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[rigsby25]

My daughter wanted a Disney wedding and the reception back home. Here are the problems we are encountering. For the guests coming in from California, do we expect them to fly into Orlando and then to Chicago also? My daughter wants them both at the wedding and the reception? Also - he has 4 sisters with 3 husbands. She has one brother. She doesn't want to feel overwhelmed with his family? How do we handle?

 

[dmslush]

Personally, I wouldn't ask family to fly to Orlando for the wedding, and then to Chicago for the reception. I think that could become very expensive and tedious for those who have to get back to jobs. However, I would make sure that everyone knew that they were welcomed and encouraged to attend both events, but no pressure to do so.

I'm not sure what you are asking about her not wanting to be overwhelmed with his family? Does she not want them there, or does she not want them hovering over her and him?

 

[aprincess72]

Isn't the idea of having an at home reception after a destination wedding about inviting all of the people who couldn't attend the wedding? I wouldn't expect anyone to fly to two destinations.

We had an engagement party in DHs home town since we were having a small wedding. That really worked out well for us.

 

[rigsby25]

Personally, I wouldn't ask family to fly to Orlando for the wedding, and then to Chicago for the reception. I think that could become very expensive and tedious for those who have to get back to jobs. However, I would make sure that everyone knew that they were welcomed and encouraged to attend both events, but no pressure to do so.

I'm not sure what you are asking about her not wanting to be overwhelmed with his family? Does she not want them there, or does she not want them hovering over her and him?

It's just that she doesn't want to feel that it is a celebration for his family only. I told her just decide how many you want, divide the number in half, tell his mother you have 10 spots and my mother will have 10 spots. Does that sound like a good idea? We are very, very close to aunts and uncles even though we don't have a big immediate family.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

It's just that she doesn't want to feel that it is a celebration for his family only. I told her just decide how many you want, divide the number in half, tell his mother you have 10 spots and my mother will have 10 spots. Does that sound like a good idea? We are very, very close to aunts and uncles even though we don't have a big immediate family.

You could try that. But is it really his fault for having a bigger family? How does he decide which brothers to invite? My wedding is mostly DF's family. They were just the one's able to travel. Most of mine will be at the at home reception. Also they would each have 9 slots, because the bride and groom count is the total. I know this can be very stressful. I hope you guys can find a way for the wedding to be what her dream is.

 

[rigsby25]

Although a disney wedding is what they are dreaming about, they might decide to forgo disney because of the travel problems. She is working with Cassie at the Swan/Dolphin. I wish cost was no issue. I would love to put everyone up and pay for air fare, etc, but I couldn't possibly. I would just like some idea from y'all about how you handle family at a destination wedding.

 

[princessdisneybelle]

Although a disney wedding is what they are dreaming about, they might decide to forgo disney because of the travel problems. She is working with Cassie at the Swan/Dolphin. I wish cost was no issue. I would love to put everyone up and pay for air fare, etc, but I couldn't possibly. I would just like some idea from y'all about how you handle family at a destination wedding.

I totally understand. My wedding is at Shades of Green for about the same reason. I hope you dont think I was being rude. I reread what I wrote and I never meant that.

 

[BubMunkeyBles]

I thought I replied to this... Try the Hilton or other hotels on property and do a Disney theme... much more affordable... Swann and Dolphin is much cheaper too.

 

[princessblueeyzes]

It's just that she doesn't want to feel that it is a celebration for his family only. I told her just decide how many you want, divide the number in half, tell his mother you have 10 spots and my mother will have 10 spots. Does that sound like a good idea? We are very, very close to aunts and uncles even though we don't have a big immediate family.

That is what DH and I did. I told him that he could have 9 people and I could have 9 people (it would be 10 and 10 with the two of us included) Then we sat down and went with who is the most important people in our lives? I chose my grandma and grandpa, my mom and step-dad, Aunt, Cousins (3) and my MOH. DH choose his dad and step-mom, mom, sisters (2), neice, and nephew, and sister's husband. It worked out nicely.