Was this weird of my mom? Sitting by bedroom @ night

[minniecarousel]

I hope you don't hurt your shoulder patting yourself on the back.

WHOA! Really?

I read the same post and didn't get that impression at all. It sounds like a sweet memory, and how nice that she and her daughter enjoyed that time. Different strokes for different folks. (& I honestly don't remember my sons' bedtime routines.)

 

[sunshinehighway]

WHOA! Really?

I read the same post and didn't get that impression at all. It sounds like a sweet memory, and how nice that she and her daughter enjoyed that time. Different strokes for different folks. (& I honestly don't remember my sons' bedtime routines.)

It just rubbed me the wrong way. Especially the last line.

Oh well Kudos to the mom's and dads that take time to make their kids feel safe and sound each evening.

Not every kid needs or wants their parent/s cuddling with them to feel safe and sound. I read it like people who don't do that don't take the time to make their kids feel safe.

 

[crashbb]

It just rubbed me the wrong way. Especially the last line.



Not every kid needs or wants their parent/s cuddling with them to feel safe and sound. I read it like people who don't do that don't take the time to make their kids feel safe.

I have to admit - I read it they say way you did (especially that last line). I'll give her the benefit of the doubt that she didn't mean it that way.

 

[SaraJayne]

It just rubbed me the wrong way. Especially the last line.



Not every kid needs or wants their parent/s cuddling with them to feel safe and sound. I read it like people who don't do that don't take the time to make their kids feel safe.

I read it the same way and it seems others did as well, which would explain the response.

 

[Laura66]

I read it the same way as well!

 

[fortwildernessishome]

Heck I didnt read it like that at all!

All she said was something like, kudos, to the parents who make their child feel safe and sound at night. Why is that offensive?

Now if she wrote, kudos to all the parents who make their child feel safe and sound at night by laying with them in their room for 30 minutes every night and if you dont bother to do that for your child then you dont want to make them feel secure.

Personally, when I read responses like the ones from the "offended" posters I always think to myself that they need to get some self confidence in themselves and their parenting style.

Of course, I know by writing this, all the posters will most likely respond and say they are very confident in themselves.............but to them I say if you really were, you wouldnt have taken offense by the posters last sentance.

Do what you want/need to do for your child and feel good/comfortable with that. If you do, when others write about what they do it won't bother you!

 

[sunshinehighway]

Heck I didnt read it like that at all!

All she said was something like, kudos, to the parents who make their child feel safe and sound at night. Why is that offensive?

Now if she wrote, kudos to all the parents who make their child feel safe and sound at night by laying with them in their room for 30 minutes every night and if you dont bother to do that for your child then you dont want to make them feel secure.

Personally, when I read responses like the ones from the "offended" posters I always think to myself that they need to get some self confidence in themselves and their parenting style.

Of course, I know by writing this, all the posters will most likely respond and say they are very confident in themselves.............but to them I say if you really were, you wouldnt have taken offense by the posters last sentance.

Do what you want/need to do for your child and feel good/comfortable with that. If you do, when others write about what they do it won't bother you!

And I am supposed to be the one with the out of line comment?

As to the bolded, to me, that is exactly what the poster is saying with these comments.

I know as busy moms we could use that 20-30 mins to fold clothes, do dishes, read a news paper. But hearing your daughter talk to you about school, friends, and homework ended up being so much better.

My daughter never had a nightmare nor was she ever afraid of the dark. I wonder if having me near her each evening was a factor?

Oh well Kudos to the mom's and dads that take time to make their kids feel safe and sound each evening.

Take it as a whole and that's exactly what I see being said. It has nothing to do with my parenting skills or self confidence. It has to do with the holier than thou parenting judgement that is rampant here.

Btw, everyone has nightmares. Its ridiculous to believe your child has never had a nightmare.

 

[Hannathy]

Heck I didnt read it like that at all!

All she said was something like, kudos, to the parents who make their child feel safe and sound at night. Why is that offensive?

Now if she wrote, kudos to all the parents who make their child feel safe and sound at night by laying with them in their room for 30 minutes every night and if you dont bother to do that for your child then you dont want to make them feel secure.

Personally, when I read responses like the ones from the "offended" posters I always think to myself that they need to get some self confidence in themselves and their parenting style.

Of course, I know by writing this, all the posters will most likely respond and say they are very confident in themselves.............but to them I say if you really were, you wouldnt have taken offense by the posters last sentance.

Do what you want/need to do for your child and feel good/comfortable with that. If you do, when others write about what they do it won't bother you!

I agree completely with you.

 

[MichelleVW]

Nope, my mom never did it and neither did I. I read stories and tucked them into bed and then left.

 

[Callie]

Nope, my mom never did it and neither did I. I read stories and tucked them into bed and then left.

I don't remember stories being read to me. But I was a big reader at that age so maybe I was sick of books by bedtime.

I asked her tonight and she said she just did it for me because I liked it. She was also basically a single mom with two girls so I think she enjoyed spending time with us.