WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 20

[Tink rules]

You know the winds you were feeling last night were also from Sandy... so.. you can say you felt the hurricane too...

 

[HollyTyler]

You know the winds you were feeling last night were also from Sandy... so.. you can say you felt the hurricane too...

True. Stuff blew all over the neighborhood. Our umbrella from our picnic table in our backyard was found a couple houses away on the street behind us and Tyler found some of our Halloween decorations 2 houses down. Most of the Detroit area had power outages but nowhere near us, thankfully. Tyler told me he kept waking up because of the roaring wind. It was still so loud this morning, I couldn't believe it was the wind! Tornados sound like freight trains, but this was totally different.

 

[Tink rules]

yeah.. it kind of sounds like the house is getting hit then it rumbles and shakes the house.

Then it happens again and again for several hours.

 

[mishoe01]

Very sweet. We were in Tyler's bed a while ago, after I read to him at bedtime. I was explaining something to him, a strategy I have for a situation and he said "Mom, you're so amazing! I can't put it into words, can't even tell you what I mean, but you're just so awesome at everything!" And he was all emotional like he was about to start crying. I told him, "No silly, it's just because I have an amazing kid!"

Now he will soon be to the age where kids think their parents know NOTHING, LOL!

aww!!! so cool!

 

[mishoe01]

glad everyone is safe from Sandy. It's hard seeing all the pictures, even more so I know, for those of you that used to like in the NY/NJ area.

 

[Tink rules]

thanks Monica!

I'm numb now... from all the pics and such...


spent a couple of days trying to catch up and making sure the family is fine... they are thank God!!

I know all those places down the shore... I am crushed...

But we're Jersey people.. and we'll be back!!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Happy Birthday Monica.....hope you had a fabulous day. But don't stop there.....continue celebrating for at least the full month. Or as Jan says, for the full year.

Michelle, I'm glad the whole family is safe. I'm so sorry for the loss of everything you remember doing as a kid. At least you have all your memories and hopefully some pictures.

Hi Everyone!!!!!

I made reservations at the Royal Atlantic in Montauk, Long Island, for Thanksgiving weekend. Casey and Brittany decided to have dinner with Brittany's family so they are not coming with me. But I asked Jeff and Amy if they wanted to come and they jumped on it. Jeff wants to see his mom and his sister and brother out on Long Island. Now he has a place to stay so that he can go visit with them. They will be bringing Jeffrey who is 2 and Amy's daughter Lily who is 15 I think. Amy said she will cook lasagna for turkey day since we arrive there in the afternoon on turkey day. I think it's going to be busy, but it's going to be great!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

I can't wait to get to Montauk and my ocean. I grew up swimming like a fish in this ocean in all the different towns that I lived in. That's the beauty of Long Island.....you have water on both sides for the entire length and it's only 30 minutes from the north shore to the south shore.....so you're always near water, no matter where you are on the Island. I will post pictures on FB.

Then after we get home, I'll cook a turkey dinner. It's not thanksgiving without turkey and the fixings. I love turkey dinner. Then we'll have the leftovers too.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Just about one more month until we're down in Florida....looking at houses and playing with friends. I'm going to enjoy this trip. I'm sorry I'm not cruising, but John said no money for cruises until after we are moved in. He's right. I got a rough estimate from the same moving company that I used to move into this house. They said it will cost somewhere between $3-4k. That's the cost of a seven night cruise on DCL for me. So no cruise.....instead, move. We also need initial monies upfront for the house.....first month, security, application fees, etc.

We decided that we are not going to take ella with us. I really don't want the responsibility of a pet after we retire. We want to be able to take off anytime we want for as long as we want without having to worry about a pet. So ella is going to stay right here with the kid, and the dog and my mother's cat sam who lives with the kid. It may not be the best thing to ella, but it's the best thing for me and John. Ella will have to adjust.

 

[HollyTyler]

I can't wait to get to Montauk and my ocean. I grew up swimming like a fish in this ocean in all the different towns that I lived in. That's the beauty of Long Island.....you have water on both sides for the entire length and it's only 30 minutes from the north shore to the south shore.....so you're always near water, no matter where you are on the Island. I will post pictures on FB.

