WBRepo-Ship of Thieves-Remember the Magic Pt 17

[Tink rules]

You know Marilyn...

I'm not as upset as I thought I would be. I got upset because I was being screamed at... but I'm not as upset at the rest of it.

He will calm down. Always does. I've just decided that on the personal side... he's lost. And he'll never know it. He'll blame me. Fine... but I'm still doing what's best for me.

 

[Tink rules]

So sorry that this happened to you. No one should have to put up with that. Sounds like he needs drugs! Make sure and try and get more PAID vacation.

I take whatever time I want... I work from where ever my phone and laptop goes... if I had one that worked...

 

[Tink rules]

going out for a walk in a little bit... nice night for it...it's in the low 70's...

Anyone???

 

[LuvBaloo]

Jumping in to say HI everybody!

Life has been crazy busy for us.
We've been working at packing up our house. Tomorrow we take the girls to my parents for the week. Ken & I will go look at houses in the new town, and then we'll head home for a week of doing renovations/painting/packing the old house.
I had my last day of work today. Its been quite the experience leaving a job after 14.5 years. My boss left work early today and didn't even say goodbye. The rest of the salary people pitched in and got a big cake for this afternoon, which was very nice. My 3 employees got together and gave me a gift card for Home Depot to put toward renovations with a nice card and note from each of them. A group of ladies took me out for dinner earlier in the week. So its been a crazy mix of feeling appreciated and like I'll be missed combined with feelings of irritation with my actual boss.
The kids have been extra emotional lately and quick to cry as they get used to the idea of leaving and saying so many goodbyes. It'll be good to get them up to my parents tomorrow as this next week of final packing and renos would not be fun for them.

I read the last couple pages to get a little caught up:

Jackie - hope you tooth is fixed soon!

Nan - have a great time at Disneyland with Bubba & V!

Michelle - stick to your guns, you deserve to be treated wonderfully!

 

[granmaz]

Jumping in to say HI everybody!

Life has been crazy busy for us.
We've been working at packing up our house. Tomorrow we take the girls to my parents for the week. Ken & I will go look at houses in the new town, and then we'll head home for a week of doing renovations/painting/packing the old house.
I had my last day of work today. Its been quite the experience leaving a job after 14.5 years. My boss left work early today and didn't even say goodbye. The rest of the salary people pitched in and got a big cake for this afternoon, which was very nice. My 3 employees got together and gave me a gift card for Home Depot to put toward renovations with a nice card and note from each of them. A group of ladies took me out for dinner earlier in the week. So its been a crazy mix of feeling appreciated and like I'll be missed combined with feelings of irritation with my actual boss.
The kids have been extra emotional lately and quick to cry as they get used to the idea of leaving and saying so many goodbyes. It'll be good to get them up to my parents tomorrow as this next week of final packing and renos would not be fun for them.

You've left your old job already Shannon, when do you start your new one?

I hope your house hunting goes well and you find just what you want. How very exciting for you all. Keep us posted.

 

[scottishwee35]

Jumping in to say HI everybody!

Life has been crazy busy for us.
We've been working at packing up our house. Tomorrow we take the girls to my parents for the week. Ken & I will go look at houses in the new town, and then we'll head home for a week of doing renovations/painting/packing the old house.
I had my last day of work today. Its been quite the experience leaving a job after 14.5 years. My boss left work early today and didn't even say goodbye. The rest of the salary people pitched in and got a big cake for this afternoon, which was very nice. My 3 employees got together and gave me a gift card for Home Depot to put toward renovations with a nice card and note from each of them. A group of ladies took me out for dinner earlier in the week. So its been a crazy mix of feeling appreciated and like I'll be missed combined with feelings of irritation with my actual boss.
The kids have been extra emotional lately and quick to cry as they get used to the idea of leaving and saying so many goodbyes. It'll be good to get them up to my parents tomorrow as this next week of final packing and renos would not be fun for them.

I read the last couple pages to get a little caught up:

Jackie - hope you tooth is fixed soon!

Nan - have a great time at Disneyland with Bubba & V!

Michelle - stick to your guns, you deserve to be treated wonderfully!

Hi Shannon

I think I have missed something....

did you sold the house? and I do remember you were job hunting so that mean you got a new job?

I wish youu all the best

Scottishwee35

 

[JLSE50]

Michelle--SO SORRY this was necessary. But it sounds like you have properly handled the situation. Friends do not treat each other that way and the closer the friendship the more accountability there should be. Michael appears committed only to himself.

(Ever see a Stealth Fighter or a Stealth Bomber?? They do a good job but are so silent that you do not see them until they are leaving.)

How would they expect someone with a family to pay bills when paychecks come so weirdly? Seems you are being taken advantage of on a number of levels.

