WCC @ WL: wait staff obnoxious?

[DLBDS]

I'm rather shy. Hubby doesn't stand for rudeness, incompetense or poor service. I find myself having to be overly sweet to wait staff to compensate for my husband. It makes meals out trying at times. If you don't get his order right, he won't eat. Period. He says if he lets them bring him a replacement, they'll spit in his food (or soemthing like that). So, he has them take the food away and I end up eating alone (if my daughter isn't with us). If you take too long bringing him a condiment or drink, he'll let you know it. He asked for a soda recently and the guy took an unreasonable amount of time bringing it (husband was halfway thru his meal by then). My husband refused to touch it at that point and left with the glass still full and the wrapper still on the straw. He doesn't explode and get loud or anything. Quite the oposite. He's just very curt. Granted, sometimes his reaction is completely warranted but other times I think he's just being an @sss. He just doesn't handle it properly. If it were me, I would kindly say that I asked for blah,blah,blah and would they please fix it. I don't think people will contaminate your food if you're respectful and kind in your request. Am I being naive here? ANYWAY, I'm worried about the throwing of straws and such that I've seen happens at Whispering Canyon Cafe @ WL. Is it over the top or can I just give DH a headsup on what to expect here? What is this about ketsup? Oh, and he has all kinds of foods he won't touch (eggs, coconut, fish, milk, onions, etc, etc, etc.). Trying to find a variety of places to eat is going to be a challenge for me. But, I'll have fun trying to figure it out! So far, O'hana (D) and Boma (BR). I told him about Boma and he didn't care for it. I said too bad. Thanks!!

 

[ReneeA]

Can you ask your DH if he would be okay with that sort of atmosphere? I can't imagine just throwing him into that without warming him since you know his "history" with waitstaff.

I would explain to him what it's like and then ask him what he thinks.

 

[Accentuate+]

Have you considered slipping a hearty dose of valium into his morning coffee?

The wait staff are usually pretty skilled at picking up on your mood and will adapt but the restaurant itself is organized (somewhat) chaos and your waiter may have to sing Happy Birthday to someone or organize a stick pony race and that may delay your soda for a moment. Usually you're having so much fun watching that you don't mind a little delay but it sounds like that might be an issue for him.

While the atmosphere at WCC can get chaotic, the service we recieved was exemplary and I thought the food was very good.
I'm really not sure how to advise, here. You love him and are at peace with all this so you'd probably be fine. I wouldn't go to ANY restaurant with someone who couldn't deal maturely with service lapses that are bound to happen sometimes, though, so...I dunno.

 

[TwingleMum]

How is your stomache?? Mine would be in knots whenever I went to a restaurant with him. How old are your kids?? Could you go with just your kids and leave your DH to get room service??

 

[NMAmy]

Ummm...well, I'm sort of at a loss. I guess if I had someone that I knew behaved that way with waitstaff, I wouldn't take them to WC. My family adores the place but we all enjoy and get into the hijinks.

Try explaining it all to him and see what he thinks. I think it would suck all the fun right out of the meal if he's going to be curt all evening and refuse to eat.

The deal with the ketchup? When you ask for ketchup (or sometimes even if you don't), the waitstaff will have everyone in the restaurant bring you ketchup so you'll end up with like 30 bottles on your table. I've even seen the staff roll them down the walkway toward a table. Soda can be served in a tiny little glass or a bucket.

From what you've described, your DH doesn't sound like the kind of guy who would just roll with this behavior. It might be pretty uncomfortable for you.

 

[melomouse]

Hi -

I think I know your DH!! I might have been married to him in a previous life!!! So much of what you said about him is familiar to me about restaurant attitudes and I will tell you this...

When I planned our first WDW trip and read about WCC, I couldn't wait to try it! I also knew that places like WCC and PTC were going to make DH VERY unhappy and unpleasant to be around, as as a PP stated "sucking all the fun out".

Sadly,as it happened, DH succumbed to his life threatening illness on that first trip and never made ANY of the ADR's. Kids and I do WCC now every single trip - 6 in all since then. I loved the man dearly - but he was NOT a happy camper in restaurants.

JMHO? Don't take your DH to any of the "entertaining" restarants. No one will have fun. It can turn out ok with lots of people who are more reserved, not liking too much shenanigans, whatever - people on here ask similar questions all the time. But if your DH is as you describe - spare yourself and take him elsewhere.

