WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 20

[HollyTyler]

Monica

Mikchelle

Deb--I understand about needing to deal with a lot of stuff! I am sure you will make a good decision about timing.

Deborah--glad you had a good trip. Best wishes as Ian learns to deal with his diagnosis.

Holly--Good luck on popcorn sales.


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Thanks Jan, we're almost done. I'm going up tonight to scouts to turn in money and borrowed cases of popcorn. Tyler is so frustrated that about his dad not taking him out selling, but there's nothing I can do about it. They're too busy house hunting right now to do much with the kids. He's even been missing scouts because of looking at houses and his dad even asks to pick him up on my evenings to look at houses. Ugghhh.....I haven't been able to let him go with dad to do that though because we've had so much stuff planned plus selling popcorn. I'll be so happy when popcorn is done! He won't be top seller this year, but is shooting for #2. It will be good for Tyler to learn that he can't always win. Sometimes life gets in the way. We all have interruptions in our lives. It's just how it goes.....and then we move on.

 

[HollyTyler]

Lisa is out of surgery & now recuperating. She had a massive infection in her sinuses (even after weeks & weeks on anti-biotics), which is why she was having trouble breathing, coughing & barely able to talk. She should feel improvement w/in a few days.

YAY!!! GREAT NEWS!!!! What a relief that she's all done. Sure, she still has to recover, but the hard/stressful part is done.

 

[HollyTyler]

Been trying to find a 2nd job but every place I apply, everybody I speak with, tells me they can't accommodate an every other week schedule. Fingers crossed that something accommodating will turn up. I need new tires for my car (they're almost bald), need a car repair (tie rods), need to catch up on some bills, and need to start saving money to go to the dentist and finally get my knee taken care of.

 

[JLSE50]

Lisa is out of surgery & now recuperating. She had a massive infection in her sinuses (even after weeks & weeks on anti-biotics), which is why she was having trouble breathing, coughing & barely able to talk. She should feel improvement w/in a few days.

Glad to hear the good report!

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[JLSE50]

Thanks Jan, we're almost done. I'm going up tonight to scouts to turn in money and borrowed cases of popcorn. Tyler is so frustrated that about his dad not taking him out selling, but there's nothing I can do about it. They're too busy house hunting right now to do much with the kids. He's even been missing scouts because of looking at houses and his dad even asks to pick him up on my evenings to look at houses. Ugghhh.....I haven't been able to let him go with dad to do that though because we've had so much stuff planned plus selling popcorn. I'll be so happy when popcorn is done! He won't be top seller this year, but is shooting for #2. It will be good for Tyler to learn that he can't always win. Sometimes life gets in the way. We all have interruptions in our lives. It's just how it goes.....and then we move on.

That is an important lesson.

Tyler has helped his Pack and should be very proud of that!

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[JLSE50]

Been trying to find a 2nd job but every place I apply, everybody I speak with, tells me they can't accommodate an every other week schedule. Fingers crossed that something accommodating will turn up. I need new tires for my car (they're almost bald), need a car repair (tie rods), need to catch up on some bills, and need to start saving money to go to the dentist and finally get my knee taken care of.

I am not sure what you are looking for, but have you considered home care? Sometimes agencies like Visiting Nurses, etc. hire "home makers" to keep someone company at night or on weekends when family needs to work or sleep. They might be able to accommodate alternate week scheduling by pairing you with someone else for the weeks Tyler is at your house. You could look in the phone book or on line for "home care" or "visiting angels" and see what need might exist.

http://www.visitingangels.com/senior-home-care-michigan-MI

and
I did a search of "home health aid Lansing Michigan" and got over 5 pages of stuff. Some might be duplicate entries, but it might work.


I hope Chuck's new house isn't going to move Tyler to a different school district.

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[EllaEnchanted]

Lisa is out of surgery & now recuperating. She had a massive infection in her sinuses (even after weeks & weeks on anti-biotics), which is why she was having trouble breathing, coughing & barely able to talk. She should feel improvement w/in a few days.

YAY!!!!!!!!!!!! This is the best news ever!!!! I'm so glad it all went well and that she can now start healing. I'm glad you'll be with the family soon and can hug everyone. It's great news!!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Thanks Jan, we're almost done. I'm going up tonight to scouts to turn in money and borrowed cases of popcorn. Tyler is so frustrated that about his dad not taking him out selling, but there's nothing I can do about it. They're too busy house hunting right now to do much with the kids. He's even been missing scouts because of looking at houses and his dad even asks to pick him up on my evenings to look at houses. Ugghhh.....I haven't been able to let him go with dad to do that though because we've had so much stuff planned plus selling popcorn. I'll be so happy when popcorn is done! He won't be top seller this year, but is shooting for #2. It will be good for Tyler to learn that he can't always win. Sometimes life gets in the way. We all have interruptions in our lives. It's just how it goes.....and then we move on.