A negotiated salary, to be paid on a regular schedule and a NEW laptop so you can work reliably are reasonable requirents. And if someone expects to drop in, you may not be in town.

{{ HUG }}

 

[JLSE50]

Shannon--sounds like a good moving plan. The girls said their good byes and get fun time with Grand parents while you change their home into an empty house. It may do them good to see it empty if you can manage as then they will realize it is their OLD HOUSE. When they see their familiar stuff in the new house they will realize on a gut level that HOME is where FAMILY is (and where they can keep their STUFF.)

Sounds like your boss is not comfortable showing emotions and is so sorry you are leaving that he did not trust himself to stay under CONTROL saying good bye so skipped out. Some men think showing sadness is un-manly. It's a generational and cultural thing. They lose out on a lot of life but that is the way they are wired. I'd take it as a compliment--he left because he did not want anyone to see tears in his eyes when he said good bye and wished you well--proof positive that he will miss you a lot.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Hi All....HAPPY BIRTHDAY HOLLY....

I've been so busy these last few days helping my uncle who is in a great deal of pain and helpless at home. He needed some attention quickly. I got the VA hospital to pick him up and evaluate him. They admitted him for pain management. This qualifies him for home health care. Only to find out that they have a waiting list. We'll put him on it, but I have a private agency scheduled to come to his house starting next week. My cousin and I are going to split the payments. My Uncle lives alone with one son who lives in Florida and another one in Seattle. We're the only family that he's got. So I've been helping out trying to get him the healthcare that he needs. With no one living nearby, it's very difficult....lots of online research and many phone calls. We finally have it worked out. Now this week I have to see about other programs that he may qualify for like Meals on Wheels, etc.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Shell, I think Jan said it all and I would have to agree completely. If someone wants to be with you and share their life with you, they want to keep you informed of everything that they do in order to share. If Michael prefers to remain private about his affairs then he needs to remain single. He is not ready to share with anyone. It's that simple. He's not ready for a committed relationship. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go fishing. There are more frogs to kiss in your future. I'm just saying.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Shannon and Ken.....I couldn't be happier for you. Finally, you'll all be able to live together as a family all week long. No more long commuting away from each other. For this alone, it is so worth the move. The girls will be so much happier having daddy home every night. Shannon, all your hard work and persistence paid off because now you've got a whole new career. How exciting. And if I remember correctly, you'll be living closer to extended family members so that's a big bonus. It's a win, win, win situation for all of you. Good Luck and Congratulations!!!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Holly.....come and tell us all about it. Jan, Heather and Lisa really got you didn't they. And we all kept the secret too. Now we want to hear all the details. AND don't forget the pictures.

 

[granmaz]

Hi All....HAPPY BIRTHDAY HOLLY....

I've been so busy these last few days helping my uncle who is in a great deal of pain and helpless at home. He needed some attention quickly. I got the VA hospital to pick him up and evaluate him. They admitted him for pain management. This qualifies him for home health care. Only to find out that they have a waiting list. We'll put him on it, but I have a private agency scheduled to come to his house starting next week. My cousin and I are going to split the payments. My Uncle lives alone with one son who lives in Florida and another one in Seattle. We're the only family that he's got. So I've been helping out trying to get him the healthcare that he needs. With no one living nearby, it's very difficult....lots of online research and many phone calls. We finally have it worked out. Now this week I have to see about other programs that he may qualify for like Meals on Wheels, etc.

You are so very caring Deb. It is good your uncle has you and your cousin to help him in this. Things are so difficult when you are older and need help, and things always take so much time to get sorted.

Holly's birthday in on August 30th, but I think she will be celebrating from last night onwards!!! It was lovely Jan and her workmates organised last night for her.

 

[EllaEnchanted]

You are so very caring Deb. It is good your uncle has you and your cousin to help him in this. Things are so difficult when you are older and need help, and things always take so much time to get sorted.

Holly's birthday in on August 30th, but I think she will be celebrating from last night onwards!!! It was lovely Jan and her workmates organised last night for her.

Thanks Marilyn, but it's nothing more than what anyone would do for a family member or friend that they loved. It is harder getting older. I worry about me and John. We really can't count on his kids....not because they don't care, but because they are just not equipped to get the job done. It's not easy navigating the healthcare field. I don't think they would be very successful. The answer would be no....sorry we can't do that, we tried. Then me and John will have to do it ourselves. haha. As always!

I know Holly is not used to celebrating her birthday, so turning 40 and having it be so special with everyone there is something she will remember forever. I'm so glad we were able to be a part of it.

