The meal comes in stages, or waves. First the salad, bread, veggies, rice, etc. arrives. Then, servers bring around huge skewers of meat to your table. They will put a few pieces on your plate each time the come by. One time they will have the steak, next pork, then chicken , then shrimp. (not alwyas that order, and sometimes they have more than one kind with them) You can ask for refills of the rice, veggies, etc. at any time. At the end, the bring the pineapple. I think there might have been ice cream or something else for dessert for our 6yo who won't eat fruit, can't remember.
If it turns out halfway through the meal that your dd won't like the food, ask your server if you can place a *to go* order for food from Kona, that you can just pick up on the way out of Ohana's after your meal. The entrance to both restaurants is right next to each other, and you can always check out the menu before you go in to Ohana's. Of course, she might not like anything there either, but they do have a children's menu that she might like. If all else fails, Captain Cook's is directly beneath Ohana's and is open 24 hours. It has all the usual stuff, sandwiches, single pizzas, cookies, fruit, chips, hotdogs, hamburgers, etc. Would you feel comfortable having her leave you in Ohana's eating and go down to Capt Cook's herself? (my dd is 6yo, I can't imagine ever letting her go anywhere by herself yet! Maybe when she is 15 I'll be able to....maybe? LOL)
The good news is there is really no waiting for food at Ohana's. It comes and keeps coming. Your dd won't have to wait too long until you are full and ready to go...and there is entertainment with the coconut races and all!