He's going to learn to resent his dad and just want to be with you. It happened to my cousin with his kid. He spends half the week with mom and half the week with dad. He's a senior in high school now. He only wants to go to his dad's house. He doesn't like going to mom's. Mom remarried and has two small kids. He doesn't consider them his siblings.....they belong to her husband.....that's what he says.

I hope Tyler never feels like that, but one never knows when he gets older. But it is what it is and you can't change someone else. Tyler is the one who is losing here.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Been trying to find a 2nd job but every place I apply, everybody I speak with, tells me they can't accommodate an every other week schedule. Fingers crossed that something accommodating will turn up. I need new tires for my car (they're almost bald), need a car repair (tie rods), need to catch up on some bills, and need to start saving money to go to the dentist and finally get my knee taken care of.

That's a lot of unexpected expenses. I hope something works out for you real soon.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

I am not sure what you are looking for, but have you considered home care? Sometimes agencies like Visiting Nurses, etc. hire "home makers" to keep someone company at night or on weekends when family needs to work or sleep. They might be able to accommodate alternate week scheduling by pairing you with someone else for the weeks Tyler is at your house. You could look in the phone book or on line for "home care" or "visiting angels" and see what need might exist.

http://www.visitingangels.com/senior-home-care-michigan-MI

and
I did a search of "home health aid Lansing Michigan" and got over 5 pages of stuff. Some might be duplicate entries, but it might work.


I hope Chuck's new house isn't going to move Tyler to a different school district.

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That's such a great idea, Jan. You always come up with the best ideas. What would we do without you! I hope we never have to find out. You're the best!!

Chuck better stay within the same school district. That would not be fair to Tyler who is improving everyday where he is. Uprooting him would be completely unfair and a horrible experience for him. Besides, you can't move right now and you have to stay in the same area. I hope he does the right thing and stays in the same school district.

 

[HollyTyler]

I am not sure what you are looking for, but have you considered home care? Sometimes agencies like Visiting Nurses, etc. hire "home makers" to keep someone company at night or on weekends when family needs to work or sleep. They might be able to accommodate alternate week scheduling by pairing you with someone else for the weeks Tyler is at your house. You could look in the phone book or on line for "home care" or "visiting angels" and see what need might exist.

http://www.visitingangels.com/senior-home-care-michigan-MI

and
I did a search of "home health aid Lansing Michigan" and got over 5 pages of stuff. Some might be duplicate entries, but it might work.


I hope Chuck's new house isn't going to move Tyler to a different school district.

,

Thanks so much Jan! I will check out the link right away. What a great solution! I've been applying for fast food, stores, video stores, whatever I can find. This would be a perfect solution. Thanks!

Well, the purpoose of Chuck's move is to move Tyler into the school district he's wanted him in since before he started kindergarten. Way back when I was trying to get him to discuss which school to enroll him in, and he never responded or participated in that conversation, after Tyler was accepted in his current district, Chuck told me he'd applied for and had him enrolled in another district. I wasn't willing to drive that far because it would have been about a 20 minute drive each way, compared to 4 miles from my house and 3 miles from his dad's house. Somehow I convinced him that I wasn't willing to drive that far but he has always told me he will move to that district to get Tyler in. It's a high income district with supposedly wondeful schools. BUT.....their special ed program is not very good, from what I've been told from other teachers and from the husband of a speech therapist in that district. I'm not willing to pull him away from all his friends and a program that works for him (even though this has been a particularly bumpy year for him so far). And I'm not willing to drive so far every day. It's in a town south of our city, and my office is north of our city. I will not agree (and Tyler doesn't want to switch schools), and since we have joint legal and physical, if we don't agree on school, the court has to decide, so I fully expect a court battle coming up soon. Yuck. But I'm a tough cookie and will get through it.

 

[HollyTyler]

He's going to learn to resent his dad and just want to be with you. It happened to my cousin with his kid. He spends half the week with mom and half the week with dad. He's a senior in high school now. He only wants to go to his dad's house. He doesn't like going to mom's. Mom remarried and has two small kids. He doesn't consider them his siblings.....they belong to her husband.....that's what he says.

I hope Tyler never feels like that, but one never knows when he gets older. But it is what it is and you can't change someone else. Tyler is the one who is losing here.