 

[granmaz]

Thanks Marilyn, but it's nothing more than what anyone would do for a family member or friend that they loved. It is harder getting older. I worry about me and John. We really can't count on his kids....not because they don't care, but because they are just not equipped to get the job done. It's not easy navigating the healthcare field. I don't think they would be very successful. The answer would be no....sorry we can't do that, we tried. Then me and John will have to do it ourselves. haha. As always!

I know Holly is not used to celebrating her birthday, so turning 40 and having it be so special with everyone there is something she will remember forever. I'm so glad we were able to be a part of it.

You are going to have to get all your ageing care plans in place before you need them then - if you ever get the time after doing it for everyone else!!

Yes, a 40th is special. I wouldn't really mind being 40 again. Though then I would have to be 50 and 60 again, and I didn't like those birthdays.

 

[JLSE50]

Thanks Marilyn, but it's nothing more than what anyone would do for a family member or friend that they loved. It is harder getting older. I worry about me and John. We really can't count on his kids....not because they don't care, but because they are just not equipped to get the job done. It's not easy navigating the healthcare field. I don't think they would be very successful. The answer would be no....sorry we can't do that, we tried. Then me and John will have to do it ourselves. haha. As always!

I know Holly is not used to celebrating her birthday, so turning 40 and having it be so special with everyone there is something she will remember forever. I'm so glad we were able to be a part of it.

Don't minimize your efforts and commitment Deborah. You are a rare breed.

Some of my friends who have no kids or have kids far away so they would be unable to make such arrangements, have made their own arrangements. They investigated continuity-of-life facilities. In Bethlehem there is ATRIA but the friends here have chosen WESTMINISTER VILLAGE NORTH or MARQUETTE MANOR. One has a little house on the periphery road and others have apartments. When the husband of one lady needed medical care he was in the nursing home section and she could walk--all indoors--to see him but return to her apartment to sleep. They can have meals in a diningroom or on their own. When someone needs supervision of medicine, that can be arranged. When they need more care, that can be provided. There is even an Alzheimer's section.

You and John will investigate options, make your own arrangements and move into your retirement community, wherever it is, when you are still young enough to make your own decisions and enjoy the amenities. Your Uncle is at a cusp of change, old enough that people expect kids to do it and young enough that kids are not doing it. He is BLESSED to have your commitment, knowledge and time!

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Don't minimize your efforts and commitment Deborah. You are a rare breed.

Thanks Jan, but that's really a shame then. I think everyone would want to do it like I do.

Some of my friends who have no kids or have kids far away so they would be unable to make such arrangements, have made their own arrangements. They investigated continuity-of-life facilities. In Bethlehem there is ATRIA but the friends here have chosen WESTMINISTER VILLAGE NORTH or MARQUETTE MANOR. One has a little house on the periphery road and others have apartments. When the husband of one lady needed medical care he was in the nursing home section and she could walk--all indoors--to see him but return to her apartment to sleep. They can have meals in a diningroom or on their own. When someone needs supervision of medicine, that can be arranged. When they need more care, that can be provided. There is even an Alzheimer's section.

You and John will investigate options, make your own arrangements and move into your retirement community, wherever it is, when you are still young enough to make your own decisions and enjoy the amenities. Your Uncle is at a cusp of change, old enough that people expect kids to do it and young enough that kids are not doing it. He is BLESSED to have your commitment, knowledge and time!

John and I are planning to be in Florida in two years. We'll see what happens when the time comes....best made plans and all that. It is good to set everything up and live it now while you're still young enough to know it. Later, everything will already be in place. It makes perfectly good sense.

My Uncle is more like a Dad to me. He has always been there for me throughout my entire life. It's nice to give back. I would do anything for him.

 

[Tink rules]

Shell, I think Jan said it all and I would have to agree completely. If someone wants to be with you and share their life with you, they want to keep you informed of everything that they do in order to share. If Michael prefers to remain private about his affairs then he needs to remain single. He is not ready to share with anyone. It's that simple. He's not ready for a committed relationship. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and go fishing. There are more frogs to kiss in your future. I'm just saying.

Crap... now I have to handle bait?????

(sorry... I had to... )

I have lots of thinking to do.

And I have alot of standing up for myself to do also.

we'll see how it goes.

Until then... I have a date with a big stuffed puppy dog...

 

[EllaEnchanted]

Crap... now I have to handle bait?????

(sorry... I had to... )

I have lots of thinking to do.

And I have alot of standing up for myself to do also.

we'll see how it goes.

Until then... I have a date with a big stuffed puppy dog...

I completely understand and I'm here for you no matter who or what or where or when. Hugs.

 

[CustardTart]

Crap... now I have to handle bait?????

(sorry... I had to... )

I have lots of thinking to do.

And I have alot of standing up for myself to do also.

we'll see how it goes.

Until then... I have a date with a big stuffed puppy dog...