Was this the right thing to do??

[Skywalker]

But did you send your daughter to the event thinking she was not invited, or did you believe the "word of mouth" invitation for her? If you believed she was invited then why did you not believe you were invited? I think in all fairness since it is family, the girls are good friends, they attended your party, and assuming everyone is on good terms, that they likely just assumed the formality was not required as long as word got to you verbally that you were invited. And the word was given by the guest of honour herself! Then, you kind of intentionally short-changed them on the money. That's how I read it anyway.

I would have assumed I was invited and gone to the party, unless their daughter is a known pathological liar of course. LOL.

 

[doxdogy]

ITA. I would have called or just sent the same amount of money with your daughter.

=ChrisnSteph]I guess I'll be in the minority! The girls are friends, and adults. If the party was for cousin A, and cousin A told cousin B that they were invited, I would have followed up with cousin A's parents, and gone to the party. If I were cousin A, I would feel bad that cousin B's parents didn't come to my party when I told cousin B that they were all invited. I also would have given a little more than $50, especially if they gave my dd much more than that. I think it's just opened the door to future tension and conflict.[/QUOTE]

 

[TnKrBeLlA012]

But did you send your daughter to the event thinking she was not invited, or did you believe the "word of mouth" invitation for her? If you believed she was invited then why did you not believe you were invited? I think in all fairness since it is family, the girls are good friends, they attended your party, and assuming everyone is on good terms, that they likely just assumed the formality was not required as long as word got to you verbally that you were invited. And the word was given by the guest of honour herself! Then, you kind of intentionally short-changed them on the money. That's how I read it anyway.

I would have assumed I was invited and gone to the party, unless their daughter is a known pathological liar of course. LOL.

The reason my daughter went was because all the friends were going together. I'm the adult. I at least deserved an invitation. It would let me know time and place. It would also let me know if my younger children were invited. The money part I do feel guilty about. That has bothered me. This is one of the reasons I wrote the post. I needed to see what others thought. Thanks for the feedback.

 

[LoraJ]

But did you send your daughter to the event thinking she was not invited, or did you believe the "word of mouth" invitation for her? If you believed she was invited then why did you not believe you were invited? I think in all fairness since it is family, the girls are good friends, they attended your party, and assuming everyone is on good terms, that they likely just assumed the formality was not required as long as word got to you verbally that you were invited. And the word was given by the guest of honour herself! Then, you kind of intentionally short-changed them on the money. That's how I read it anyway.

I would have assumed I was invited and gone to the party, unless their daughter is a known pathological liar of course. LOL.

I agree with this. Sounds like the mom thought she had given a verbal invitation.