Deb, Tyler has recently started telling me he doesn't like going to his dad's anymore. He says it's because his dad never does things Tyler needs to get done or that are important to Tyler, and also because his little sister is a terror and he can't stand how dad and stepmom don't control/discipline her. I told him we have to follow what the court said but that he should talk to his dad about these feelings. I did mention this to his dad at a recent psych appt. last week. Dad seemed shocked. The hard part is that they (dad and stepmom) want the whole family to do everything together, which I totally understand, but it's hard when there's such big age difference between both kids. He's 10 and she's 3. He is a good sport and tries to go along with the little kid activities to try to give his sister a good time. It's something us adults need to discuss soon. I think more issues in this regard will come up after they move because I highly doubt his dad will drive him 20 minutes each way to and from scouts once a week when he doesn't get home until a few minutes before scouts starts, and that will make Tyler upset because he loves going. Time will tell. Lots of changes coming up with their move.

 

[HollyTyler]

That's a lot of unexpected expenses. I hope something works out for you real soon.

Me too. Because there are more that I don't want to share right now. BIG scary ones. But it's just a speed bump. I'll get through. I always do. The upside to this is that I don't have credit cards, so at least I don't have credit card debt hanging over me. I know many people who are buried under thousands or tens of thousands of credit card debt PLUS the same things I have going on, so I'm really very lucky.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Thanks so much Jan! I will check out the link right away. What a great solution! I've been applying for fast food, stores, video stores, whatever I can find. This would be a perfect solution. Thanks!

Well, the purpoose of Chuck's move is to move Tyler into the school district he's wanted him in since before he started kindergarten. Way back when I was trying to get him to discuss which school to enroll him in, and he never responded or participated in that conversation, after Tyler was accepted in his current district, Chuck told me he'd applied for and had him enrolled in another district. I wasn't willing to drive that far because it would have been about a 20 minute drive each way, compared to 4 miles from my house and 3 miles from his dad's house. Somehow I convinced him that I wasn't willing to drive that far but he has always told me he will move to that district to get Tyler in. It's a high income district with supposedly wondeful schools. BUT.....their special ed program is not very good, from what I've been told from other teachers and from the husband of a speech therapist in that district. I'm not willing to pull him away from all his friends and a program that works for him (even though this has been a particularly bumpy year for him so far). And I'm not willing to drive so far every day. It's in a town south of our city, and my office is north of our city. I will not agree (and Tyler doesn't want to switch schools), and since we have joint legal and physical, if we don't agree on school, the court has to decide, so I fully expect a court battle coming up soon. Yuck. But I'm a tough cookie and will get through it.

Why does he have to fight you on every situation. What a putz. Can't he understand how devistating a move would be for Tyler. Now each of your homes will be in a different district and further away from each other most likely. Does he really need to move? Why doesn't he just find a house in the same school district? He's not thinking about Tyler's needs at all. Putz!!!

 

[HollyTyler]

That's such a great idea, Jan. You always come up with the best ideas. What would we do without you! I hope we never have to find out. You're the best!!

Chuck better stay within the same school district. That would not be fair to Tyler who is improving everyday where he is. Uprooting him would be completely unfair and a horrible experience for him. Besides, you can't move right now and you have to stay in the same area. I hope he does the right thing and stays in the same school district.

His goal has always been to move him, so since I didn't agree, he is moving so he will be "in district" for the school he wants him to go to. We will have a court battle on our hands. I am fully confident that no judge would agree to move Tyler when he's come so far and had so many improvements where he is. He's had a major set back moving out of elementary school into the 5th and 6th grade school, so there's no way a judge would make him totally move to a new district. I have plenty of documentation on how disastrous this current move was/still is for him, so I'm sure he won't be forced to switch schools. BUT.....his dad will press the matter to court, so I will have to pay for an attorney. Fortunately I've worked for lawyers for many years, so......I'm bound to find somebody who know somebody who would be willing to work out a payment plan. I'm sure of it, with all the lawyers I know. So once again, I'm VERY LUCKY in life.

LOVE MY LIFE!!!!!!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Deb, Tyler has recently started telling me he doesn't like going to his dad's anymore. He says it's because his dad never does things Tyler needs to get done or that are important to Tyler, and also because his little sister is a terror and he can't stand how dad and stepmom don't control/discipline her. I told him we have to follow what the court said but that he should talk to his dad about these feelings. I did mention this to his dad at a recent psych appt. last week. Dad seemed shocked. The hard part is that they (dad and stepmom) want the whole family to do everything together, which I totally understand, but it's hard when there's such big age difference between both kids. He's 10 and she's 3. He is a good sport and tries to go along with the little kid activities to try to give his sister a good time. It's something us adults need to discuss soon. I think more issues in this regard will come up after they move because I highly doubt his dad will drive him 20 minutes each way to and from scouts once a week when he doesn't get home until a few minutes before scouts starts, and that will make Tyler upset because he loves going. Time will tell. Lots of changes coming up with their move.

