Watching a (metaphorical) train wreck unfold

Kathryn Merteuil

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To day 2025 has been a bit of a crazy year to say the least. Seems like this stuff runs in cycles.

Anyway, I found out that a family friend of ours is "dating" a celebrity. :sad2:

A little background.... she is mid 50's, her brother passed within the last couple years, cancer survivor, her mother passed earlier this year, and in late 2024 she got divorced. I am not quite sure what happened with that, she said that they were having a quarrel and her husband told her it was over, and walked out (literally) in the middle of the night and called somebody to pick him up, and they haven't been together since. Literally the next communication they had was divorce papers. To say she has had a really rough go of it the past year is an understatement. She is anything but rich, however her 80 year old father is remarkably wealthy.

Friday morning, I found out that she is "dating" a B, or maybe C list celebrity. This "celebrity" is kind of what you would call a "has been" from like 1980's television. She said she met him ONCE when she was going to college in Tennessee back in the early 90's. NOW they have "reconnected".

Here is where the story seems to unravel, but she does not see it:

This "celebrity" is married. (however he tells her that they are getting divorced) In fact he was TRICKED into marrying her in the first place. Said something about he thought it was the plot for a TV show or movie, and they accidentally ended up being legally married. They are still making public appearances and stuff, and live in the same home, but they are getting divorced, and he is going to marry our friend.

He has asked our friend NOT to post on any of his social media accounts, because this relationship has to stay a SECRET.

He said do not believe a word that is posted on his own social media because his wife is the one who controls it. Of course do not believe anything you see on his wife's social media because she is a liar.

He has sent her a diamond necklace as a gift already (I am guessing it is something he got from Temu). He also orders pizza for her (and her father) for family dinner nights because he cannot be there in person as he is off doing these celebrity things.

Of course she will NOT answer the questions.... HAVE YOU ACTUALLY SEEN THIS GUY IN PERSON since you "met him once in college? and JUST EXACTLY HOW DID YOU RECONNECT?

*this also explains a situation that happened with her banking that got her account frozen due to "potential fraud" just recently. She did not tell us the whole story at the time, but she was so angry that she got her account frozen.... and advised to just leave the bank because of a mishap with a check. She said that she sold somebody an expensive item, deposited the check..... she SAID the check was good, and then turned around and bought another expensive item. Come to find out the check was not actually good, and her dad had to kick in the funds to straighten her account out.

Come to find out... she sold an item (which she would not name) to somebody in a far off state that was a "friend" of this "celebrity". She then turned around and bought this expensive autographed guitar as a gift for her "new celebrity boyfriend". We wondered why she would buy such a thing.... come to find out, this is why.

She insists this is REAL. We are trying to tell her that this is 100% a scammer. We are looking for a way to have some kind of "intervention" w/o it seeming like an intervention. To me she is a textbook victim here and all of this is textbook scam. Unfortunately, DH actually seemed to believe the story at the beginning. I was like NO this is painfully obvious.
 
I don't know how to help your friend, but it's 100% a scam. Someone in our local area ended up on the news with the same thing after she finally figured out she wasn't "dating" Morgan Wallen. But the texts of the scam were almost exactly what your friend is posting. Married, getting divorced, met him once, yada yada.
 
Yeah 100% a scam. It didn't initially seem scam until you asked her if she's ever seen him in person since college and she couldn't won't answer you. It is interesting though to find out how did she reconnect with him. Because if she's in her 50's and assuming she went to college right from high school that was so many years ago for a scammer to make some sort of connection and reach out to her. Did some scammer already have some fake profile of his and she messaged him and said something like "hey do you remember me from college"?

it sucks seeing friends get sucked into this but at the end of the day, she is likely going to believe in this boyfriend vs a friend trying to tell her otherwise.
 
Yeah 100% a scam. It didn't initially seem scam until you asked her if she's ever seen him in person since college and she couldn't won't answer you. It is interesting though to find out how did she reconnect with him. Because if she's in her 50's and assuming she went to college right from high school that was so many years ago for a scammer to make some sort of connection and reach out to her. Did some scammer already have some fake profile of his and she messaged him and said something like "hey do you remember me from college"?

it sucks seeing friends get sucked into this but at the end of the day, she is likely going to believe in this boyfriend vs a friend trying to tell her otherwise.
Yes... I literally cannot get an answer about how they "reconnected". I think meeting him in the college was just kind of a "meet and greet" kind of a thing. As far as my research indicates, he didn't attend college. She just happened to MEET him somewhere at the college. Meeting a celebrity at a big college like Tennessee, yea that's not unusual especially with the big sporting events. They did not date or anything back then, it was literally just meeting him.

Any details about that meeting, if he cannot answer questions, easily chalked up to being 30+ years ago and having done tons of appearances. Any question you could google about his life, well the scammer has the same google you have. Any posts on his or his wife's social media is, well she controls the accounts and she is a liar. That explains the pictures of him and his wife having pictures on social media looking like a "happy couple".

DH says he is feeling as if we should back off and not intervene on this because she is just going to get mad. I think a true friend would lay this out for her and if she never speaks to us again, well at least we TRIED to save her from this disaster in progress instead of just letting it happen. I am also starting to believe that DH low-key is starting to believe this nonsense.
 

My son was recently sitting in the waiting area at the bank for a customer service rep.
In a 20 minute span, TWO elderly men came into to make transfers because of their internet celebrity romances.
The CS rep gently convinced both to go home and talk to the police and their children.
The CS rep told my son that they are dealing with this on a daily basis.

The bank had flyers printed up at each teller station to warn about these types of scams.

Our neighbor's mom lost over $200,000 to one of these scams.
They got very little help from law enforcement and they had a huge mess with the IRS to clean up.

Offer to bring your friend to the police station to "check-up on" their "date" so the cops can help intervene before it becomes a huge mess.
 
Complete scam. Obviously these scammers are so darn good that the banks are intervening. That is CRAZY!

She has had a traumatic last few years, which will wreak havoc on anyone physically and mentally. She was ripe for the scammers to pick! Vulnerable. So cruel.

As a friend, I would do anything I can to get her to see the truth. Not mincing words, it could ruin the friendship, but I would tell her it is a risk worth taking because you love and care for her too much to see her give all of her money away to scammers. See if you can find stories online about other scams like this, maybe even you can get lucky and find one with that celebrity. If she does cut you off, you will at least have peace in knowing you did the right thing.

I feel sorry for your friend. She is blinded by what she thinks is genuine, which is going to make it all the harder to get through. Keep trying. Hopefully in the end she will realize you were a true friend looking out for her well being.

Good luck.
 












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