothered to write our names in the card, never mind mention the gift.

The thank you notes for my shower and engagement party were all mailed a week after the events took place. They were all personalized. If someone takes the time and money to get all dressed up, do their hair and makeup, and drive 20 minutes out of town to attend my wedding, the least I can do is take five minutes to write them a thank you card!

 

[Amberle3]

Well, I am ashamed to say that yes, I did actually do it. I know I shouldn't have.

When I received my thank you note in the mail handwritten by my very own self, it was just so touching I just had to wipe a tear from my eye I tell ya. LOL.

(Yes, I DID write one to myself - I thanked myself for the beautiful and generous gift AND for being such a good friend in taking the time to write thank you notes )

I think you should have included something like:
"I'd also like the take this opportunity to thank you for your dedication and hard work as my Maid of Honour. As a token of my appreciation I'd like to treat you to dinner at <insert name of fancy expensive restaurant here> after the honeymoon, please let me know when would be convenient for you!"

DH and I did our thankyou notes at the airport and on the plane during the honeymoon.

 

[N.Bailey]

Tacky, yes. But at least you got a thank you. Somehow thank yous have gone the way of RSVPSs, but that's another thread.




Nance, Ok, I just have to ask. WHAT was in the box?

I hate to say it, but I can't even remember. She was a poor little lady who lived on a very fixed income. I'm thinking some sort of cut glass or something. Whatever it was, it certainly wasn't a can opener!

 

[Grumpy's Gal]

Oh my gosh! You made me think of a funny, FUNNY, FUNNY, story.

Years ago, we went to a wedding and reception. We got them a present -- an engraved letter opener that they had registered for.

We got the thank you in the mail. In BLACK ink it said, "Dear XXX and XXXX, Thank you for the very nice" and in blue ink it said "letter opener." Then in black ink it said, "Sincerely, XXX and XXXX."

So, lesson learned is - if you write your thank you's out **in advance** of getting the gift, PLEASE use the same color of ink when you insert the name of the item that was received.

Oh My gosh! We have gotten so many good laughs over the years about this. When we get any sort of thank you note in the mail, before we open it, we always look at each other and say, "THANK YOU FOR THE VERY NICE.....LETTER OPENER!"

 

[Daxx]

I don't find it offensive. I think people are too sensitive. They let stupid things mean too much.

So, saying thank you is a stupid thing? If writing a simple thank you note is too much for a person to handle, then maybe I should just not give a gift.

To me, you receive a gift, you send a thank you. People put time, effort and money (sometimes lots of all three) into buying a gift and then they have no clue if you appreciated it?! That is just wrong. Sorry.

I don't let DS play w/a single bday gift until all thank you notes are written.

 

[ducklite]

We went to my DH's cousins wedding over 11 years ago. It required travel, and a hotel room for a night. At each place was a small cheap bottle of wine with the words "Thanks for attending our wedding" on the label.

About a year later, my MIL and I were talking about weddings, and I mentioned that I hadn't gotten a thank you from DH's cousin. MIL roller her eyes and said "No one did. Turns out that little bottle of wine in front of you was the thank you".

We had a small wedding, about 50 guests, I had every thank you hand written and mailed about two weeks after the wedding.

Anne

 

[*Fantasia*]

Well, I am ashamed to say that yes, I did actually do it. I know I shouldn't have.

When I received my thank you note in the mail handwritten by my very own self, it was just so touching I just had to wipe a tear from my eye I tell ya. LOL.

(Yes, I DID write one to myself - I thanked myself for the beautiful and generous gift AND for being such a good friend in taking the time to write thank you notes )

Sorry I had to laugh... LOL... I think your story is so funny...and so cute!!

 

[aprilgail2]

So, saying thank you is a stupid thing? If writing a simple thank you note is too much for a person to handle, then maybe I should just not give a gift.

To me, you receive a gift, you send a thank you. People put time, effort and money (sometimes lots of all three) into buying a gift and then they have no clue if you appreciated it?! That is just wrong. Sorry.

I don't let DS play w/a single bday gift until all thank you notes are written.

I agree...I was given a baby shower on a Saturday, there were almost 75 people there and another 20 or so gifts from people who could not attend-by Monday morning all thank yous were hand written-thanking each person for coming and mentioning what gift they gave and sent out! Its a big joke in my family since i get them out so fast that when my cousin was here last year for my daughters birthday and they were putting their coats on they joked "I bet the thank you is already in our mailbox before we drive home" (they live ten minutes away LOL)...I write out most of the things in my daughters right now since she is just 5 but she puts the persons name on the inside and signs her name to it-I just fill in "thank you for the leapster math tape" etc....and I make sure she sends one to every kid who attends her kid birthday party and all the neighbors, friends etc who give her any gifts for any holiday.

 

[DisneyJen0504]

I don't find it offensive. I think people are too sensitive. They let stupid things mean too much.

It is not a matter of being offended or being too sensitive.
You get a gift-you send a thank you.
That's how it is.