Well putz is going to find out that the courts are going to have a different view from his. They may just give you sole custody and him visiting rights. How would he like that....PUTZ!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Me too. Because there are more that I don't want to share right now. BIG scary ones. But it's just a speed bump. I'll get through. I always do. The upside to this is that I don't have credit cards, so at least I don't have credit card debt hanging over me. I know many people who are buried under thousands or tens of thousands of credit card debt PLUS the same things I have going on, so I'm really very lucky.

That's very wise of you. I only have one credit card....mostly for car rentals....no huge debt. Just take one day at a time and keep breathing.

 

[HollyTyler]

Why does he have to fight you on every situation. What a putz. Can't he understand how devistating a move would be for Tyler. Now each of your homes will be in a different district and further away from each other most likely. Does he really need to move? Why doesn't he just find a house in the same school district? He's not thinking about Tyler's needs at all. Putz!!!

He's had his sights set on this other district because it's a high income district. No offense to anybody who is well off, but he's a snob. I know plenty of people with higher incomes who are not, but he IS. His whole family is. His employers and his whole family live in the district where he wants to move. I have nothing against higher income families or with schools that have more money coming in, but I don't agree with schools whose demographics offer no diversity. We live in Lansing, which is a very diverse area. White people are the minority. I grew up going to a school with NO minorities, all white, but I feel that if Tyler is growing up in a city where we are the minority, he should be exposed to greater diverisity. The school district where Chuck wants him to go is about 98% white.

Maybe I'm backwards, but I want him to grow up with multiple cultures around him because that's what our world is. In fact, because of our neighbor Loie, and Tyler learning a lot about Egyptian (Loie's mom) and Saudi cultures (Loie and his dad), and also a bit of education about the Muslim religion, he was able to befriend a Muslim child over summer break who wasn't eating much lunch because he was fasting during Ramadan. Tyler was able to tell him, "Oh yeah, I learned about that from my neighbor" and be friends with him when other kids were teasing the boy. We need to learn diversity in today's world.

OK.....off my soapbox now. I sincerely hope I didn't offend anybody.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

His goal has always been to move him, so since I didn't agree, he is moving so he will be "in district" for the school he wants him to go to. We will have a court battle on our hands. I am fully confident that no judge would agree to move Tyler when he's come so far and had so many improvements where he is. He's had a major set back moving out of elementary school into the 5th and 6th grade school, so there's no way a judge would make him totally move to a new district. I have plenty of documentation on how disastrous this current move was/still is for him, so I'm sure he won't be forced to switch schools. BUT.....his dad will press the matter to court, so I will have to pay for an attorney. Fortunately I've worked for lawyers for many years, so......I'm bound to find somebody who know somebody who would be willing to work out a payment plan. I'm sure of it, with all the lawyers I know. So once again, I'm VERY LUCKY in life.

LOVE MY LIFE!!!!!!

I cannot believe that he is so dense. What a huge PUTZ!!! Why doesn't his wife tell him that's not a good idea for Tyler. What is wrong with the both of them. Good thing you have documentation and doctors records to prove your side. He should have to pay your legal fees if he loses his position. I would request that from the court....considering you are a single parent with a single income and he makes more than you. Tuff! That's only right.

 

[HollyTyler]

Well putz is going to find out that the courts are going to have a different view from his. They may just give you sole custody and him visiting rights. How would he like that....PUTZ!

Yup, PUTZ is right! All I can do is just let Tyler know that he has a right to let both of us know how he feels and we will do our best to work it out. I do have to say his dad honestly does think he's thinking of Tyler's best interests. And I'm grateful that he is still civil about everything so far. Neither of us ever says anything disrespectful about each other to Tyler and neither of us ever tries to put Tyler in a tug of war, so he's a lucky kid in that regard. I'm doing the best I can to counteract all the stupid stuff Chuck does and I KNOW Tyler realizes that from comments he makes, such as "My dad always says he will do____________ but never does, but you always do it with me." That's just one example, but you get the point. I just hug him and tell him being a parent is hard, nobody really has the right to say who's a better parent, and that we both just try to do what we each think is right.