Was this odd? Would you do this?

[NMAmy]

Well, my ex and I separated because of his affair and, frankly, I doubt he'd have the guts to stop by my mom's house. He's not her favorite person.

However, you asked if I'd do this, and, well, yes I would. My in-laws live about 1.5 hours away and have given me strict instructions to stop by anytime I find myself in their town. They like me--my ex's stepmother detests him. When they're in our town, they stop by to take DH, DD, and I to dinner or just to visit. Sometimes announced--sometimes unannounced. They're dd's grandparents and we continue to consider them family.

 

[Poohnatic]

I agree with the others-sounds like life isn't so hot for him right now. The fact that the wife made sure they didn't stand next to each other really speaks to that being a tenuous marriage.

Had a similar situation with my ex-if he showed up on any family member's doorstep, he'd be sorry he did! Although at this point, I think only my brother lives in the same place-and they could both complain about me to each other.

Suzanne

 

[lindakmonty]

wow...what a weirdo!! He actually thinks he's welcome at their house? My mom wouldn't have let him in the door! My ex inlaws live close and we still talk regularly. They no longer speak to their son...my ex. He was unfaithful and abusive to me and our ds. They don't know all the details of coarse but they have the right to see their grandson and I'll never deprive them of that. Sounds like he must be having regrets but the problem is...ITS TOO LATE! Good luck and hope he stays away from you guys!

 

[Disney Doll]

Well, my ex and I separated because of his affair and, frankly, I doubt he'd have the guts to stop by my mom's house. He's not her favorite person.

However, you asked if I'd do this, and, well, yes I would. My in-laws live about 1.5 hours away and have given me strict instructions to stop by anytime I find myself in their town. They like me--my ex's stepmother detests him. When they're in our town, they stop by to take DH, DD, and I to dinner or just to visit. Sometimes announced--sometimes unannounced. They're dd's grandparents and we continue to consider them family.

That's slightly different because there are children involved and they are grandparents, and if they were good grandparents to your children, and good to you, there's no reason to punish them for the sins of their stupid son, right?

 

[NMAmy]

That's slightly different because there are children involved and they are grandparents, and if they were good grandparents to your children, and good to you, there's no reason to punish them for the sins of their stupid son, right?

Absolutely--I answered the question which was--"would you do this?" I also explained that my ex wouldn't stop by my mom's house. Sorry if I didn't make that clear.

 

[WDWfan36]

I agree with the others- very strange to me

 

[Obi-Wan Pinobi]

My first impression of the whole thing was he was checking to see if Lauri was available again but I thought that would be filed under "suspicious husband" thought.

Pretty weird because I could have sworn I've seen him drive by our house before but since we live so close to each other and there was a friend of his father's living in the same neighborhood I tried not to think too much of it..

 

[KristaTX]

Is Lauri's family one of those nice, fun families that people enjoy being around? If his past behavior is any indication, he sounds like a jerk who is probably miserable. Maybe he wanted to see some happy people and feel some sort of acceptance by someone (anyone). If her family is nice, he probably knew they'd give him a little time even if they hate what he did to Lauri.

 

[Kim&Chris]

This is just my opinion...but we all know the old saying "you never know what you have til it's gone".

Based on a similar personal experience, I'd bet her ex has met a bump in his own relationship, and has suddenly become nostalgic for the good 'ol days he had with Lauri (but was stupid enough to screw them up).

If he continues visiting her relatives, someone may need to tell him that these actions are not really acceptable.

 

[Nancyg56]

My guess, his marriage is in trouble and he is feeling nostalgic. He has probably "adjusted" history in his mind and thinks what he had with Lauri was great and he longs for the "good old days". Selective memory....

:

This is exactly what was going on in my mind. When someone "drops by " out of the blue, there is always a reason. An old aquaintance of my first DH showed up at my door drunk as a skunk, picked me up and smacked me dead on the lips. I did not even recognize him. Now my DH went outdoors to "wprk on the car" while this old "friend" told me how I needed to "get out more"o turns out he was seeing an old classmate of mne who was married, and he thought that I would be a great alibi.

Trust me....this guy is up to something.


Hope that Lauri is having a nice time with her Mom and is feeling better.