Wedding Cake Food Fight

[KayMichigan]

I agree it would be very hurtful to have your bride/groom pull a stunt when you'd specifically asked them not to. But I disagree with the bolded. It could be a real "come to Jesus moment" that gets things headed in a better direction. Didn't we all have things to adapt to with one another and work through, especially in the early years of marriage?

To me this wouldn't be some minor thing, though. It's not like not picking up your bath towels or leaving lights on. Smashing cake in your face and ruining what should be a tender, special moment that can NEVER be replicated is callous and brutal, especially when the other person KNOWS you don't want it to happen. It's a way of saying "I know you didn't want me to do this, but I'm in charge here and don't you forget it, and I'm going to show everybody here exactly who's in control in this marriage." It's a humiliating thing to do to somebody. Maybe other couples could get over something like that but I would never be able to trust that person again since they already proved who they were. And you can't have a strong marriage without trust.

 

[PezRuth]

Honestly I have never understood it. If both sides are okay with it then fine but otherwise no. We had a bride and groom pez dispenser as our wedding toppers. So we gave each other a piece of pez instead of cake.

 

[Karin1984]

Besides the cake, the bride probably has spent quite some money on her hair and make-up.

 

[Snowflakey]

It's disrespectful, not funny and in my opinion says a lot about the kind of people.....

 

[RedAngie]

The reception food musta been laced with marijuana.

 

[mrodgers]

I'm sensing a pattern here. LOL

LOL, no cake smashing, 17 years later I was single again, though it did take 17 years.

 

[MamaMermaid]

I'm a cake purist - no way would I waste cake!! But, to each their own...

 

[Kitty 34]

Maybe at someone's first birthday.........and even then I think that can be a waste of a good chunk of cake!

 

[tvguy]

I’ve been married 26 years this second time.

Ah, a newlywed.

 

[tvguy]

Of course if the wedding is in Canada and the Wedding Cake is fruit cake, cake smashing could cause serious injury.

 

[Travel60]

I agree it would be very hurtful to have your bride/groom pull a stunt when you'd specifically asked them not to. But I disagree with the bolded. It could be a real "come to Jesus moment" that gets things headed in a better direction. Didn't we all have things to adapt to with one another and work through, especially in the early years of marriage?

That's the purpose for longer engagement and pre-cana counseling. Comes down to respect.

 

[Kennywood]

I once saw a wedding video of a couple. You could see how happy and giddy the bride was after the ceremony. When it came time to cut the cake and feed each other a small piece, the happy bride moved the cake to the groom's mouth and then playfully backed it off an inch or so. The groom became enraged and slapped the bride hard. He was furious and the bride was crying.

I can only imagine what the marriage was like.

 

[Kennywood]

Throwing cake with the knife in it says it all’: Groom knocks bride to ground while throwing cake in her face

In a viral TikTok video, a groom knocks his bride to the ground while throwing cake at her during their wedding, sparking debate in the comments section.



Shortly after cutting the first piece of cake, the groom shoves a slice into the bride’s face. She pushes back, before he grabs another whole cake and throws it into her face, knocking her to the ground.

She soon realizes that she’s bleeding due to a cut on her arm. “Look what you did, honey. I’m bleeding,” she says.

“I’m in trouble,” he says to the camera, before they start cleaning her arm and picking cake out of her hair.

The video was shared to TikTok by user @irisbetsiemartinez but was posted on YouTube back in 2013. It is unclear wear the video originated. On TikTok, it received over 4.3 million views, and many users showed disapproval of cake-throwing in the comments.

“My biggest ick I don’t even know why people would do that,” one user said.

“I’ve never found that funny,” another said.

Several users argued that the aggression of cake-throwing reflects poorly on the groom and their relationship.

“That’s not a good start,” one user said.

“Oh his wedding day! If he is that aggressive for a joke I can’t imagine getting mad at closed door,” another user said.

Others warned about the dangers of throwing wedding cakes, with one user pointing out that the groom was holding the sharp cake server in his other hand as he threw cake at her.

“Throwing cake with the knife in it says it all,” one user said.

“Some cakes have spikes holding the layers together,” another pointed out.

Source: https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/throwing-cake-with-the-knife-in-it-says-it-all-groom-knocks-bride-to-ground-while-throwing-cake-in-her-face-sparking-debate/ar-AAW8OeJ?ocid=BingNewsSearch

 

[Kennywood]

The reception food musta been laced with marijuana.

Bride, caterer charged after Longwood wedding food allegedly laced with marijuana

Two Florida women face felony charges after being accused of lacing food with marijuana at a wedding.



Seminole County Sheriff’s Office deputies were called to a wedding around 9:30 p.m. on Feb. 19 at The Springs Clubhouse in Longwood.

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There, Danya “Shea” Glenny, 42, was getting married with about 30 to 40 guests in attendance.

Miranda Cady recorded cellphone video of her friend, Glenny, getting married.

"I always respected her energy, her vibrance, her enthusiasm, and was really excited to celebrate with her,” said Cady.