Then after we get home, I'll cook a turkey dinner. It's not thanksgiving without turkey and the fixings. I love turkey dinner. Then we'll have the leftovers too.

Sounds beautiful! Can't wait to see pictures!

 

[HollyTyler]

Busy week done, now I can relax a bit for a week. Dinner Tuesday after work with 3 friends, Madonna concert on Thursday, drinks after work with a few friends Friday, all fun stuff.

 

[Tink rules]

For anyone who read my post on FB...

It's my sister...

Mom and I have struggled a bit and we need to put a roof on the house. We are getting a reverse mortgage (will take 6 weeks to get) and mom asked to borrow the money from my sister (who can well afford it) until the funding comes through...

What I got in return was a nasty email saying I insulted her husband and threatening to cut me off from the boys... (not like they aren't adults technically.. but she holds the purse strings, etc...)

btw.. she turned mom down.

I've been classified a worthless person and I've come to the conclusion that basically they all think I'm stupid.

Apparently my sister has been checking FB to see when I am online.

She wants me to get out, get a job and find a place to live.

She thinks I live online all the time. especially at night.. Usually I'm up because of the pain I deal with.

Tomorrow will be the 24th anniversary of my accident. that means I will have lived 1/2 of my life with this pain. she doesn't know what it's like.


sooo. for now.. mom and I will get by until we can get things done. I'll get myself figured out and I guess I can say it's safe to say.. we won't be going to TX for the holidays...

 

[granmaz]

Michelle, I am sorry you have all that from your sister etc. She doesn't sound like a very nice person at all. They are so mean to turn your mum down for the money. It isn't like they won't get it back and if I was your mum I would be feeling just terrible about it.

I think you have to put that thought that they think you are useless right out of your mind. Hard to do but each time it drifts in, kick it out and think of something else, what you have have written in your FB post for instance.

I have just had some cognitive behavioural therapy at the chronic pain clinic to help deal with the moods(all linked). It has helped so much. One of the many things I learnt was to catch the thought before it went any further. What it is is a thought, nothing more, so don't let it fester away and take you down a route that will be unhelpful.

Most other people who aren't sufferers are never going to understand the problems that chronic pain brings.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

For anyone who read my post on FB...

It's my sister...

Mom and I have struggled a bit and we need to put a roof on the house. We are getting a reverse mortgage (will take 6 weeks to get) and mom asked to borrow the money from my sister (who can well afford it) until the funding comes through...

What I got in return was a nasty email saying I insulted her husband and threatening to cut me off from the boys... (not like they aren't adults technically.. but she holds the purse strings, etc...)

btw.. she turned mom down.

I've been classified a worthless person and I've come to the conclusion that basically they all think I'm stupid.

Apparently my sister has been checking FB to see when I am online.

She wants me to get out, get a job and find a place to live.

She thinks I live online all the time. especially at night.. Usually I'm up because of the pain I deal with.

Tomorrow will be the 24th anniversary of my accident. that means I will have lived 1/2 of my life with this pain. she doesn't know what it's like.


sooo. for now.. mom and I will get by until we can get things done. I'll get myself figured out and I guess I can say it's safe to say.. we won't be going to TX for the holidays...

WOW Michelle. Nice to have a big sister who loves and supports you.....NOT! What a witch basically. And to do that to mom too. Don't worry, Karma will get her. What goes around, comes around.

It's really none of her business what you do with your time, day or night. Who is she to judge you and tell you how to live your life. She should just be there for you and love and support you in whatever you decide to do.

Her behavior is really weird to me. Me and John were there for Sandi when the kids were 2 and 3 years old she moved in with us. We sent her to a trade school and then she went to work. We took care of her and the kids and their expenses until she could do it on her own.

We let John's son, the kid, move in with us when we were only married a year or two. He's still with us 22 years later. We have helped him all along the way. We're even still paying him half the mortgage after we move to Florida because he can't afford it on his own.

We took care of Mom and Ray. Both of them were financially draining, but we did it no matter what for a very large amount of money for a very long time.

We took care of my brother when he was out of work and stayed here without a paycheck taking care of mom's things after she died. We send money to Casey all the time currently. He just got into a fender bender and we sent him money to help cover extra expenses.

