WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 20

[EllaEnchanted]

I am good, thanks for asking

Last week was too busy trying to get in the visits for the twice a month kiddos before the month was over and since I had been gone for that Disney week, I had all the kiddos I normally see in 4 weeks mushed into one week before vacation and one week after.

This week positively feels like a vacation, I took a friend to her MD appt and to run errands today, will lunch tomorrow with some friends who are missionaries to Latvia but in Indiana for their son's wedding this past Saturday. Wednesday is Bible study and help the church secretary and NO CLIENTS afterwards. I only have three this week and all are on Thursday.

So I am getting some serious work done on the baby afghans I am making!!

How is everyone else?

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Wow....you really have been busy. Glad it has slowed down some.

So how was the vacation? You did the DVC Members cruise right? How many nights and where did you go?

Glad you're back to working on the afghans. How many are you making? Who are they for?

Glad to have you back over here, Jan.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Yup, makes perfect sense. I agree. I know it's not me because he shut all his friends out. I know because nobody ever even comes over to his house anymore and there used to be friends coming and going every single day, quite a hub of activity. Now it's almost like an abandoned house. Tyler went over there tonight to sell scout popcorn. I knew Loie would buy from him, he always does, and he really likes Tyler, so I'm glad he's not acting any differently towards him. I considered being the one to deliver his popcorn Thursday night but decided I'd rather not because it's clear he doesn't want anybody around. I will respect that and let him be. I hope he finds peace.

That's very wise of you and I hope he finds some peace too. I'm glad he bought some popcorn from Tyler. What goes on between adults should not affect the kids. Or in his case, what goes on inside his mind, should not affect Tyler. That's a good thing.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Sorry. Better luck next time!

OH it's fine....it's just football. Last year the Giants had a so so wins and loss number and they still won the Superbowl. The season just started, we have a long way to go yet.

But Thanks!!!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

So Joe has been in the hospital for the past three weeks. Sandi texted us yesterday that the doctor said he may not make it thru the night. His organs are shutting down. It sounds like his time is up very soon.

I have been texting Sandi back and acting very supportive. Really, John and I do not like Joe so I'm lieing when I say we love them both, meaning Sandi and Joe, in my texts back to her. We have already decided not to attend his funeral. Sandi has chosen Joe and now she will have to rely on his friends and family to get her through this. John is very hurt by Sandi and says that who she is with Joe is not who his daughter is as he knew her.

I know that Joe hated me and so Sandi was standoffish with me as time went by. But I can't help feeling like the right thing to do would be to support her in her time of need. At least she has her mother now. The kid just got back from moving her down there. She's not far from where Sandi lives so she can be there for her.

John asked last night if he was being too cold hearted for not caring that Joe is dieing. I said, he hated us and kept Sandi away from us. I forgive him and don't wish him any ill, but if he's passing over then I wish him to learn what he needs to learn and to find peace within himself. John could agree to that.

It's a very difficult situation. I'm glad that we don't live in Florida yet. It's easier to deal with from afar right now.

Please keep it on the DQ....no FB postings, Sandi is on there as my friend and John's. But feel free to talk about it over here.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

I'm having such a hard time scheduling a time for me and my cousins Jeff and Amy to get together. I missed last Christmas eve with them because Ray had just passed away and we had his funeral on Christmas eve. So we missed the party with the cousins. I already had gifts wrapped and ready for all the kids. Well I still have those gifts in my house.

I keep trying to schedule a date for us to get together with Amy and Jeff so that we can do Christmas. Right now the baby, little Jeffrey who is 2, is very sick. He was born with lung problems and still has episodes. Right now he's having another one.

Plus John and the kid have to work all day and night this Sunday. So we had to cancel getting together this weekend again.

I hope little Jeffrey feels better soon. I think he outgrew what I bought for him already. hahaaha.

 

[Tink rules]

Well Deb...

You have to do what's best for now. Maybe distance is a good thing right now.

I think once you move to FL, you may be able to work on some sort of a healing. only time will tell.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Joe passed away around 3:30pm today. Sandi is in shock. She called John already. Fortunately, she has lots of people around her from her mother's side of the family and Joe's mother too. We won't be going down for the funeral. We're sending flowers instead.

It's an odd feeling, I feel so bad for Sandi but nothing really for Joe.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Well Deb...

You have to do what's best for now. Maybe distance is a good thing right now.

I think once you move to FL, you may be able to work on some sort of a healing. only time will tell.

That sounds very wise, Michelle. I think you're right. I know that John feels terrible for Sandi no matter what he said before Joe died. It's a good thing to put some distance between us. I hope it helps the healing between Sandi and us after we move down there. Certainly, with Joe not being there it has to help.

 

[Tink rules]

Sorry to hear Deb...

Hugs to you and John....

Sandi will have to do her own healing... glad she has some people around to help her.

you never know.. with Joe not around.. it might work out...

you can hope.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Sorry to hear Deb...

Hugs to you and John....

Sandi will have to do her own healing... glad she has some people around to help her.

you never know.. with Joe not around.. it might work out...

you can hope.