Cady is a local realtor who knew Glenny as a fellow accomplished businesswoman and never dreamed her attendance at her friend's wedding would turn into a nightmare.

"I thought I was having a heart attack. My heart was racing and before I went to bed that night, I actually slept in my car right on-site,” said Cady.

According to the Seminole County Sheriff's office, Cady and multiple guests at the wedding fell ill.

One man who called 911 said he "felt like he had drugs inside him" and several guests told first responders the food they had eaten was laced with marijuana.

Cady says a friend at her table suspected it: "He's like, 'Are we stoned right now?' And everyone was just kind of looking around each other laughing and we absolutely were. We were high as a kite, out of our minds."

According to the incident report, deputies who responded asked the bride and another unidentified person if they put cannabis in the food and the bride responded, “No.”

But now, two months later, after detectives tested food items from the wedding, Glenny and her caterer, 31-year-old Joycelyn Bryant, have both been arrested and face felony charges of reckless tampering, culpable negligence and possessing marijuana.

"I don't know why, I think that is the biggest question on all of our minds in speaking with some of the family members. We want an explanation,” said Cady.

Cady says some wedding guests have been unwilling to speak out.

“I know so many of my friends wouldn't want me speaking but I think it's so important that people stand up for what's right and you have to respect other people's free will and boundaries and to have a choice in something like that,” said Cady.

Source: https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/crime/victim-speaks-on-weddings-marijuana-laced-food/ar-AAWpRby?ocid=uxbndlbing

 

[BroadwayHermione5]

I absolutely loathe the cake feeding in general, smash or not. Much like the garter toss, I feel like watching a couple feed each other is weird.

While I will eat an occasional slice of cake or cupcake (and I love cheesecake but many don’t consider that cake). I hate cakes. I hate smashes for first bdays and weddings, I hate how expensive stuff can be.

If I ever get married, no cake. Ice cream bar (as Sheldon Cooper once said “100% of sundae bars end in happiness”) and s’mores bar all the way. Cheaper, no stopping the party for everyone to watch you cut the cake, no money wasted in something I can make.

There are only three wedding cake cuttings I’ve every enjoyed.

1) YouTuber I follow (Tessa Netting) got married recently and they had a candy bar and donut wall and one simple round cake that they cut with a sword (it was an epically geeky wedding).

2) My friends. They were victims of pandemic wedding cancellations and had an outdoor wedding in sept 2020 maybe 40 people tops. They had a tiny round cake and a bunch of cupcakes. Servers asked which one you wanted and gave it to you. Had about 5 different flavors and a vegan option!

3) My cousins wedding. Big Italian wedding so we all knew Venetian hour was coming. They each got one thing they wanted: she got princess diaries style trumpeters and he got to add some marvel and dc aspects to the wedding. They cut their cake to hooked on a feeling and had a little baby groot in his shoulder while doing it.

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

I think it's disrespectful

To whom?

The couple? Well in your post you said they had fun so assumedly they both were okay with it. That would not IMO be a cause to feel the practice is disrespectful. If one of them did not find it funny in the least, asked in advance not to do it, etc then it would be disrespectful to whomever was the recipient of it.

Sometimes guests or family of the couple do it to the couple. In that case if the couple requested not to do that it would be disrespectful to the couple.

glad I didn't have to clean up the carpeted floor afterward.

Agreed. It's really not my thing to do it but if people are going to do it either offer to clean up the mess and actually do it or don't make a big mess to begin with (and still offer to clean up).

 

[Mackenzie Click-Mickelson]

To me this wouldn't be some minor thing, though. It's not like not picking up your bath towels or leaving lights on. Smashing cake in your face and ruining what should be a tender, special moment that can NEVER be replicated is callous and brutal, especially when the other person KNOWS you don't want it to happen. It's a way of saying "I know you didn't want me to do this, but I'm in charge here and don't you forget it, and I'm going to show everybody here exactly who's in control in this marriage." It's a humiliating thing to do to somebody. Maybe other couples could get over something like that but I would never be able to trust that person again since they already proved who they were. And you can't have a strong marriage without trust.

I agree with you here. There is no come to jesus moment when you've told someone to not smush cake in your face and they do it anyways. The act of smushing cake in someone's face may come across as trivial enough but it's really not when it's a case of one of the couple asking the other not to do it.

For me it doesn't even have to do with weddings. People's birthday parties, retirement parties, graduation parties, etc. Some people find it all fun and games but you usually know that. Someone who you know isn't going to appreciate it or specifically asks you not to do it..just don't do it.

 

[lifesavacation]

My husband of 29 years did this to me and I'm still really bitter about it. I can't believe he would ever think I would be OK with it. We didn't talk about it beforehand because why would we? You'd have to be raised in a barn to do this. His idiot dad told him to do it. Talking about it still gets me worked up. Our photographer snapped a picture right after it happened and you can see how horrified I was.

 

[LuvOrlando]

Not a fan for myself but as long as the bride thinks it's OK she should have her day with harmless fun no matter what anyone else thinks.

 

[jrmasm]

Classless