That's what family is for. That's what they do for you. OF COURSE it's financial. It's life and life is expensive. You need a new roof and you only want to borrow the money with collateral. Are you kidding me that your sister said no to her own mother. WOW that's cold.

No holiday parties in Texas this year. AND how dare she use her kids to trump you. Jane does that to me with her kids. Tristan is now out of my life because of it and Casey is still very much in my life. It depends on the kid. That's just so wrong on so many levels.

Shell, I really feel for you. But I have to tell you, if the relationship is too negative then just cut it off. You can't afford to be around people like that no matter what their relationship is to you.

No matter what, stand your ground. Don't let her bully you. You have lots of friends that love and support you and understand completely what you're dealing with in your life already. Hugs and love, sweetie.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Sounds beautiful! Can't wait to see pictures!

Thanks Holly. It is and I miss it. And it's melancholy because I know it's the last time I will ever be there in this lifetime. So I'm going to soak it all in and just enjoy it.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Busy week done, now I can relax a bit for a week. Dinner Tuesday after work with 3 friends, Madonna concert on Thursday, drinks after work with a few friends Friday, all fun stuff.

Sounds awesome! Just tell me if Madonna does Holiday and Vogue.....some of my favorites. Have a blast and I will just live vivaciously through you....as Karen would say.

 

[Tink rules]

thanks...

I've realized my siblings have zinged me over the years.. it hurts like he11 but also over time it has gotten less....

I took the BS for many years because of the kids... but they are almost all adults now.. and we can forge on with our own relationships. Those 5 kids know who I am better than their parents ever will.

For whatever reason (probably because I am the youngest) I have always wanted their approval... but I'm moving on from that.

I thought we had a close family and It's been me who has tried to keep everyone together.

Don't know what will happen now... before we launched into the reverse mortgage, there was a very good chance that I would soon become homeless if we had just simply sold like my siblings want my mother to do. & no.. nobody ever asked what I was to do or how I was doing in all of this.

As it is, they want me to move out now and have mom move to a Sr. housing complex. They want me out of the picture completely.

Mom has decided she doesn't want to go live with "old" people...

We are very lucky she is healthy still... we will stay here as long as we can.

I will be going back to work soon. I have yet to get over the injuries I have from the fall. I really bruised my knee cap. I didn't know you could bruise bones.

& yes.. mom is upset.. and hurt. It seems when it comes to her... everyone runs and hides.

Ohhh well... life goes on...

 

[HollyTyler]

For anyone who read my post on FB...

It's my sister...

Mom and I have struggled a bit and we need to put a roof on the house. We are getting a reverse mortgage (will take 6 weeks to get) and mom asked to borrow the money from my sister (who can well afford it) until the funding comes through...

What I got in return was a nasty email saying I insulted her husband and threatening to cut me off from the boys... (not like they aren't adults technically.. but she holds the purse strings, etc...)

btw.. she turned mom down.

I've been classified a worthless person and I've come to the conclusion that basically they all think I'm stupid.

Apparently my sister has been checking FB to see when I am online.

She wants me to get out, get a job and find a place to live.

She thinks I live online all the time. especially at night.. Usually I'm up because of the pain I deal with.

Tomorrow will be the 24th anniversary of my accident. that means I will have lived 1/2 of my life with this pain. she doesn't know what it's like.


sooo. for now.. mom and I will get by until we can get things done. I'll get myself figured out and I guess I can say it's safe to say.. we won't be going to TX for the holidays...

Michelle, WOW, how nasty! She's done/said things like this in the past, many times, and each time I'm even more amazed at how family can be so hurtful. How awful. Sooooooo sorry. And here's some extras for mom too: Deb's right, karma will take care of her. Know that we're all here and all love and understand you. I'd give you the loan without a second of hesitation, as I'm sure everybody else here would, if able. Times are tough all over, so hang in there, it WILL all work out!

 

[HollyTyler]

Sounds awesome! Just tell me if Madonna does Holiday and Vogue.....some of my favorites. Have a blast and I will just live vivaciously through you....as Karen would say.

 

[JLSE50]

Michelle--

Deb--enjoy!

Holly--have fun!

We are at WDW enjoying family and going the pace of my granddaughter.

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