Good luck and keep us posted. I feel for you!!!

melomouse

 

[kpm76]

From what you described, I would stay away from WCC. We love it but it's not for everyone. I would hate for your experience to be poor because your DH was not pleased with the waitstaff's antics. While I don't find it over the top, for the most part, I know others on here have said it was not what they expected. Be on the safe side, pick another place

 

[snix11]

Hey, I got one of those Hubbies except my can be VERY noisy and obnoxious and tends to send for managers to explain themselves, their wait staff, the menu etc

I think (hope) i have him all prepped for Disney. Heck, it's taken almost 7 YEARS to even get him to the "stupid expensive place with grown men dressed up in silly suits where you stand around in lines forever getting heat stroke for a chance to ride on some death-trap that will make you throw up"

YES!! My kinda place

I trust he will love it when he gets there, and I'm bringing our 4 kids along anywho. He has agreed to grudgingly go along "for their sake" bless his little grouchy heart. So, he can either behave and get into the spirit, or I'll slip the valium into his coffee in the am and we'll meet him back in the room in the evenings

We ARE going to Wcc, AND Hoop AND every other thing I can think of that the kids would have a great time with. He will of course be given the choice to accompany us on our outings. First night will be Ohana's, so if we live thru that, i'll gentle him to the rest of the shinanigans

December WDW here we come!!!

 

[amybinion]

We went there twice on our last trip and both times we were seated along the windows in the back of the restaurant. There is not as much action there so it seems. The middle of the restaurant was where all the action was We enjoyed watching the craziness but our waiters could tell we didn't really want to be in the action. I did ask for ketchup and I kind of whispered it and the waiter asked if I wanted quiet ketchup or loud ketchup. I told him quiet ketchup and he snuck some out for me. I think they can tell when you don't want all the craziness.

 

[DLBDS]

Thanks for all the replies! I think I'll just warn him about it and go with it. He can be silly too but, he wants his order right and anything he asks for in a reasonable amount of time. We're staying at the WL. I won't pass on the convenience of the WCC just because of my husband. My DD, who will be 9 by then, may or may not participate in any of the events they offer. She has a shy streak at times when she has to do something by herself. If she were with others she knew she'ld be all in it! Really, it all depends on what kind of mood they're both in. I'll make sure he's up to speed about the wait staff but I'm not saying a word about the ketchup. I'll make sure it's 'loud ketchup' too. I know he'll fall for it. He always asks for ketchup. The only thing that would irritate him (if he wasn't warned ahead of time) is the straw-throwing. He would interpret that as rude and disrespectful and get up and walk out. If straw-throwing is the worst I can expect, I think he'll be ok. I'll make sure he xpects that. Now, I'm looking forward to some loud ketchup....

 

[Straitlover]

Just want to say you might want to stay away from 50's Prime Time, too. How in the world would he act if his server made him go stand in the corner or stand up and sing I'm a little Teapot????

 

[KevinFSU]

Sounds like he needs an enema.

I wouldn't take him if I were you. In addition to some of the other things, they may put napkins and things on his head to make a hat. He seems like he'd be someone who would appreciate that......... NOT!

 

[perdidobay]

The phrase "cutting off your nose to spite your face" comes to my mind when I read your post.
If it were me, I wouldn't go to WCC with him, but then if it were me, I would never eat out anywhere with someone who acted so childish in a restuarant, JMHO.
It's one thing to expect good service, and to talk to a manager about bad service, BUT TO NOT EAT????

 

[Mickey Fliers]

Two words: FUN SPONGE!

 

[skent10]

Sounds like he needs an enema.

I laughed so hard when I read that line, I snorted!

I say make your ADR for WCC, especially since you're staying at WL. Explain to DH in advance everything that might happen (that you know of) and give him the option of eating with you and DD or not.

If he throws a temper tantrum during dinner, walk him over to Cub's Den and return to enjoy the rest of your meal in peace!

 

[Ilovestitch]

Your husband needs to GROW UP!

 

[Thinktinknpixiedust]

 

[Thinktinknpixiedust]

Well at least your child behaves well in public...

I suppose he is perfect and unusually efficiant at everything he does...

 

[Peepster]

Having owned a restaurant (albeit not as fun a place as WCC) I'd be willing to bet the ranch your husband has never had to cater to the public i.e. waiter, etc. Your description of his attitude lends credence to my theory that ALL people should have to spend at least six months of their lives in a service position. Nothing resolves "attitude" faster than that. I'm afraid I can't see him enjoying the frivolity of WCC. BTW, I had a brother-in-law that had a severe problem with rudeness to wait staff...I finally got fed up one day and walked out on him. That was the only thing that convinced him that his behavior was socially inappropriate.

 

[perdidobay]

Having owned a restaurant (albeit not as fun a place as WCC) I'd be willing to bet the ranch your husband has never had to cater to the public i.e. waiter, etc. Your description of his attitude lends credence to my theory that ALL people should have to spend at least six months of their lives in a service position. Nothing resolves "attitude" faster than that. I'm afraid I can't see him enjoying the frivolity of WCC. BTW, I had a brother-in-law that had a severe problem with rudeness to wait staff...I finally got fed up one day and walked out on him. That was the only thing that convinced him that his behavior was socially inappropriate.

Amen!

His behavior sounds very passive-agressive to me, I just hope for your sake he treats you much better than he treats service people