Again, I completely agree Shell with everything you just said.

I feel very bad for Sandi, but I know she's in good hands so I don't worry. She has our phone numbers if she wants to talk to us....or at least, John.

By the time we move down, Sandi should be settled into her new life by then. Not sure what she's going to do without Joe. Her whole life was him and what he wanted. Now she's on her own. Good thing her mom and aunt are there to help her resettle. Kris is there with her too. Not sure if Tom is going to go down there or not. He's still in Pittsburgh as far as I know. They should be there for their mother.

 

[HollyTyler]

Joe passed away around 3:30pm today. Sandi is in shock. She called John already. Fortunately, she has lots of people around her from her mother's side of the family and Joe's mother too. We won't be going down for the funeral. We're sending flowers instead.

It's an odd feeling, I feel so bad for Sandi but nothing really for Joe.

Aw, Deb, what a hard situation. So sorry. I agree with what Michelle said about the distance being a good thing right now. She will have others around her right now to help her start healing, then by the time you and John are moved down there maybe with Joe gone, John & Sandi's relationship might have a chance to start mending. What a mess.

 

[HollyTyler]

I'm having such a hard time scheduling a time for me and my cousins Jeff and Amy to get together. I missed last Christmas eve with them because Ray had just passed away and we had his funeral on Christmas eve. So we missed the party with the cousins. I already had gifts wrapped and ready for all the kids. Well I still have those gifts in my house.

I keep trying to schedule a date for us to get together with Amy and Jeff so that we can do Christmas. Right now the baby, little Jeffrey who is 2, is very sick. He was born with lung problems and still has episodes. Right now he's having another one.

Plus John and the kid have to work all day and night this Sunday. So we had to cancel getting together this weekend again.

I hope little Jeffrey feels better soon. I think he outgrew what I bought for him already. hahaaha.

Poor little Jeffrey. I still remember the picture of him, I think he was a little less than a year old, wearing an adorable hat, a close up shot of his face, and his big beautiful eyes just stand out and grab your heart. He's adorable! I hope he heals from this bout quickly. It's so hard to see such little ones struggle with health issues.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Aw, Deb, what a hard situation. So sorry. I agree with what Michelle said about the distance being a good thing right now. She will have others around her right now to help her start healing, then by the time you and John are moved down there maybe with Joe gone, John & Sandi's relationship might have a chance to start mending. What a mess.

Thanks Holly. I think time heals all wounds. So we shall support her from afar and let time heal us. I think it's a good thing that we're not ready to move down yet, but I'm glad her mom and little sister are there for her.

We'll see what happens after we make the move and see her more often.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Poor little Jeffrey. I still remember the picture of him, I think he was a little less than a year old, wearing an adorable hat, a close up shot of his face, and his big beautiful eyes just stand out and grab your heart. He's adorable! I hope he heals from this bout quickly. It's so hard to see such little ones struggle with health issues.

I think he was about one, maybe less in that picture. He's still adorable but older and growing now. I want to get some more current pictures of him. I hope he gets over this illness and stays healthy for a while.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

I'm waiting on news from Florida. I don't have any information about the funeral arrangements. I picked out something nice to send for Joe, but I don't know where the funeral home is going to be. I even thought about what to write on the card so that I'm not being a hyprocrat, but still being nice......"you were loved by many and you were gone too soon." All true and very nice I think.

Sandi said something about Joe's mother paying for the services. I don't know what her traditions are for funerals. I don't think he had any insurance, so Sandi can't pay for it. Mom's and Ray's funerals cost $8k each. Not cheap. Fortunately, they had insurance to cover their expenses.

For now, I'm just sitting here and waiting until I hear something from them. I hate the waiting. I want to get it taken care of already.

 

[mishoe01]

Deb

 

[mishoe01]

I have my 1st visit to a chiropractor tomorrow. I've been off for about 2 weeks minimum (yes, I know I am normally off, but this is more off than usual)

Next has been very stiff = been sitting w/ heating pad on my neck/shoulders for a good chunk of each day. Barely able to turn my neck & when I do I get vertigo/dizziness. Had headaches most days & nausea too. Lisa (sister) says it sounds like Menier's Disease & that I need to go get tested. Yeah - 1 more thing to add to my f*d up list. I almost fell 2x at Publix Monday night & having a hard time driving.

I'm hoping my neck can be released tomorrow and that things will get better.

I'll keep you informed

 

[Tink rules]

Monica...

I thought you were a ditzy dame to begin with!!!

Let him straighten you out.. hopefully you'll feel better soon...



& Deb.. good call on the card. If they decide not to have anything at a funeral home or something... send a nice fruit basket to Sandi with the card.

 

[mishoe01]

Monica...

I thought you were a ditzy dame to begin with!!!

me too!!! but this is now interfering with my daily life/living.

Let him straighten you out.. hopefully you'll feel better soon...

I hope she's good. She's got an A rating on Angie's list.

& Deb.. good call on the card. If they decide not to have anything at a funeral home or something... send a nice fruit basket to Sandi with the card.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Deb

Thanks so much Monica. I'll take them and send them back to you!!!!!