Wedding gift Thank-you...vent coming

[the kabuki]

Hate to say it, but most of the weddings we've been attending the last few years, bridal showers too, we don't even get a Thank You note in the mail-preprinted or not- but a tag on the guest favors that thanks you for coming and that's it!

Wrote all mine out personally, but it does seem that it's going out of favor in general to do so.

 

[katerkat]

My thank you notes were delayed, but only because I asked DH to write his. When it became obvious that he WASN'T going to do it, I wrote his share. So much for sharing responsibilities.

I knew DH would never write his, so I put him in charge of the envelope. I wrote, he addressed, stamped, stuffed. So if any of my guests got the wrong thank you - blame him!

 

[Mimi Q]

When I received my thank you note in the mail handwritten by my very own self, it was just so touching I just had to wipe a tear from my eye I tell ya. LOL.

(Yes, I DID write one to myself - I thanked myself for the beautiful and generous gift AND for being such a good friend in taking the time to write thank you notes )

 

[stinkerbelle]

well - at least you GOT a thank you note.
but I totally understand where you are coming from.

And, IMO, the only thing "pre-printed" on thank you notes...should be the return address labels and MAYBE the mail-to address on the envelope

 

[powellrj]

while it is very tacky, I was thinking you at least GOT a thank-you. We sent several gifts for weddings, showers and graduations last year and are still waiting to hear from them. I guess there is a degree of tacky, pre-printed isn't as bad as none, but isn't a nice as handwritten.

 

[Good Ol Gal]

Well, I am ashamed to say that yes, I did actually do it. I know I shouldn't have.

When I received my thank you note in the mail handwritten by my very own self, it was just so touching I just had to wipe a tear from my eye I tell ya. LOL.

(Yes, I DID write one to myself - I thanked myself for the beautiful and generous gift AND for being such a good friend in taking the time to write thank you notes )

 

[mtemm]

My thank you notes were delayed, but only because I asked DH to write his. When it became obvious that he WASN'T going to do it, I wrote his share. So much for sharing responsibilities.

omg, my husband did the same thing. I was so mad at him about it. he would sit there and watch tv while I was writing mine out and act like he didn't have a care in the world. Finally I started harping on him a bit and he said, get this, that he had read that he had up to a year to send them. um, no buddy,that's to send the gift. Anyway, it finally became clear that he just wasn't going to do them and I finally did...I was so embarassed at how late his side recieved theirs (about 2 months after the wedding I think).

 

[Pin Wizard]

Not a good way to do it, I agree. You give a gift, the person should take the time to write a personal note.

The last wedding I went to was DS's godmother's. Never got a thank you note. I was talking to someone I know who also attended, and he mentioned that he never got a thank you. Told him I didn't either. Just terrible that notes weren't sent out.

 

[PaulaSue]

OP at least you got a Thank You, for the last 2 Weddings I got nothing.

 

[Disney Doll]

I don't mind the pre-printed address labels...they probably had their wedding list on the computer and that made the addressing part a bit easier.

A pre-printed thank you note is just tacky with a capital T.

 

[j's m]

Tacky, yes. But at least you got a thank you. Somehow thank yous have gone the way of RSVPSs, but that's another thread.

I think it's rude too. I sent personal ones out after my husband and I got married too.

I sent one out thanking a woman in my husband's family for an under the cabinet can opener she'd gotten us and I informed her how much use we were getting out of it. It was a LONG time later, but I finally got around to opening the box to find out, the can opener was actually not a can opener at all. She'd used that box to wrap up something else. I was SPEECHLESS I tell ya!

You think she might have known I lied?

Nance, Ok, I just have to ask. WHAT was in the box?

 

[tinkerbell81284]

I'm still waiting on a thank you for the one wedding I went to in May 2004 and the one I sent a gift to in September 2004! Both were young couples (early 20's)... I know I'm in my 20's but I know to send a thank you note!

 

[Jennifer S]

At my SIL's bridal shower they made all the guests write their own address on an evelope so the bride did not have to look them up. That was March and I still haven't gotten a thank you!! I know the address was right.

 

[chell]

I just finished my thank you notes this week and each one was personalized for each person. I would never think about doing a pre-printed one that's just rude!! Yes it took sometime to do but I got them all done within a month of our last shower (which was after our wedding).

ETA: We did not use any of the gifts until a thank you card for it had been mailed and that included the George Foreman Grill I wanted to use the second we received it.

That was a great idea!

 

[etink67]

My girlfriend got married 15 years ago . I was a bridesmaid and my parents attended the wedding. The bride never sent out thank yous. When I talked to her about it she said that she didn't have time and that they were so delayed that she figured people would just think that theirs was lost in the mail. I guess she didn't count on people comparing notes. For years my mom would say "I'm still waiting on that thank you card from...."

I think in that in todays age of email and instant messanger the art of letter writing has started to disappear. People don't write hand written notes/letters anymore. I really hope I can teach my kids a little better. I get so excited to get something besides a bill in the mail.

 

[cepmom]

I don't mind the preprinted address labels so much, but the inside needs to be handwritten IMHO.

DH and I went to a wedding several years ago ~ a very big wedding with over 300 people in attendance. Gave a gift, gift (check) was cashed, couple divorced within 6 months....no thank you received

 

[totalia]

I don't find it offensive. I think people are too sensitive. They let stupid things mean too much.

 

[magicfan]

I don't find it offensive. I think people are too sensitive. They let stupid things mean too much.

It's never stupid to be polite and take a few moments to write a short hand- written thank you to someone who so generously took the time, and spent thier money on buying you a gift. People really appreciate it.

I agree that this doesn't flow well with your tag line (just because something is easier doesn't make it the rightthing to do).

 

[LindsayDunn228]

I wouldn't mind the pre-printed addresses. But the thank you note is a bit much. It doesn't take 2 seconds to hand write a thank-you. When I got married I thought I would never finish my thank-you notes but they did get done.

Hee hee, speaking of husbands, I did all of our notes because if my husband wrote them you would have no clue what he was saying. His handwriting is very bad

 

[Kahana-ri]

I agree that a handwritten thank you note is a must. It took me about two months to write ours. I did a few a week once we got back from our honeymoon.
I am still waiting for a thank you note from a wedding about 4 years ago. This person was a friend of the family, so I had flown across the country, drove 3-hours and stayed in a hotel room. Needless to say, the gift was extremely nice. Patiently waiting... Obviously I haven't forgotten how rude it is not to write thank you notes.